Lack of Breasts
hello everyone. My name is Ramatulai and I'm 15. Now I know everyone here will probably say your young, there is no need to worry. At 15 I am 5'5 and I'm pretty skinny you can say. I got my period when I was 10, and I remember thinking, "yes boobs will come". But 5 years later I am still the same size as when I had started puberty. I'm not even an A cup, and all my friends who I complain to about lack of breasts day, they're not important or guys don't care or you're just a late bloomer. Of course they can say that because they ate all A cups and bigger. I dont this anyone else had an idea of how much this annoys me. I cant wear anything without thinking m my breasts are small. I'm not asking for C cups, an A cup would be nice. Literally every girl in my school has bigger boobs than me and I am.not lying or exaggerating. I'm not sure if there was a reason why I have small boobs. I do remember when I was 12 I stopped eating a lot because my mom made me feel overweight. I still don't eat all that often. If anyone has advice I appreciate it. Thank you
@DaughterofHades
It is very brave of you to say that you have insecurities about your body. I can only talk for myself but I haven't talked any other girl in all my years that is not insecure about her body. For me personally, its the other way round. I was the bigger girl growing up. I remember being at a sleepover with my cousins and they could all fit comfortably on the mattress on the floor but I couldn't sleep with them because I was bigger. I was 10 at the time and did lots of dancing but I was already at the largest size for girls clothes before I had to go in the extra small sizes for women.
I was also the bigger but not fat girl in high school but it wasn't until we were talking about German women in history that it clicked. I have the body of a German women and that is my hertiage. I don't have the body that my society considers ideal but I learned that over time that the magazine depict that all women should be one size but everyone is different.
I later surrounded myself with people who see beauty as being skin deep not the way I look and I would recommend that to you. Look for things that you like about yourself that isn't about your body for example, your personality, your compassion.
I bet you even the models in the magazine feel just as insecure as everyone else.
Hope that helps
@SandyM thank you for telling me your story. Its hard for me to wake up every morning without hating my breasts. I sometimes tell myself that maybe I was meant to be a guy. I also try and tell myself that I'm still growing but its just.....hard
The number 1 cause of underdeveloped breasts is malnutrition. Eat protein rich foods and drink milk or papaya juice often, as those help with development. It's likely you'll grow after eating more well balanced meals.
@Tempesta
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@Tempesta
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@Tempesta [Edited by forum TS MelAllyouneedislove] breast size is mostly genetic.
@Tempesta [Edited by forum TS MelAllyouneedislove] It's really offensive to tell people "oh, you're some starving malnutrutioned POS and that's why you're like this". NO. There are fat people that have a small cup size, and skinny people with a big size, and everything in between, [...].
Maybe if the world would get their nose out of all that porn, maybe they'd realize that there are healthy, but downtrodden, AAs out there who are crying out for the same amount of love that "normal" boooby cleavagey women receive.
I think shutting down another member is uncalled for. Now, in my experience. I was like you, Kiddo. 15, not even an A. I'm of Indian descent, and my family is quite petite, so I figured it was along those lines. we ate super healthy foods because my dad is diabetic and needs a low sugar, low sodium diet and it's easier to cook for him and all of us the same way. I bumped up to an A when I was college because of the food I was eating. I was eating more balanced, more meat. And maybe it was just my time, hormone wise, since I was a late bloomer period-wise. I'm not sure. But if you're Indian, and even if not. Take a serious look at your heritage and diet together. It was the case for me, and I'm an "anomaly". But maybe you are too? No idea. But you'll get there.
After thought--but is your thyroid health alright? My younger sister got her breasts and period super early because of a thyroid issue. It could also be the other way around, I wager. Hormones. Fickle things.
Then again, you're only 15. I don't think there's a cause for alarm. Just a factor to consider.
@WickedGrim Wow. Just wow. Just...I'm guessing you never heard of genetics either? Also, yeah, there's a such thing as late bloomers, that doesn't make your diet-theory true. Also, just because the OP is 15 doesn't mean I'm also 15, idk who you were referring to.
