Im exhausted about being judged by everyone
In new here , but , I cannot vent out without anybody , I get nervous cause , i feel like everybody is judging . Well , i broke up with my ex like 2 months ago , but , we’re yet in love ( the relation ship get a bit toxic , cause , both we were not in a good point of each one lives ) I feel at first freedom , I talked w boys , but everyone it’s not enough to me . My ex and I talked like 3 days ago , about missing so much each other , and , we’re trying to get another opportunity, but my family discover that and they didn’t like the notice , telling that to everyone of my family , feeling embarrassed and upset, cause , it’s my life , and , if I make a mistake , at least , I take the mistake with courage cause , I’m feeling like home again . I think he’s my soulmate , we both know since too much years ( 1 year and 5 months of relationship ) but , he’s like my best friend but with the sexual attraction . Both do bad things ( no cheating ) but , some insults … or bad words . I just want to stay in a good relation ship with him , as he too , both feeling calm and happy. But , my family didn’t help , I feel exhausted , like , everyone judge without knowing how I feel first .
@eleanorchaos
Your family only judge because they care.
And they witnessed the insults and the toxicity.
They have your best interests at heart.
It is your life but if you both have learnt and really love each other, then the second time round, be different and prove everyone wrong .
Be kind.
Be loving.
Be respectful.
I wish you both the genuine best.
💜💕
@eleanorchaos
Hello Eleanor, nice to meet you, I'm Kitty!
I would like to start by saying, welcome to 7 Cups, and thank you for having the strength to reach out here about your situation. That is a really big step that you should truly be proud of!
Feeling nervous about judgment can be quite frustrating, especially when we feel isolated and alone in a time of uncertainty. I'm truly sorry to hear that your family is judging you, rather than treating you with the kindness and compassion you deserve.
Dealing with a breakup can be quite difficult, especially when our feelings for the person have not yet diminished. It can leave us yearning for the flame to be rekindled, even if we know that it was a toxic situation in the first place.
I'd like to assure you that YOUR feelings are valid! Try not to let other people's judgment cloud your view of your own values, hopes, dreams, and desires.
Here at 7 Cups, several "listeners" have been well-trained in active listening. They cannot provide you with advice or suggestions. However, they CAN provide you with a safe, compassionate, judgment-free space to feel heard and supported. A place where you can go when your feeling really low and alone. Or when you're feeling frustrated with life, and don't know what to do. And it's also a place you can go when you're really excited about life and want to tell someone about it!! They are here to listen. They are here to help guide you on your own journey. And they are here to remind you tha you are amazing and you deserve to be treated kindly!
I actually haaappen to have a listener account myself, I'm just currently not on it at the moment. But you can find my profile here: https://www.7cups.com/@PhoenixKitty92Listens
Feel free to reach out anytime!! And I hope you find the guidance you seek here from the loving community at 7 Cups!
Blessed Be and Well met! Please take care.