What do you do to feel better?
Thank you all for the book and talk recommendations here. We have cataloged them all and I'm working on an outreach plan to reach out to each person that you've recommended.
I'm wriring today with a different, but related, question that I think will also help us better help others that are having a hard time. We've all heard the term "coping skills". These are things that we can do to help ourselves feel better. Sometimes we do these things on purpose because we are struggling; sometimes we do them by accident and don't necessarily realize that they help us change our mindset or help us get unstuck.
When I did therapy (many years ago!), I used to ask people to think about 3-4 things that they do that help them feel better. Then, I'd ask clients to do those very specific things whenever they were having a hard time. This little intervention helps quite a bit because it allows people to tap into skills that they already have and enjoy using.
I'm guessing our community has one of the richest catalogs of coping skills on the planet. I would imagine we have identified hundreds of ways to help ourselves feel better when struggling. If comfortable, please share them here. My goal is to capture all of these and write them up as growth path steps once the playlist is live. If you can, please write them up as you would say them to a good friend.
Here are some quick coping skills from my life:
-talk with my wife or friends
-take a walk
-run
-watch a mindless movie
What works for you?
Thank you!
Update: If any of these look particularly good to you please comment and upvote to let me know which ones work best. Thank you!
I take a hot shower
I would usually listen to some songs, TRY TO HELP MYSELF , eat some delicious food , go for a walk
I usually listen to music like cirque by sub urban or class fight by melanie martinez
@starlightshimmers456 Me too! I love melanie!
@starlightshimmers456 omg me too i love her k-12 movie
Being productive and doing different things
I watch movies, listen to music.
@HappilyVictorious20
What kind of movies do you like to watch?
Number one on the list: try to identify and accept how you are feeling. We label some emotions as bad and some as good but they all deserve to be felt.
Self reflection (like journaling, taking long walks, talking with someone you trust and/or praying if you are religious) can help with this.
-If you feel out of control, deep breathing can help you re-center and reduce physical symptoms by resupplying your body with oxygen.
-Excersize can clear your mind and reduce physical symptoms of pent up energy.
@Pinkflamingo555
I go for walks, I read outside, I listen to music, I watch youtube videos that make me laugh :)
Talk to God, Family and Friends
Good movies or tv shows and music..
@GlenM
This is such a wonderful idea for a thread, thank you Glen for starting it! I hope these tips are helpful.
- I'm an avid lover of literature, so sometimes when I don't feel up to facing a problem, I'll take a few minutes to read. After spending a few minutes with my current novel, I usually feel calmer and more towards the right frame of mind to think about whatever is bothering me. If I'm not feeling like reading (a rare occurrence :P) then sometimes I'll enjoy a favorite movie, TV show or genre of music.
- I've made a habit out of journaling and it's one of my favorite ways of maintaining mental health. Every night -- sometimes every few nights, if I'm busy -- I'll just write about my day and its ups and downs, things that are stressing me out, and anything I'd like to get off my chest. I find that when things are on paper, they're easier to sort out -- it's like venting to a person, but one who won't judge or complain.
- I also love writing, and getting lost in the world of my characters can be helpful in that sometimes I figure out what I can do based on how I write their choices -- I think @Listeningsarinn mentioned something similar! :)
- I'm not a very big athlete, but as a nature lover, getting fresh air can help a lot, and sometimes exercise can help release pent-up stress or energy. I always feel a bit more energized after going for a walk or run outside and getting some sun.
- Engaging in my hobbies helps relax me quite often. For instance, as someone who's very interested in philosophy, law, political science, current events and the like, I enjoy listening to my favorite politics podcasts or hearing different opinions on current events (although, this may induce more stress for others who aren't as nerdy about current events as I -- so my point is, just do what you enjoy!). I also like to engage in other relaxing hobbeis such as coding and robotics, or if I don't have as much energy, drawing and painting.
- Sometimes spending time with my friends or loved ones can help me feel better. Whether I'm talking to them about what I am worried about, or just spending time with them, their presence can be a comfort. That being said, as an introvert, I often need some time alone instead.
I know this was a rather long list, for which I apologize. I just hoped that some of these ideas could be helpful to others who are looking for coping methods. Take care everyone. :)
@InkyOak12
heya! ~ i feel it where you say it's a rare thing not to be in mood of reading lol and about the writing thing!!
and i guess in this thread the longer the better so thanks for sharing that?
Oh! Sorting things--like doing dishes, cleaning a room, organizing a drawer--if I can't solve my huge problems, I can put something in order.