I've hurt the feelings bordeline friend who may be in love with me, how can I fix it?
I've known this boy for a very long time. He started to show some interest on me many years ago but I didn't like him and I was dismissive. Then he started making up stories about girlfriends who just didn't exist. I don't know he's actually bordeline, but he must be very depressed or something like that, and I'm not in the position to suggest visiting a counselor. I've been dating another boy for 3 years; I hope that he would feel better growing up but apparently he's still "dating" ghost girlfriends. How can I help, without making him think that I want to be more than friends with him?
@beehive199x just try to be sensetive to his feelings and maybe try talking to him if you can
I had this happen when I was in highschool. My best friend tried to get me to break up with my boyfriend of many years to get with him. I always shot him down and he was very sad about it but we remained friends he dated many other people so obviously he could live just fine without me. Youth is a funny thing there are going to be many times you have to hurt someone without meaning to. But you need to be firm don't give false hope you need to keep it clear. Even if you have to come out and say its not going to happen. Obviously yes try to be sensitive don't make then feel like a burden or anything beating around the bush never solves anything.
And so what if he has a few girls who may or may not be made up you should focus on your own relationship rather than what the other does with his free time. Eventually they will run into someone they want to be with you shouldn't feel guilty over your own happiness.
I've moved your thread to Relationship Questions.
