Can We Heal Without Closure?

@AngyA

Great question! Sometimes we have no choice but to try to heal without closure. Now would it be better to treat the wounds and close them up? Yes, but that is not always possible. We have to learn to move on without answers and accept the reality we have been handed.

Tagging @AnnaSilverberg 

@AngyA closure? You mean like forgive and forget?? I really hope we can heal without closure. Trigger warning - bad things...... I was kept captive for years by bad people I lost my son there and I'm disabled because of them 🙁 I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to forgive. But I hear people talking about this alot so maybe it depends on your situation. 💖💖

@AngyAemotional healing will work till you have a memory then it's back to depression'

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Idk. My stepdad died without ever apologizing for his abuse. My dad died too. He kinda made amends but not super well. Like, the pain is still there.

A man physically abused me 2 years ago. Why? I never found out. He gave me PTSD toward all other men.

So I guess… idk.

That's a tricky question.

On one hand, I believe that emotional wounds are experiences we tend to process best by retriggering them in safe ways. Like in a therapeutic setting. Where we can focus on what emotions the wound evokes and understanding why it's there, then taking any necessary steps to begin working on closing it.

On the other hand, I believe that closure isn't something that happens on a physical level. It's more of a spiritual journey where through faith in something greater than ourselves, we can be restored. Kinda like giving up the emotions and experiences for a higher power to carry.

All-in-all, I believe that wounds heal in the right environment where they can receive the proper care. Whether that's here on Earth or a realm beyond.

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@AngyA

My approach always has been to dig deeper into the question. What exactly is emotional healing? How do we define emotional pain? Let's say emotional pain is a consequence of some impediment that came across our normal flow of life. It upended the normal flow so much that it resulted in disbalancing of some hormones in our brains that resulted in emotional and psychological suffering. Closure is resuming the normal flow of life. Generally with time closure is inevitable, but we don't let nature run its course. We overthink. We get flashbacks. We hold on to the trauma(impediment), and hence closure becomes harder and harder. So while you definitely need a closure to move on with your life and heal emotionally, the closure in itself doesn't have to do anything about the impediment(read traumatic event) in itself. There are multiple ways to close that chapter and move on. But unfortunately, most people don't talk about them. Because they themselves don't understand how the human brain works, despite being an "expert" in their fields.

No cause you eventually you'll get triggered by something that's gone resurface old wounds. 💯

It can be if we focus on let go because some wounds has no closure and answer

Do I believe true emotional healing is possible without closing old wounds? First, it is coming to acceptance but it is not acceptance of old wounds. The healing comes when we accept that closure from another person might not ever come and if it does come, it’s only that person’s point of view and not the end all, be all of truths. What matters is how we feel about ourselves. Improving how we feel about ourselves happens when we become more aware of the positive things in our lives and the positive things about ourselves, meaning practicing gratitude and self-talk. Getting something from the external source that hurt us will most likely lead to more confusion. Do you really care what they have to say OR do you care about what you think? People will hurt us. It’s a part of life. It’s also their problem. How you love yourself is the solution. And remember, time heals all wounds.