Forgiveness
Is there anything you need to forgive, whether it's yourself or someone else, to let go of anger, sadness, or feeling bad about yourself?
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Yes, but I don’t think I can, it’s such a deep hurt, and the pain it caused me has been almost unbearable. I want to but I think the pain will always be there, so why do it?
@Lauren63
It must have been something really important that caused you such deep pain. I hope the pain will lessen with time Lauren.
@amiablePeace77
I really struggle with forgiveness.
I understand it as a concept and the rational part of my mind understands it's healing powers and it's necessity.
But I have so much hurt lingering still and I find it hard as some things aren't forgivable in my opinion.
It's a very personal construct 🩷
@Amanda84
I completely relate to what you stance.
@Amanda84
I hear you. Forgiveness cannot be forced; one needs to be ready. There are things that make it hard or even impossible to forgive.
@amiablePeace77 Yes I need find ways to forgive the pain and damage my daughters partner has done to my entire family including my daughters little girl and one I been working on forgiving for years and havent quite got there yet is forgiving myself.
@eternalHero77
I hope forgiveness will happen soon! 💙
@amiablePeace77
Yes, I need to forgive myself for not deciding what I want to do with my life.
@purpleTree4652
Sometimes the best decisions come when we least expect them.
@amiablePeace77
Is there anything you need to forgive, whether it's yourself or someone else, to let go of anger, sadness, or feeling bad about yourself?
I don’t need to forgive myself bc whatever I did I had a damn good valid reason for doing it. As for anyone else they don’t deserve any forgiveness much less anything else from me 👎👎
@akunknown
I'm really sorry you're hurting so much. I can't imagine how tough it must be to carry the pain you're dealing with.🫂
@amiablePeace77
is there anything you need to forgive, whether it's yourself or someone else, to let go of anger, sadness, or feeling bad about yourself?
i have let go of a lot forgiven many things both with self and others but i believe forgiveness is a choose at first but it also not got a time line in the end can be done in layers like with loosing my kids i forgiven self and others in layers i not sure all the layers have been forgiven but as i heal from losing the kids i find new layers that need forgiven actions in but i did not know them layers until now might be more layers to come too
with the abuse from others i also find i forgive things i know the layers but then new layers come up as i heal too then i forgive them layers but it a work over time just like healing is too
so yes i have more to forgive but some of that i not know yet the layers peal away one layer ay a time too
@stormieandpaws
I believe the most painful thing for a parent is to lose their kids, and letting go of that hurt and healing takes time and effort.
@amiablePeace77
thank you at first i was scared to talk about this part of my story here due to in past i said about losing my parental rights i was told only abusers loss their parental rights and banned from a abuse survivors forum/chat when i need support the most it took me down a very bad road due to being rejected and called a abuser but i not found that to be true here most here have shown compassion and understanding give support not pushing and judgments due to some things in my life journey for that i thankful for 7 cups
@amiablePeace77
Naaah! Keeping grudges does not help.
Is there anything you need to forgive, whether it's yourself or someone else, to let go of anger, sadness, or feeling bad about yourself?
@Fradiga
Grudges keep us tied, letting go sets us free.
I struggle with this concept. I logically understand the purpose of forgiveness, but my emotional side feels like there are certain things that you cannot be forgiven for. People who have done things to me as a child…it is unforgivable. Thats also my main issue with religion. Any sinner can be forgiven if they truly repent. I do not agree. Some things are completely unacceptable.
@rationalPrune8628
Things have happened to everyone to various degrees, but some of us have more trouble dismissing them. Sure there are unpleasant things which happened when I was young, but once I became an adult, I felt free of things which were in the past. After all, I was now empowered.
An ex-boyfriend of mine, at 50, still held a grudge against a nun whom, he said, used to confiscate his pocket money. He heard she had died in a plane crash and told me: "Good! I hope she got scared too!" and I could tell that wasn't the way I would have felt.
@rationalPrune8628
Also, since you mention religion, God is known to be merciful. That's an idea!
@rationalPrune8628
I believe no one should have to forgive if it does not come from the heart, and not everything can be forgiven, but there are many things we can forgive.
Forgiving others is difficult, I always believed you had to forgive them for your own sake in order to heal, but I’ve learnt that sometimes when someone has caused you immense pain, you don’t always have to forgive them. Not everyone deserves your forgiveness.
However, I do think forgiving YOURSELF is the most important thing you could ever do. Although, sometimes it can be even more difficult than forgiving another person. It takes a lot of time to face yourself and tell yourself it’s okay to make mistakes. There’s plenty of things I need to learn to forgive myself for and the list is never ending. I hope one day I’ll be able to.