Friend or enemy?
Are you mostly your worst enemy or your best friend? If you're your worst enemy what needs to change to become your best friend?
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@amiablePeace77 I can be both. Sometimes I'm my best friend, when I feel proud of all the things I've accomplished theese past 4 years, and I love the life I have now, and my heart is full of love for people. But on the bad days when I hate myself and who I was and have become, when I can't deal with the memories, I'm frustrated cause I'm limited from disabilities and stuff, then I am my own worst enemy. So I just need to keep remembering the good things in life, and stay grateful, which I try very hard to do ❤
hugs ami ❤hope your ok?
@Tinywhisper11
It's a good strategy to focus on all the things you've accomplished in the last years and be grateful for them tiny!
I'm mostly my worst enemy. I'm getting a better idea of things that need changing. It's the actual doing that's very difficult. It's as if I'm paralyzed by fear.
@Zeraphim bless you ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤squeezes you tightly ❤
@Zeraphim
I hope this will change Zeraphim. It can help to talk about your fears with a listener here or a trusted person irl.
I am my worst enemy. It's not really a secret I hate myself with a passion, and it's something I continue to work on. With my disabilities and everything, it just seems like a losing battle most the time. But life's weird so who knows.
@OneErased
One, we are here to help you, please keep working on your self-love for your own good! 💙
@amiablePeace77
This expression "worst enemy" was coined by Friedrich Nietzsche, but the idea had been floating around for millennia. I think it is not quite right to describe personal struggles, but looking at humanity in general, it can be right, as in "Humans are their own worst enemies".
A struggling person who makes "bad choices" could look that way but it is not necessarily the whole person. That person may have regrets or (even worse) remorse to the point they end up hating themselves or wanting to run away from their own thoughts. There are a few of those on 7cups.
Of course, the opposite of "worst enemy" is 'best friend" but we can't know that. A friend is aways another person who sends us back our own picture, sometimes in a flattering way, sometimes not. An enemy is the same - another person.
Am I my own worst enemy because I smoke? because I tend to care more for others than for myself? because I have trouble sitting down at administrative chores? Because I take too much time with some decisions? Well, I tell myself it could be way worse and I am still at peace, even with some sorrows here and there. I make do this my "self" and if I do not judge others, I will be fine with myself too.
@Fradiga
Thank you for your post. I believe the main thing is to be at peace with yourself. There will always be sorrows here and there.
@amiablePeace77 I am usually my own worst enemy. I don’t have much trust in my intuition and abilities to handle situations. I feel confused a lot about what I think is right or what I even want. I think if I was more secure in these things, I’d speak to myself better. I have gotten better with self-compassion, and so I think I need to keep working on that. It’s a comforting feeling, trying to be understanding of myself and why I am the way I am. I can’t wait on and rely on others to do this for me. Even if someone comes along who does from time to time, our relationship can change at any time, or they may not be around forever. I’m the only one who will be with me forever and consistently, so it’s necessary that I be nicer to myself.
@PiecesOfWhoeverIWas
Understanding of yourself and why you are the way you are does help a lot to embrace yourself and find self-love!
@amiablePeace77
- Are you mostly your worst enemy or your best friend? It depends on the situation. When I follow the high road and do what I know is right I am my best friend.
- If you're your worst enemy what needs to change to become your best friend? I need to live by my principles.
@soulsings
I hope you will be staying on the high road and live in conformity with your principles.
@amiablePeace77 thank you ami I am trying the best I can.
@amiablePeace77
I think I'm my best friend haha but sometimes I need to step out of my own view and view things as an outsider to give myself advice.
@miraculousTouch2949
Seeing things from the outside - detached from preconceptions - can be really helpful! 👍
@amiablePeace77
Worst enemy. You wouldn't be friends with someone that obviously hates you.
Managing self talk, meditation and doing positive affirmations has not changed this.
@Gettingbettertoday
It helps some people to document their thoughts to find the root of self-hatred. I hope that coming here and being surrounded by supportive people will help.
@amiablePeace77
Its from growing up in a family of over achievers. Trying to be worthy when you are mentally challenged is hard enough. It's harder when no matter what you do you don't get any recognition.
@Gettingbettertoday
Growing up under such a pressure is hard getting!