I don’t know what to do
Hey everyone! If you anyone could give me some advice on this, that would be appreciated!!
im currently in a year long relationship with my boyfriend. (D) We’ve been happy and doing well. In my theatre program I am involved in there is another dude (E) who I find attractive as well. I have never acted on it as I know this is wrong and felt it was only in passing. Last year, I had definitely felt something was there when we would interact and this caused me to seriously think about things with D and if I wanted to continue. However, I still cared and enjoyed the time I spent with D which was enough to out rule the feelings with E. It also helped that I didn’t have much contact with E after the program was over for the season so these feelings faded. Now, the new season is in full swing and me and E have even more time together during rehearsals and scenes. These feelings for E have quickly come back and it does not feel like they will leave anytime soon. The other issue with this is that the season will not be over again until December so I still have a while to deal with these feelings and there is no way I’m able to avoid E. The other issue is that me and E’s characters in this show are romantically involved so there are things involving that which are not helping this problem either. As these feelings resolved last year and I didn’t talk to D about them last year until I was sure, (I know not to make any advances with E while in a relationship) I would like to do the same now as it is even more tricky. This was something I thought a lot about and worried about last year and I have a feeling it will be no different this time around as it is already starting to happen
I wouldn’t sabotage a relationship that’s going well just because of a physical attraction to someone it sounds like you don’t really know extremely well. You should spend more time with D and make sure you guys really understand and appreciate and love each other so you can remind yourself what it is you like about your relationship with D.
@bubbleTown9145
Only you know deeply about your feelings ....
D and you in a relationship for about a year... you have connection and feelings .. do you see a future there
Now for E in class you obviously share a same passion about theater and perhaps a physical attraction? or is your connection more? ... we do not get to pick our feelings sometimes perhaps we have a great person in our life and they meet all our ideas but no spark ........we want there to be but it is not happening.
you found a spark with E but maybe on an everyday level you would not be compatible.
think down the road ... will you wonder "what if " about E and if that spark would have ignited ....... or if you went with E how long until you miss what you had with D ?
I believe people come into or even back into our lives to make us think or learn about ourselves maybe this is one of those times.
As I reflect further, I feel like I am loosing feelings a lot for D. It’s almost starting to feel like an attachment to D more then anything, which only confuses me more.
@bubbleTown9145
i used to watch movies and the girl or guy would run off or end up with someone i thought why would they chose them??? ...
it was only later did i see in feelings......... just because you were in a relationship and have a history ... does not mean you have to stay ...... you know how you feel ... if you are loosing feelings and not the same as it was before ... do you and him a favor and move on.
