Understanding instead of Arguing
When you stop focusing on winning a tough argument, you change the situation from a fight to a chance for both people to learn and understand each other. Letting go of the need to be "right" helps you stop defending yourself and instead work to protect your relationship, not just your own point of view.
Arguing isn't just a waste of time; it also takes a big toll on your mental energy and overall well-being and destroys trust in relationships.
Participation question:
How do you feel when you argue with someone and try to show them you're right?
What would change if you shared your opinion but still accepted their point of view?
Helpful Videos:
Interacting with others: Dearman https://youtu.be/EC-M59r-0jg?si=oMCdhsmXgE4Gw4ac
Radical Acceptance https://youtu.be/vwNnG7mIu1E?si=LUKZ8DyNSb2_6_io
Helpful Resources:
What Happens When We Stop Trying to Win a Difficult Conversation?
Seeking Help
Mental stress can cause us not to be able to see the good things in life and lead to excessive rumination or worries, which can result in serious health problems. If you have serious, long-term problems with negative thinking and feeling depressed, see your doctor or talk to a therapist if they are related to any mental challenges.
Are you looking for a therapist? 7 Cups has online, certified therapists with a paid option. For more information on what happens in online therapy at 7 Cups, Read Lisa’s (a therapist and director of therapy) explanation.
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@amiablePeace77
Good question.
I'm always right 😅
No, it would help create and foster respect and good relations and healthy boundaries of I hear someone out and agree to disagree, we all have different experiences that influence our thinking 💛
@amiablePeace77
Totally unable to argue verbally here. As soon as it looks like it, I give up. I need to collect my thoughts and try again later, if ever. I have often written non-confrontational letters instead to make my point(s).
Well, if the other side has a good point, of course I will be happy to change my mind, even half-way. The idea is that the other person is more Important than whatever disagreement we may have.
How do you feel when you argue with someone and try to show them you're right?
What would change if you shared your opinion but still accepted their point of view?
@amiablePeace77 I’ve always wanted to come to an understanding with the other person. What do we do when that’s not their intention though?
@conscientiousPear678
We can't force anyone, but we can always offer a "hand". At the end it's up to the person to take it or not.
@amiablePeace77
How do you feel when you argue with someone and try to show them you're right?
i feel awful but it why i do not really do it much anymore it not worth it
What would change if you shared your opinion but still accepted their point of view?
see that more what i do now and well a lot of the time when it like that i can like say i agree to disagree with you in peace for both us then if they not stop i walk away a lot of the time so not like allow it to unset me i found the best way yes at times i still try to prove i right but it became less and less
@stormieandpaws
You’ve come a long way!
@goldenpear3099
@amiablePeace77
How do you feel when you argue with someone and try to show them you're right?
What would change if you shared your opinion but still accepted their point of view?
I have no problem with accepting when I’m wrong and someone else is right as long as they don’t have a giant ego and rub it in my face.
@akunknown
Nice that you're able to admit when you're wrong and someone else is right! It shows character!