@Alystem
I'm not talking to you, I'm addressing the poster. She's mentioned that she's "just 15". And I'm not one to go about scaring her about thyroid issues since it's unlikely at her age, as I'm not doctor and neither are you. But unlike you, I'm angling to help her by stating my experiences in the hope that maybe it could help.
As a more petty aside, I was thinking of saying..but refrained. Here it is though:
It seems you, Alystem have some deep-seated resentment and angst about being flat. But rather than be confident in yourself and maintain a positive or constructive body image or try to; you blame porn, the world, society, girls with cleavage etc. You're 18 years old, not a child, yes, but you have yet more to see and experience, and a lot to learn about loving your own image.
I don't know your life, I don't know what's got you so jaded, but this is a site about support and healing. So far I've seen you do nothing but shut down members while on your own tirade.
I'm going to kindly ask that you angle your commentary to be a bit more conscientious. You never know who may take what you say to heart.
On that note, I hope I haven't put you off the site and wish you luck in sorting out that which is bothering you too, as I'm noting a lot of stress. I'm here to talk should you so desire.
Good day.
@WickedGrim Yeah, I've always been too depressing, just throw me away like everyone else did. k
@Alystem
Blaming me won't help either, love. Nor am I throwing you away, I'm here to talk if you want. You want. Your call. I'm here.
@WickedGrim Come on, be honest. Hyper-realistic, unsugarcoated viewpoints are not welcome anywhere, and I get it. I get it. It's just I'm past the point where mere words are going to erase what I have to see everyday everywhere in every society, internet and non-internet...but it still affects me too much to NOT vent about it.
@Alystem
@Alystem
I don't sugarcoat my words and neither do you--but the problem is that the words you're using aren't necessarily describing a healthy perspective, which may be why you're getting feedback contrary to what you expect. I get where you're coming from, but not exactly..I was bullied at 12 for being flat. Rammed into lockers and have a scar in my back..BECAUSE I lacked breasts. Isn't that ridiculous? Kids are dumb sometimes. At 14-16 I went off on tirades as well, about poor me, poor me..I'm a flawed creature because society mandates I need boobs to be pretty..and I'd resent and frown down upon other women and girls as being slutty..because they had cleavage. Flaunting it in my face "perpetuating" the idea that women need breasts to be beautiful. I pinned the blame on so much yet also would get all arrogant and try to name all the ways that my chest was superior--and put down my busty friends instead. That just wasn't right. It was a big old circle of hurt.
That whole view I just mentioned is so very unhealthy..you poison yourself and start to shred your confidence to ribbons. People don't wanna be around you. It makes you feel worse and because you feel worse, you keep on. I feel like that's where you are...but again, I don't know your life. The reason I tell you all this is because I feel like you're sick and tired of hearing the same "have confidence" "good guys are out there" spiel. So I gave you the non sugar coat brashness. ...Even though I do have to say that with a healthier perspective, the good things do seem to follow.
@WickedGrim Well what am I supposed to do? Believe something just to make myself happy? Or believe what the evidence points to? I'm just far too much a skeptic to just snap my fingers and be happy. I'll believe something happy when I see it.
I'm already too far gone, I was even as a kid.
@WickedGrim
ever since I was 10, which was the age I got my period, I've been getting it every two weeks. I'm not sure if that has an affect with my breasts growth
@Tempesta
Interesting! I have never heard this before. Do you have any research to support the claim? I am not doubting it, just super curious! Thanks for sharing.
@Kayleethereforyou Well that was kinda insensitive to reality. And why post on an old thread??
@Alystem
I think there is some confusion here. I am asking her to support the claim that malnutrition leads to smaller breast size. Mainly because I am small chested, and I eat super healthy! So I was just curious where this idea came from.. or what it is based off of. That is why I posted to the old thread! I apologize if you feel I was insensitive to you! I truly did not mean anything by it!
I would like to say that I am 18 and I can relate to your situation. I am less than A as well and I still struggle so much with being inferior, less than a "real woman", unlovable, etc. I hope you find your way in this cold, cruel world.
