Not sure how to move forward
Last year my husband of 29yrs decided to start liking, following and talking to other women online. I thought we were working through it but last month I came across the messages between him and 2 of the women. He was discussing meeting up for possible sex. He holds steady of not remembering these messages or these women. He is in therapy to work on himself and he wants to work on our marriage. BUT...I dont know how I can deal with him messaging the other women, saying the things he did to them and looking to have sex with them. He said he never did anything physical but all of the above cuts deep!! But if he "cant remember" the messaging how can I be sure he never physically cheated??? This time frame was at this time last year and looked to have went on for 6plus weeks. How do I move forward from this betrayal? Im not sure if i can ever be intimate with him again not knowing what he was doing before and if he would be thinking of other women or me.
@Sunshine927
I'm sorry this happened to you.
Trust is hard to rebuild.
But not impossible.
It's important that you are completely honest with your feelings.
And you dont let him scrape it under the rug.
You have to decide if you too want to put the work in 💖
@Sunshine927
Of course, he remembers but does not want to talk or explain it to you. it is hard to tell someone you care for you are unhappy.
Sometimes because it can be hurtful to tell someone they chat with others to feel something that is missing. If you thought, you were working through something and are surprised perhaps you wanted to believe all was fixed but did not see you both are Not feeling it was working. Are you prepared to hear the whatever he thinks is not working.
I am glad he is working on himself as we cannot change others. Maybe he can address how he feels that would lead to chatting with others. Perhaps couples counseling would help after he is ready to share honestly. It does not change until you get down to the real reasons or what is going on in your own relationship. No one sees how a couple is deep down....... other than the people in that relationship. Sometimes people do not even see it in the relationship.
Ask yourself do you connect both emotionally and physical. In many couples one person acts like they did not see their partner was not happy or feeling listened to or wanted or appreciated.
Punishment or holding back emotionally or physically will not fix things it will only push him away.
You need to embrace yourself with love those narcs gonna make you loose yourself. You heal once you're away from them. It hurts to see that you don't know your partner
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I don't know what's wrong with such "people" I got something similar, dating apps *** followers, I need support cause I'm feeling bad but instead of supporting me he was busy playing games and following. That's crazy OMG I hope someday they can feel how painful it is.
I don't know what's wrong with such "people" I got something similar, dating apps *** followers, I need support cause I'm feeling bad but instead of supporting me he was busy playing games and following. That's crazy OMG I hope someday they can feel how painful it is.
You are not required to force forgiveness, intimacy, or “moving on” just because time has passed or because he wants to work on things.