I don’t know what to do
So me and my bf been together for 2 years and we have discussed about having kids and getting married before and I told him straight up what I wanted and if he didn’t think it would be possible then we should break up before any of us catch any more feelings and we was able to work things out well today we discussed it again and he told me how he don’t see his self getting married or having kids anytime soon and that he prob won’t until probably 5-6 years have passed. He told me his feeling and the harsh truth which I appreciate it and understand. I wish this was told earlier on since now I can’t really see myself without him. I can’t decide if I should stay with him but give up something I’ve been wanting for a long time and wait a couple more years. Or if I should give him up and find someone who wants the same I want. I want to accept his conditions but it really hurts. I told him to allow me time to think because I needed advice on this matter. This is really a big decision in my life. (Ps. I’m not trying to have one just yet also)
@persistentJar149, I understand that you're feeling hurt and confused about wanting kids while your partner thinks it's too soon. It's normal to feel disappointed and confused if you should stay, or find someone new. I understand you care about your partner and I'm glad you were empathetic and appreciated them sharing their preferences with you. How would you like to move forward from here?
Idk I want to stay and I’m tryna compromise but he said no even when it was 1 year off from the age he said. He keeps switching the numbers. It’s like he’s not tryna make this work it’s either his way if no way. At this point I just don’t feel like in the person who he wants a life with.
I’m not sure on your alls financial situation or if this applies at all. However I do know the pressure of wanting and being expected to start a family. I haven’t quite got to this point with my current GF. I do know I want us to be a family and have kids. Now we are quickly approaching that and I am getting more and more nervous. I am not at a point financially to support a family as I am a business owner and financially with everything going on it has been slow. We haven’t had this conversation but I could see from a man’s stand point how it could get pushed off if this was a factor. Maybe try speaking to him of why his mind has changed or what his reasoning is. As it might not be a factor for you it could be for him. Again, not saying this is a factor but maybe communicating your concern would reveal a minor issue you could help him get past to better both of your goals. Hope this was helpful.