I'm just as small as you! And I know how frustrating it is to hear people say it's not a big deal or that you're just a late bloomer. It is a big deal to you and you're scared you may never grow!
I'm 24 and I never grew. And it took me a really long time to be okay with myself. I had to figure out a style that worked best for me and how to embrace my small chest rather than trying to make it look bigger, and it sort of became fun putting together a wardrobe of shirts with little straps and thin fabrics and buttons and prints etc that I wouldn't be comfortable wearing if I was bustier. And I was seeing a guy earlier this year who was the first person I was ever sexually active with. He was obsessed with my body. Truly, people just have different preferences and there are plenty of guys out there who will not only put up with your body, but would adore it.
You've just gotta find a silver lining. You may not grow any bigger, but there are lots of ways to work toward being happy with yourself. I feel your struggle, girl.
@Ss51691 Are the guys that claim to be into that body type..are they all just pump and dump kinda guys or what? Because I don't think a guy will ever love a AA for the rest of their life. It's getting so hopeless. It's already impossible to find love, a million times more impossible to keep it.
I'm 18 and have never dated. It sucks seeing all the cleavagey women being all normal and happy and loved...ugh, life.
I've never heard the term "pump and dump" haha. My mom was just as small as me before she had kids (now she's a full blown A cup! Woo!) and she and my dad have been married for 35 years. The guy I dated was a great guy and we broke up because of the distance. It had nothing to do with appearances, at least not that I know. They're out there! I think when guys get a couple years removed from high school, they realize a boob is a boob whether it's big or small or oddly shaped or whatever haha.
@Ss51691 You make a very good point. Boys my age are very immature, so there is hope I guess that someone special may like them because.....boobs!!
Well..until you see how much cheating, failed marriages, and porn there is these days...I'm losing hope for my generation.
You don't want the kind of guy that loves for breasts. I've found that my small bust size has helped me filter out a lot of unsavory characters-and I'm grateful! I know I wouldn't have been angle to handle the flirtations and cat calls my busty friends were getting.
In college when I got a bit bigger (from AA to A) my confidence took a swell, and well--even though I was still small, I attracted a lot of interesting, intellectual fellows. Not all of em were gems, mind you..but. Don't give up. Confidence was key in my circumstance.
Wouldn't have been able*
@WickedGrim No straight male says "meh" to breasts. And from your example it's clear that flat women are still unlovable in 2015. :'(
@Alystem
I object to your use of "no straight male" as it is an extreme. I don't know what kind of men are in your life or what kind of people you surround yourself with..but I suggest a change of venue if it's at all possible. I have mainly guy friends..and am currently in the 8th year of my relationship with a fabulous guy. I really don't feel like detailing my personal life on here to prove it to you, nor do I think that's right...as it comes across as arrogance. Just know, good guys are out there.
@Ss51691 Thank you. It is extrememly frustrating being the only female with small breasts in my family. Sometimes i cry about it because nothing ever seems to look nice on me and i was teased for having small breasts in the 7th grade. I do want to not think about it and just be comfortable with it
I'm so sorry. No one should have to feel that way about themselves. I know it feels like a huge deal now, and middle and high school are really hard for a lot of people when it comes to self-image. Can I ask if there are other things about your appearance you really do like?
@Ss51691 I kind of like my long legs. I'm 5'5 and i do like my butt, lol. But that's realy the only thing i like about my appearence
There is nothing you have done and nothing much you can do to change what nature has given you. Some people like to go for expensive implants, but oh if only we lived in a world where our lack of size was NOT a flaw that needed to be "fixed"! Jeez.
This is actually a topic that has caused me more and more stress over time. It's like the universe hates me.
And if you ever find the secret to being happy with this "flaw", then let me know.
Buy pretty lingerie that fits well and isn't padded (it exists! You just have to hunt) and wear it every day. Even if no one else sees it. I started doing that a couple years ago and it made me feel so sexy. Like, dammit I'm a woman and my boobs look amazing.
I'm sure lots of the females that use this site because they're having problems may well be busty. Breast size has nothing to do with being loved.
You'll be loved for yourself, regardless of your flaws, differences, or the size of your chest.
