The past
How did you accept the past of your partner and you were able to move forward , and to not make the past a problem ( I can’t get over my partner past ) it makes me so uncomfortable to think of him with another girl .. and i wish i can know how to not stress and overthink about it
@hardworkingDrum2863
Everyone has a past.
I guess, it's up to you, to ask yourself the honest question, do you want him, do you love him enough to just enjoy what you have now and stop holding yourself back.
You need to make a quick decision, to stop causing you hurt!
💜💕
I love him so much , i dont want anything to get between us especially a past that doesn’t exist
I think I understand how you feel. My partner has a pretty different history in relationships, and it feels like that history might be more intimate than I feel comfortable with. It makes me uncomfortable to think of them being with someone in that way, and doing the things with them that I would want to be special to us
But you know what…
That past is ultimately what has defined them and brought them to you. Instead of imagining them with someone else, focus on the person in front of you, and that ultimately they chose to be with you.
It might not totally remove those thoughts, but maybe it’ll help ease that burden a bit from your heart. You deserve to love and be loved. Don’t let someone’s past, which they may actually regret and struggle with too, get in the way of you both being happy.
At least that’s how I feel, and even though it’s still hard for me to push past and totally not thinking about it is not likely to happen, I also don’t want to get so caught up in that thought that I miss the beauty that is happening with us here and now
We had a conversation about this openly ,and i realised that our thoughts are like cloud they passing by , we should not care about each cloud that pass in the sky (our mind) he said instead of thinking about those people that they absolutely moved on with their lives and stress over them we should look on our future together if we want to add something or we change something, he said im all yours i did mistake you are the one and since i choosed you this mean i have just one place in my heart which is for you . Us women sometimes we overreact but just because we love the person and we compare ourselves but we just need the right reassurance and i think i got it today , im the one , im the present and no one can take my place , because if the past was important no one will move on and try to find better and better , since i came from the future this mean the past wasn’t good , and i think no one will want to go back to it . Im beautiful and amazing this is how i thought and i should bring the best to him that this girl or whatsoever couldn’t give him in the past
@hardworkingDrum2863 It can definitely be stressful and uncomfortable to think about a partners past. But it is important to remind ourselves that it’s the past - and if there are no current red flags it’s likely stress due to over thinking (I do lots of that). Have you tried talking with your partner more about it?
Hi
Most of not all people you will ever meet will have a past.
Id ask what about their past specifically is affecting them and hence the relationship. I.e. they are not touch with their ex or worse still in love with them
With detail there seems to be something under the surface than he has an ex , most people do and that shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable.
Have you had a prior relationship ?
Depending on the issues I feel maybe you need to explore more your feels about why his past is an issue to try get over it .
Hope it helps .take care