Please help!!

try to understand where his actions are coming from. imagine being in his shoes, where u love someone so much but they have another relationship behind ur back? he's upset and has lost his trust with u but just leave him alone for now. it isn't fair to him esp since u never owned up to it. unless u both want to try again, reassure him and communicate. his obviously going to be insecure throughout the relationship because of this, so just let him heal. maybe it's best to take time apart from him and try doing no contact.

Answer any questions he has. As someone whose wife cheated on him, it is helpful when the offending party is willing to answer questions without justifying or becoming defensive. You have valid reasons to why you cheated, but now is NOT THE TIME to voice them. Now is the time for reconciliation if the relationship will move forward, and the only way for you to have that is to be apologetic, vulnerable, and honest. One day down the line if you are still together you can work on the underlying factors that went into the cheating, but for now the betrayed partner needs their voice. He needs to be heard without rationalization, justification, or minimization. People can come out stronger, but it will take completd honesty and transparency.

Same experience here but I didn’t cheated him. Me, being a weirdo, I talked with guys and girls on a language exchange app and there were a couple of guys who were friendly and not flirtatious. So, I naturally thought they could be good friends and kept talking. I even planned to hangout with one and I told him that I’d let my bf know too, which was intended to let him know I had a bf. At some point, for some reasons, my bf at that time didn’t like it and I told him I won’t communicate with that guy anymore but due to plan, I can’t just cut him off and had to send a couple of messages saying I couldn’t due to some reasons and my bf of that time saw it and had a big argument. I really didn’t have any intention about cheating on him and nothing was going on between the guy I planned to hangout. But then, it was true that I sent that guy a couple more message behind his back and he was devastated and I felt sorry. Maybe it wasn’t a big deal for me but I didn’t realize how big the issue was for him. I did many things to make him forgive me for my mistake. Same to you, I’m sure he’s now having a hard time having trust issue on you and even if you two keep going with your relationship, he might still have some issues with that and you have to feel like being treated unfairly in future if he brings it up again. But as you already realized, it was terrible. So, if you really want something deep and if you are wishing the best, show in your own way that you feel sorry and you can’t let him go. And be honest with all of his questions and whenever he asks about it, give him all the answers he needs. Shower him with more love because you never know how you will feel and what will happen if you lose him again. I’m wish you luck and you have my full support for this 💪🏻🤗