I'm so confuse I'm not able to choose want i actually want

I'm really sorry that you are in a difficult situation and I can understand how hard it must be. It's tough to move on from a relationship, even with reasons. And it's okay to be confused, it's normal.

But I'm glad that you reach out and want to talk about it, talking definitely helps. Feel free to find any active listener available and talk.

Could try The Work by Byron Katie. Or affirmations. Or beating the crap out of your bed with a broom.

Sometimes we need to punt the more surface feelings across the field to allow us to hear the deeper ones.

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hi there, I read this earlier. I did not respond as I am dealing with some issues myself. But, if it's toxic and something is telling you this isn't right, just stay away. I know it's not easy especially if lonely or you want someone in your life. But I feel it's the only way I can get ahead right now. A toxic relationship will not allow me to live my life while loving myself. If I love myself, I don't want to be with someone who is not nice to me or take advantage of me or not compatible. Even if it wasn't intentional of them but I don't have the time and energy. I gave them my time and energy and they completely bailed on me when I "needed" them to be there. In reality I do not really need him, but I was counting on him to be there for something and he wasn't. Speaking for myself, I don't need that in my life. I am better off alone. Seriously don't waste your time, you already know it's toxics, so think about how this is going to end long-term. What would happen if you spend years of your life or months in a situation like this? Do you think you would want that for yourself, and the other person? What are your goals and how do they align with this person?

I do hope this helps you decide

@sensitiveSea3078 I'm lost too, life is hard and I don't know where I'm going

@sensitiveSea3078

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

I am working through similar struggles. It is not easy.

@sensitiveSea3078

Hey, I'm sorry to hear that you are in such as difficult situation. I understand how you feel and how hard it can be for you. A toxic relationship is bad on your mental as well as physical health and it may be the case that when you are ready, it's better to leave.

@sensitiveSea3078

I am also in a similar situation. It's a very frustrating, confusing, and all-consuming place to be.

You want to stay, you care about the person, but you also want to get out because you care about you. There are good qualities, there are bad qualities. There are way too many questions and uncertainties.

Just know you aren't alone with this confusion.