Hope's Reflections

@Hope

Hi Hope! 😊❤️ Thank you for your forum post. I enjoyed hearing your thoughts as well as reading the quote!

I just so happen to agree with you. I have a tendency to pay respect to each moment even the negative ones. I give them all their proper space and time. It's okay for something to not "sit well" with you. It's okay to dislike certain situations, to dislike negative behaviors of others, circumstances, etc. It's okay to be sad and to feel hurt. ❤️

After I sit in that space, I'm able to say, well.........."wow! That really happened"! Or, "It is, what it is". I try to see everything as a learning opportunity. Even if it teaches me to stay away from certain things, situations, people or to change my approach.........just like a child will learn quickly when placing a hand on a hot stove. Ouch! That hurt, lets not do that again. I can even see being treated poorly as a learning opportunity. That sure did teach me how not to be. That felt terrible and I would never want to make another human being feel that way.

I'm not much for complaining about things (at least not incessantly). Sometimes I feel like the more energy you give to something, the larger it grows. I'd rather harness my energy and focus it in a direction that will better serve me.

Something that always helps me is gratitude moments. I like to focus on what it is that I do have rather than on what it is that I do not.

*high fives* 😊 and *hugs* ❤️

@Hope What a great post! So, for me... I am all for venting. Sometimes I just have to let things out that I have bottled up. Once I let them leave my person, whether on paper or through chatting with someone, I feel much better. I learnt to let things go long ago because I noticed that if we keep talking about it, it makes the anger and pain resurface all over again. Once or twice venting is enough... any more just adds fuel to the fire. That is when we fall in the trap of being negative and the more we talk about it and bring it up, the more it lives within us... except now we are only dragging others down with us. For someone to be able to work on it and let go of the obsession of negativity, they have to be aware they have fallen in the trap. Sometimes people live and breathe negative things, woe is me, this is bad in my life, I can't do or say anything right, etc that they do not even realize that everything that comes from them is negative. I believe surrounding ourselves with good, wholesome people is key to helping us be self-aware. Good, positive, and supportive people can help get us through our tough times and constantly surrounding ourselves with "good" things and changing our mind set will help... because soon we will find ourselves smiling more and being happy more. :) It is very possible to escape constant dark places and quit obsessing over the unpleasant things in life if we are open to actually changing. <3

@Hope Thank you for sharing your quotes with us. I find that mindfulness and meditation are helpful tools for me and not just me, but for everyone. But it does require an open mind, and practice, enorder to reach full potential and enlightenment. Which I have, but not everyone, sadly comes with an open mind or a willingness to practice or try it. Which I do not understand. There is plenty of information about the benefits of meditation and mindfulness, plus it has been around for a very long time too. It does not take a lot of time either. Which, I know is a concern for those who have busy lives.