Tough or Gentle?
- What are you doing when you notice that you're being really tough on yourself?
- What do you feel like when you accept yurself and are gentle and kind to yourself?
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@soulsings
Being gentle on myself means
Acceptance .
Allowing myself time for self care.
Telling myself I took deserve care and consideration!
Not feeling guilty over a lie in!
Being gentle means allowing myself to cry!
To not pretend!
💜💕
@Amanda84 sounds like you have found a way to accept yourself.
@soulsings
I have, it took a while, alot of trial and error 💜😁
@Amanda84 that is how I learn also.
@soulsings
Being tough on myself is the norm for me so I guess I feel normal. 🤷♂️
@courageouspanda2006 I find that I carry over how I was treated yoiunger in life by others to treat myself.
@soulsings
As a boomer, I hardly understand the question. I notice that a lot of youngsters don't seem to be tough ENOUGH 😃
@Fradiga we'll see about that, challenges you to a arm wrestling competition😂😂😂
@Tinywhisper11
The weakest one wins !!
@Fradiga 😂😂😂😂😂 such a cheat
@Fradiga I think having fortitude when I face chaenges as good.
On the other hand just criticizing mysef needlessly does not accomplish anything in my opinion.
@soulsings
Too many balls in the air? I would not try to catch everything. I often get anxious about what I must do when actually, I am never too late and have plenty of time. As long as the most important is done, the rest should not worry you.
This is why there are two lists: the urgent and the important, but we generally also accomplish a lot without even thinking about it.
@soulsings what I'm doing when I find I'm being tough on myself, is thinking about bad memories and the shame and blame that comes with it, or when I don't understand things (which is a lot of the time) or when I can't do something because of being in a wheelchair 🙁 but when I do be kind to myself I feel like I'm getting somewhere in life, it makes me see the gratitude in the little things and motivated me to do better 💖
@Tinywhisper11 I agree when I am kind to myself and not judging yself harshly that I feel better about life.
@soulsings
When I feel I am getting really tough on myself I remind myself that this is the voice from the past demanding me to achieve perfection. I will comfort myself with supportive self-talk.
@amiablePeace77 I thought I was the only one that had to strive to be pperfect! 😍