Having a cleavage isn't a fix all path to happiness.
Certainly not. If it was, I'd never have a chance at happiness lol. But changing the way you see your body can be equally as helpful in building your self-esteem as realizing all the other great things about yourself. At least it was for me. There's a lot of ingredients to happiness. I was never as happy thinking "I'm unsatisfied with my body but I'm a good person" as I am thinking "I'm a worthwhile person and I have love for my body."
Because people with cleavage are ungrateful for their attractiveness.
They have their own battles.
@braveSugar7964
I love this post. Definitely true. I think it is silly to say that just because a woman is busty she is automatically more attractice. Women are attractive for different reasons; not just breast size. Also there is a psychological study that states confidence is a big thing in regards to attraction. Thanks for sharing.
Yeah except no, they're wayyy too expensive. ($50+ each!!) I've thought about making my own, but...meh. I just wish people weren't such animals...that I'm not inferior according to natures standards...
A lot of the things people have said here are lovely and true. There is a person in the world to love every kind of physical feature on a womans body, a man/woman for every personality quirk and passion, and who will happily accept and even love the parts of us we perceive as imperfect. Breasts are simply one of a million features that sum the complexity of a woman who is worthy of love. Most heterosexual men like breasts on a woman, but many dont care what it looks like, as long as its a breast and its on a woman.
As a woman of a near-insignificant cup size, I can tell you that there are benefits to having smaller breasts: (1) when men talk to me, they talk to ME (their eyes stay at my face); (2) I am more confident that a man who expresses interest in me is attracted to my mind and personality, not my voluptuous figure; (3) I dont get pain in my back from the weight of my chest; (4) gravity will not be as devastating to my figure as I age; (5) I dont have to wear bras most of the time; and (6) Ive read that smaller breasts are more sensitive, so more easily stimulated when caressed (because the nerves arent as spread out over a larger area).
Bodies come in all shapes and sizes. Instead of negatively judging the parts you dislike, you can emphasize the positive. Women with greater curves might be perceived as voluptuous and sexy, but thinner frames can be sweet and delicate. Whether its bright eyes, big smile, great butt, long legs, big breasts, luscious hair, soft skin, etc… it doesnt matter… every women has features that are attractive. Besides, conventionally petty is just that – conventional. There are some people you meet in your lifetime who are not conventionally attractive, but somehow the longer you look at them the more beautiful and interesting they become. Maybe they become more beautiful because their personality radiates and transforms their physique before your eyes (beauty is perception), or maybe their features have less structure and are more striking, maintaining your attention simply because they are so different. Conventional beauty is worth a dime a dozen, because everyone is trying to look the same, which makes typical beauties easier to overlook. Sometimes it takes something different to stop you in your tracks. And wouldnt you rather spend your precious time and energy with people who have the capacity to look beyond the surface, or to find the gems that most of the world is too self-involved to notice? Be different and be you. You might not have as many romantic interests crowding around you (or maybe you will), but the ones who are with you will hopefully have more character, be more loyal and interesting, and really allow you to feel seen and loved without having to work for that love.
Also, your bodys worth should not be measured by who it can attract, but by what it can do. If your hands and feet and voice and mind work, then you are capable of so many amazing things. You dont need breasts to get an education or travel or to invent something valuable or to love and be loved. Your breasts are just along for the ride.
Well said!
Beautifully articulated.
@adamabinta Everyone assumes that a small size automatically means a slender figure as well. NOPE! Sorry to burst your bubble but there are chunky girls that are AA as well. "eeew, a platypus! less than woman!"
Words won't make me feel better, that's for sure. "Talk is cheap." Meh. I just wish freaks like flat women were loved as equally as the normal women....
@Alystem
I never suggested that smaller breasts and slimmer frames are equated. I've known plenty of women who are heavier and still have small chests. My response was simply tailored to the original poster, who emphasized her petite physique. Everything I've written still applies to any person struggling with self-image.
