I can’t trust my partner
He’s broken my trust so many times. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. He says he’s going to stop hurting me but I question, What else is he capable of doing?
@powerfulPlum3916
Dear Plum....You say it yourself...
@EarsThatHeal
He has betrayed your trust time and time again...
Do you mean that in a bad way?
@powerfulPlum3916
Trust Imo is earned not demanded......
when broken to earn back takes time and patience but honestly depends on your view of trust.... and clear communication..........
it is not something you have done ... it is on him ....
@powerfulPlum3916 You're not doing anything wrong, he's the one breaking your trust. That being said, I understand why you'd question yourself, it's a very common response to blame and look at yourself when the relationship is rocky. We often ask "What am I doing wrong" or "What can I do better so that this person stops". My questions to you are, are you happy? What's your next move? How much more are you willing to take?
@powerfulPlum3916
I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with trust in your relationship. Trust is a vital component of any healthy partnership, and it can be challenging when it feels compromised. It's important to remember that every situation is unique, and I'm here to listen and offer some general guidance. Have you considered having an open and honest conversation with your partner about your concerns? Effective communication can help address any underlying issues and rebuild trust. Additionally, seeking professional help, such as couples therapy, can provide a safe space to explore your feelings and work towards a resolution. Remember, it takes time and effort from both partners to rebuild trust, so it's crucial to maintain open lines of communication and offer each other support along the way. Let me know if there's anything specific you'd like advice on or if you'd like to discuss this further.
Thank you so much for your kind understanding and advice. I’d appreciate talking about it with you, how do I send a direct message?
@powerfulPlum3916
I'm sorry to hear that your partner has repeatedly broken your trust. Trust is a crucial foundation for a healthy and fulfilling relationship, and when it's repeatedly violated, it can lead to feelings of doubt, insecurity, and uncertainty about the future.
It's important to recognize that trust is not solely your responsibility. Building and maintaining trust is a shared commitment between both partners. While it's natural to question yourself and wonder if you're doing something wrong, it's important to remember that trust is a reflection of both partners' actions and behaviors.
If your partner has made promises to stop hurting you but continues to break your trust, it's understandable that you would have concerns about their future behavior. Consider having an open and honest conversation with your partner about your concerns and the impact their actions have had on you. Express your feelings, set clear boundaries, and communicate your expectations for the relationship moving forward. Take the time to reflect on what is best for your well-being and consider seeking support from loved ones or professionals who can help you make informed decisions about your relationship moving forward.
@powerfulPlum3916 Sorry this is a bit late hehe, buttttt the answer comes down to you. After all he's done, do you think he still deserves someone as amazing as you???? If you do, give him another chance, if not, set yourself free and focus on no one but yourself :D
Hello powerfulPlum3916. I understand how you are feeling as he has been breaking your trust many times. Maybe it’s not what you are doing that it’s wrong here. What else would be something that we can’t predict. If someone is repeatedly hurting you and breaking your trust, maybe you should reflect and see if you really need to be in contact and if its taking a toll on your health. I hope you feel better soon ❤️
@powerfulPlum3916 Hey Plum! You have shared that he has broken your trust multiple times and you seem to question and doubt yourself for his actions. You seem to be losing hope and feel worried about how much he can possibly hurt you despite of him just saying that he will not hurt you. Your feelings and your mental health are very important. Feel free to connect with me so that we can delve further in and toy can find your decision.
I’m sorry to hear your partner has repeatedly broken your trust.
I appreciate your patience and trust to your partner.
your loyalty shows you’re a good soul but your partner is breaking your trust again and again. Tbh honest it’s worst of him but yeah you should have a talk to him for the reason behind this rudeness to you. A better chat would help you to reach a final decision for your future if he still isn’t able to make you sure for a better understanding in future than you’re expert enough at your own to decide about your future.
@powerfulPlum3916 I am Ellen and I hope you are doing better. I'm sorry to hear that your partner has repeatedly broken your trust. Building trust takes awhile to build and when somebody breaks it you feel like all the time spent building it wasn't for the best. Worrying about what will happen next is a true feeling which you should not ignore. Having a transparent and open conversation with your partner can help you guys clear up some things and see were that can take you on your journey. I hope you are doing better and okay. -Ellen G
