Looking for some advice
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 years. Over time we have learned a lot about each other and ourselves, love languages specifically. I love verbal reassurance! And he knows it, but isn’t a very verbal person. He likes to show his love rather than say it. I try to suggest ways he can try verbal reassurance every once in a while to keep things new and fresh! Well, he doesn’t take my suggestions very well. I sent him a video a saw on social media of this couple and the man was telling his woman how much he loved every part of her body inside and out and how much he appreciated her. They were sitting in their car and the camera is pointed at her and not him. I sent this to him saying “awwww this is so cute” and he responded saying “to me, stuff like this is fake. Why were they recording it anyway? This type of stuff only happens on camera”. He responds this way every time I try to suggest something for him. It seems that what I’m asking for is out of his reach and I’m not sure how to talk to him about it or bring it to his attention that he is only thinking negatively about this.
@wittyCranberry6510
Hello , I understand how you must be feeling when your boyfriend doesn't express his love verbally and is almost cold to your subtle hints too .
I get why you may be confused thinking how to get him to talk and say it out loud , maybe tell him directly that you'd like some verbal reassurance and expression sometimes too or maybe be the first one to express things , and then he might follow ?
I hope it works out for you both. ❤
I too am a “words of assurance” love language. I think when you suggested the video, it was a little vague for him. You need to follow up with more being more direct. “I know this video may be fake, but it makes my heart melt and I would love if you said things like this to me. It is just an example, fake or not”