And although my words were meant for the OP, they certainly were not spoken half-hazzardly. There is nothing cheap about what I've said when I know from personal experience that there are plenty of men who will fall for a women with a negligible breast size. A woman with small breasts or no breasts is still a woman. If she can love and encourage and comfort and inspire another human being, then she, in turn, will inspire love for herself. Beauty is more than a physical image: true beauty is a feeling of warmth, appreciation, connectedness, and devotion. When we effort to make other people feel beautiful, they will perceive us, in turn, as beautiful. While not every person will be able to see the beauty in our character and actions, those who can will be worth their weight in diamonds. Those are the people with which you should surround yourself and whose opinions should be valued.
@Alystem
Also, you don't need the love of the whole world. "Loved equally" doesn't mean anything when you consider how many billions of people are on this planet and how varied the personalities and preferences. It is better to be genuinely appreciated and loved by a few good people than to have your body celebrated by the masses. And when the right person comes along and loves you for all of your wonders and imperfections, it can feel like you possess the love of the world, and it will be enough.
@adamabinta Too bad I stopped believing in fairy tales, I'm sorry...
@Alystem
I feel torn between hoping that you aren't simply trolling this topic and wasting everyone's time and energy, and hoping that you ARE trolling because I wouldn't wish the level of your expressed misery on anyone. True fairytales depict beautiful impossibilities, such as unicorns and singing animals, not simply devoted love between two people. If your expressed experiences are as you say, then I am very sorry to hear that the world has been so cruel to you, and so unrepresentative of the spectrum of emotion and human interaction that can exist. No matter what your experiences have taught you in your short life, I know of many couples whose relationships transcend the flaws of the individuals within those partnerships. And often it is the people who have suffered, who have truly earned their strength and identity through life's hardships, who make the best life partners. Hardships can teach you patience, grace, and endurance, which is what love needs to survive the rough spots. Unfortunately, if you continue to allow your suffering to define you, then you will only know suffering, and the pain in your life will become a perpetually self-fulfilling prophesy.
@adamabinta I wish I was a troll too. But I go by the proof I see...and it's looking bleak.
Love this, yes to everything. 10/10 would recommend
Dear, I can tell you now that no matter your size, you're still beautiful, your body is a wonderful & amazing thing <3
thank you all so much. This has been something that's bothered me so much. I do want to feel confident about my body and hearing all your stories helps a little. I never liked being around girls with bigger breasts because it always made me feel self conscious about my breasts. I know
Wonderful ^^
I'm glad we could assist in aiding your worries.
@DaughterofHades @Ss51691 @Alystem
For a long time I've felt like that as well. Very insecure in my own body because of my small breasts. A lot more around women (girls) with bigger breasts. Until I found out they have a lot of issues with those bigger (in our eyes perfect) breasts and that it's not such an ideal position for them either.
Putting so much importance on one trait from our body just makes us always unhappy when we could try to be happy with what we have and realize that no position is perfect whatsoever.
For those of you who are still insecure even knowing that girls with bigger breasts feel sometimes bad or insecure in their body etc. just try to find clothes that make your breasts look really beautiful. There are so many types of clothes that work well with small breasts only and those with bigger breasts are actually jealous of you. Arm yourself with tricks to fill your confidence little by little because we are all beautiful and no one should make us feel less.
Guys (especially in their teen years) are very immature and they tend to point out those traits they don't like just because they are pretty insecure themselves and they need to make someone else's flaws become the center of attention. Learn to stop paying attention to such comments. Learn to stop being dependent on their false appreciation. Just go for those who look in your eyes and appreciate your mind. Those will surely love your body the way it is as well.
@cristiana33 WHAT kind of clothes don't make us look like little children, lolies, or try-hards? No one ever says specifically.
@Alystem
I am sorry for not giving a good source before or elaborate more on the fashion aspect.
Here are two links I find very helpful about what kind of clothes do focus on allowing women with small breast be feminine & beautiful:
https://www.herinterest.com/15-fashion-tips-for-small-bust-women/
https://www.sofeminine.co.uk/fashion-trends/style-advice-for-women-with-small-breasts-s562866.html
After having these tips in mind I believe it all comes down to personal tastes and trying on your own something.
Hope it helps.
