Need advice
I'm a 30 year old Indian woman living in Europe for the past four years. I moved to Germany recently and been having a hard time dating German men. All the dates I've been on have been great. The men pay for the dates always which is something that doesn't happen in Germany often, they open doors and be all gentlemanly. They love talking to me and my dates have been hours long sometimes. But they don't lead to anything one way or other.
Recently I matched with this guy who's 23 years old. I usually don't go on dates with guys that young and so was skeptical but he was kind and gentle and when we met we actually had a good time. We spent six hours together and he came and waited ay the train station to send me off. We met day before yesterday, I took him to an indian restaurant and despite silly me leaving my purse at home, he paid for the food and took me to a brewery after too. I felt comfortable with him, we waited at the train station for me again. I went to his city twice which is half an hour from my city and since he said he hasnt been to my city, I asked him he could come here next time and it would be my treat since he paid for me all these times and I haven't heard from him he did text me last week before we made plans that he will be busy this weekend but still just confirming plans wouldn't take so long isn't it? Or am I being paranoid? 😅
Maybe he’s just busy - because it’s so new the investment and priority level for this mug he be less important to him than established friendships or work or community gatherings/plans- not to say that you aren’t important but rather just for now you may be too new.
Give it some more time maybe he will be less busy and text and make plans !
he Sounds nice and I hope he texts and if he doesn’t c that’s okay too it is not a reflection of your worth!
@intelligentCar2417
Im curious. When you say the dates don't lead to anything, one way or another, what exactly are you hoping they will lead to?
I don't think you say. Of course you don't have to. You don't have to share anything here you don't want to. But it does seem like you have an expectation of something. And I wonder if you are communicating that expectation. Maybe they expect something different? It's a bit clichéd but the secret to relationships is clear communication. And I've learnt myself that hints and hopes are not clear communication and only lead to frustration.
If you are already discussing expectations and things are still not working out, then, I don't know, I guess I can't help you.
Nice to hear that you are meeting nice people, though. It sounds like you are doing well at meeting people you get along with.