Nobody is interested in me and it sucks
Hi there all,
I'm a 24 year-old guy and I'm currently living a good life where I also go to socialize atleast twice a week. I always expected better from myself but seems like girls just don't feel interested in me.
It's when often I make them enjoy my company so much, I make them laugh and enjoy the whole interaction so much, and I also bond well with people around me. I make some really good friends too.
I just don't understand it. My cousins and relatives always told me when I was around 14, that I won't find a partner because I'm not cool and trendy, and seems like that's what's happening.
I also got rejected when I expressed my feelings to someone who was super-fond of me otherwise. Somehow, something seems to be so bad about me that nobody forms romantic feelings for me. Not even interest.
I just don't understand how things are like this when I'm not physically unattractive, often a social butterfly, nice and kind to everyone and passionate about so many of my hobbies.
@theLakeReturns Hi there...You do sound like an amazing person!!...Yes,I may not be the right person to talk to this about but I can send you a very helpful article that is directly for people who feel the same way that you do...While you wait for the right listener, please try to be a bit more kind to yourself and know that You are simply AMAZING
@M6060
Thanks a lot for your kind words! I really appreciate it. An article would be really helpful too. If you have the link to it, please do share it with me
@theLakeReturns...
Okay...please message me here for a 1-1 chat, Just to avoid misunderstandings... there's something I want to understand before sending you the article and I do not want to make you feel uncomfortable in any way so I shall not ask you on this platform...There are a couple of articles with different topics discussed and understanding better will help determine which one is more suitable...
@theLakeReturns
Having someone interested in you romantically is not just like making friends .... you sound like you are doing well friends and socially but have not found the person who will develop feelings for you.
sometimes it takes time for girls to realize to look at you that way... it is not about looks or being trendy... it is about connecting on a different level- something that just clicks... I do not think anyone can MAKE it happen ....
@toughTiger6481
You are right. It can't be forced
@dukeofdearham
This is a good point. Though I feel it shouldn't be this way because from what I have experienced, I am able to really be my authentic self in these places. So I hope I have never come across as desperate. And I always like to enjoy my time there genuinely so I hope it appears genuine too
You sound like such a great person! I think it’s great how you’re so confident about yourself, it’s a very good trait to have. It may take long but I’m sure that one day you’ll find the one for you! In the meantime why not try a dating app like *** so you can be sure that the other person wants to be in a romantic relationship? Hope you can find someone bro!
@Katsuddon
Thanks a lot for your kind words. I will definitely try other things too
@theLakeReturns Hi, buddy! I can imagine how frustrating and confusing it must be for you to feel this way.
@Lilishere
Thanks a lot for your kind words and a practical advice. I really appreciate it and thanks for all the encouragement
You’re not alone. Other people experience this with dating well into their 20’s too. I’d talk to a close friend about it bc maybe they have insight since they know you well. There’s not anything wrong with you except meeting the wrong people for you. I think there’s someone for you and the more no’s the closer you are to a yes. I suggest being friends with women before you date them but don’t befriend them just because you want to date them. you could ask your friends to hook you up if they have friends who might be interested. As someone 37 been in relationships, I value friendship equally. I currently find friendship more fulfilling after so many heartbreaks.
@ivoryPrune9522
You have made some really good points. I come from a background where I never got to talk to girls much, when I was younger. Nowadays, I am starting to be friends with many women around me, and equally enjoying their friendships as well. Thanks for everything you've said