July 10: Ask Questions Feature Added to Q & A System

@Katielangsfordx this is just a faze in life, it won't last long and it be ok, arson isn't the worst thing ever unless someone was hurt! Life is a challenge you just need to be positive and think how you can make it better

@Katielangsfordx oh no that's horrible to hear if you ever want to chat I'm here

@ErwineRommel

Erwie .. I apologize being a listener I was not there for you. But surely I am present. It's just that life is always compact for every people and they must have been busy but I am here. U may message me if u need someone to vwnt or if u need a friend.

I am already there fr you with open arms.

Hoping to talk to you soon.

@ErwineRommel I am so sorry to hear that you feel like nobody here cares about you. It sounds tough to have to contend with feelings like those. Like nobody gives a damn. I'm so very sorry, you've been made to feel that way in your interactions with others, unintentionally or not. Given your past, negative experiences with listeners on this site, with the chat either fizzling out or not being able to find a listener who's available to listen to you when you really need a listening ear, I can understand how that might cause one to feel like nobody else cares. I can relate to the struggle of finding a good listener ; one that you truly click with. It's not easy at all. *Hugs*

It takes a great deal of courage, I bet, just to make that decision to reach out for support, to ask for help, to open up about your struggles and express what's weighing on your mind ♥. I'm so proud of you for being brave enough to do so, and resilient enough to keep trying, despite these challenges you've faced. It can be very discouraging connecting with so many listeners and not being able to find one who clicks with you, yet you haven't given up hope or the persistence to continue trying, to keep looking, and that amazes me ♥. Your strength amazes me ♥. Thank you for sharing, and indirectly giving me insight into what an amazing person you are, an incredible fighter! ♥ . But more than that, thanks for sharing, because it gives me the opportunity to extend my support to you, lovely. I'm actually on a break from listening activities , but my heart goes out to you, so here, let me officially invite you to send me a message :D and let's see how it goes. I'm not a perfect listener. In fact, there are many areas I could improve on, so let me make you a sincere promise here and now : you can tell me whatever it is you expect of me, and want from me, and I promise to do my best to be the listener that YOU need me to be ♥ . And if things don't work for you, I promise to help you find a listener who might be able to succeed at what I failed at. But, mainly, if you message me, we'll do things your way, that's my promise to you! Also, I do know one thing : I care about you, even though I don't even know you that well, yet.

☆ P.S Here's a trick! (that you might already know though :O) When you browse listeners clicking the verified listeners box might help narrow down your search for a good listener. It shows you only those listeners with the verified listener badge and this means that these listeners have all taken a mock chat with a more experienced listener on the verified listeners team or with a mentor and have been evaluated and have passed! Also, you can take a lot at the profiles of listeners and try and gauge from their reviews and ratings if they have the qualities that you are looking for in a listener. Getting an idea from other members' experiences with this listener might be helpful in your search! :D

☆ And about the group chats, I think it can definitely be hard trying to be heard in an often fast paced setting with a lot of members and guests each sharing their own stories. Some people already know each other from having spent a lot of time together in the rooms (regulars). But I find it helps to attend discussions because discussions are a good time to make connections with other people and also be able to contribute more easily to a clearly defined topic. Sometimes the conversation in a group support room can be very confusing because there might be more than one convo going on but during a discussion or a support session, everybody is discussing the same topic. And the discussion host also tries to pay careful attention to validating everyone's response. You can look out for upcoming discussions by checking out the community calendar.

@Tiffs I think there's something missing in your life maybe something that can make your life fulfilling

@Vickybukowski1969 Hi there! I see that you are a new member who just joined today. Wow, that's awesome! Welcome to the community ♥ . I hope you find the support that you are seeking. It takes a great deal of courage to take this step and reach out for help, and hopefully you will find a listener that you click with, who will lend you that support and a listening ear that you need.

I'm not sure how anything works on the app :P so I downloaded it just so I could see how it works, enough to be able to point you to the right places :P

✯ At the bottom of the screen there are two options : Chat and Path. You can select "chat" and then there will be the option of "connect now" or "find a listener" . If you click connect now, you will first be asked to select your age and then you will be randomly matched to a listener. This sends a general request that's added to the GR (general request) queue visible to all listeners of that age group (e.g over 18 listeners can see over 18 member requests and adult teen listeners can see both over 18 and 13-17 year old member requests and teen listeners can only see the 13-17 year old member requests. Any listener can pick up any general request from the queue but we generally take starting from the top of the list (those who have been waiting the longest) . So if you send a GR you will be randomly matched to a listener. If you click on the 'find a listener' or 'browse listeners' (click on the linky link) then you will be directed to choose a listener based on your preference and then you have the option of chatting with them if they're online or leaving a message if their status is offline/busy.

✯ Also, this is a useful FAQ forum thread for members/guests that you might want to check out! :D

✯ Below the 1-1 conversations tab on the app, is the group support chat. There are a bunch of rooms to explore :D Here's the link just in case.

✯ P.S welcome to the forums ♥ . You seem to have found that without trouble :D. Yay! IF you want, you can introduce yourself to the member community here .

@AllieMorris you need to think about the good things in your life and just sit there and realise how much you can actually think positively about, maybe try writing a list of things in a notebook or diary that normally helps :)

@AllieMorris well let's try to make what you said a positive thing.... But how? Let's say that you're not thinking in a negative way, and you're just being ready emotionally if things didn't go right which is a good thing! But at the same time you can also enjoy your time and believe that you're so lucky that nothing bad could happen to you.. At least not all the time, and if something bad happened it's a just a step towards a great/happy thing, because this is life , nothing is completely perfect 😊 *Look at the bright side* ❤