Promise to myself
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This week I promise myself to __________
It will help me with __________
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This week, I promise myself to keep myself as mentally okay as possible. Perhaps limit content consumption and focus on building stability, keeping the basics routine, and trying not to feel trapped here.
It will help me with staying as functional as possible, hopefully.
@Zeraphim
Sounds good Zera! 👍
@amiablePeace77
This week I promise myself to manage my activities.
It will help me with coping with the excessive heat and humidity expected Tuesday - Friday.
@soulsings
Good thinking soul, in this heat one needs to be careful with activities!
This week I promise myself to show more self-compassion
It will help me with stress and anxiety relief
I've been experiencing intense anxiety attacks lately, so I'll have to work on being kind with myself. I'm going through this cycle of self-criticism, discomfort, loneliness, sense of rejection, and intrusive thoughts.
Maybe I'll get relief from this soon, but for now, I'm dealing with a lot of exhaustion.
@PurpleHearts7
It must be really hard for you to deal with all of this! Anxiety and intrusive thoughts (to mention only 2 of what you said) can consume all our energy and we're left drained and exhausted which can lead to more negative thoughts. This is a time when you need your own compassion most. 💙
There is a discussion in the support room 50+ at 4 pm edt. tomorrow (Wednesday) topic "How to stop negative perceptions of ourselves". It's a pop up room so the room appears on the chatroom list 10 minutes before start of the discussion.
Always remember that we are here for you if you like to share!
Thank you so much! 💙💜 I'll see if I can enter the discussion tomorrow. I think it will help me put things into perspective and give myself time to heal internally.
@PurpleHearts7
I have dealt with all that before. Sometimes I still deal with them. So I understand how it’s affecting you by draining and exhausting you. I’m sorry you’re dealing with all this. I hope you find permanent healing, relief and happiness sooner than later. Good luck to you! If you need to talk, please lmk :)
@akunknown
Thank you so much for your support! I'll reach out to you if I need help with the healing process.
@PurpleHearts7
Of course. I love helping people. Even if I can’t give them any advice or suggestions or anything like that, I can still help by being supportive and talking to them about their problems or anything else. That’s a way of helping too. But a lot of times unfortunately people think that just giving advice is helping them. That’s wrong though. At least that’s what I believe.
Anyway as I said I still deal with the issues you’re dealing with so I’m sorry to say idk whether I can give any advice but I can still talk to you about those aforementioned issues you have or anything else you would wanna talk about :)
@amiablePeace77
This week I promise myself to express myself more
It will help me with health
@alysianna
Awesome! What are things that make it easier for you to express yourself alysianna? For example music helps me to express my emotions.
@amiablePeace77
Any form of writing including music helps me be more expressive too and not just with emotions but with anything honestly which does of course include emotions.,
@amiablePeace77
music independent on the day video channel one or just journaling and writing letters to people I want to verbally talk to because I have autism and social problems that you've been talking to my parents with to be simple I have to write a letter if I want to talk to them about something bigI get too scared to talk to them without a letter because if I get interrupted I will explode so I recently had to write a letter to them just give it to Dad today cuz I need to talk to them after the kids go to bed at some point about some big things and I need to set some ground rules like no interrupting me no getting mad and all that because that's what always happensI hate the fact that I still have social anxiety when talking to my family which didn't give me so things already and sometimes talking to my friends and people who aren't my boyfriendand sometimes my boyfriend because I'm afraid I'm going to mess up and lose him and I can't lose him again I already lost him for I don't know maybe you a week or two and I was panicking and I couldn't give up on him and I end up getting back together but i guess we're anxiety and talking to basically anyone especially family because if I mess up with them and there's them then I'm doomed because the family I do talk to the most one of them is dead and the other ones I talked to I don't talk to much so if I mess up talking to them I'm not going to have anyone because I barely have my parents andMy siblings are grounded so I can't talk to either of them unless I'm on my way home from picking up my sister from camp which my dad did because my parents refused to let me get my learner's permitSo I go with Dad and brother to pick up sister and that's when we talk but have the time that's been we have to do some stupid audiobook or political podcastAnd I can't tell him to stop them because he'll get mad at me and say I'm being a problemAnd I can't stand up for myself I legitimately stand up for everyone else at school that I can But I can't stand up for myself never have been able to could have been bullied since kindergarten
@alysianna
Living with autism and social anxiety can present a number of challenges in daily life. I hope coming here helps you to navigate through life easier. So sorry to hear about the bullying you experienced at such an early age already. I can only imagine how much anxiety it might have created in you as a small child. You mentioned that you can stand up for others but find it difficult to stand up for yourself. Do you feel that you might prioritize/value more the needs of other people than your own? When we do not value our own needs or feel anxious to express them it can feel easier to stand up for others than for yourself. I am glad you find comfort in writing and music and hopefully in participating in the forums here.
@amiablePeace77
Do you feel that you might prioritize/value more the needs of other people than your own? yes
@alysianna
How can you step up for yourself today? 💙
@amiablePeace77
i finally got up the courage to give my opinion on a trip I'm taking It's might not be taken into consideration because we have to plan around everyone else's schedule as I'm basically free as a donkeyBut that's really all I can doEverything else gets me in troubleWhen I tried to talk to Mom I chickened out cuzI asked if I could talk to her and Dad after lunch yesterdayAnd she asked what I wanted to talk aboutI wish you nervous to tell her and she got mad and said that if I can't tell her then we obviously can't talk about it.
@amiablePeace77
This week I promise myself to stay committed to all the self positives (self care, self respect, self appreciation, and all the rest of them) no matter what it takes and that includes but is not limited to keeping my distance from toxic people as long as I can.
It will help me stay happy and healthy which allows me to be free enough to live my life the way I want and deserve to. At this point I can’t be convinced that I haven’t earned that right after all I’ve endured in my life.
@akunknown
Sounds great and you truly deserve to live your life the way you want! Way to go!
@amiablePeace77
This week, I promise myself to be more conscious about the things I can control now and let go of the things I can't control.
This week I promise myself to switch off for the weekend.
It will help me with my mental health.
@kindStrings3073 good idea. What helps you on weekends to switchoff?
I have a separate mobile number for work. So this helps. Turned off on Friday and left in a drawer.
@amiablePeace77
This week I promise myself to -keep my daily fitness routine intact
It will help me with - increasing my health, and confidence and willpower
@blissart
Sounds helpful! What did you do today?
@amiablePeace77
Let's fill in the blanks
This week I promise myself to not lie and practice humility
@quietOwl913 those are two important things for sure.
I promise myself to make me a priority.
This will help me with making sure that I value myself .
@kindStrings3073
Good thinking! You matter!