When you're disappointed, do you often push harder, let go, or shut down?
When you're disappointed, do you often push harder, let go, or shut down?
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@amiablePeace77 shut down
@Hane121212
It must be hard for you to go through disappointments! I hope it will change so they will not have such a heavy impact on you.
I generally shut down when I'm disappointed 😔 ☹️
@lightBirch2565
It helps some people to move their bodies around (exercise), getting rest and eating healthy. Self-care is most important when life become overwhelming.
I accept the defeat as it comes, but push forward if there's other ways to go about it. If there's no other way, I let go, I'll choose peace over putting myself through more feelings of disappointment.
@AniahSunshine
Glad you choose peace instead of getting caught up in the disappointment!
I push on until I can't anymore but there is still this feeling, I don't know if anyone relates, that disappointement is linked to self criticism. So, I start with wanting to give up, thinking I am weak and not good enough, then few moment after I have this energy feeling that I cannot quit. I need to push on, cause it is my responsability to make things move forward.
@bubbleSummer9800
Do you believe those feelings of not being good enough etc. have their origin in childhood or what people told you over and over again (what might have been lies!)? Glad you move on after a short while!
@amiablePeace77
Most often I push harder. I was taught to take responsibility for my life. So if I want something, it is my responsibility to put the effort in to get it. And if I was unsuccessful, it was no ones fault but mine and my responsibility to figure out what went wrong and what to do differently.
However, I also do shut down. Because if it is a big disappointment, the responsibility is heavy. Sometimes too heavy to bear.
I'm trying to be more open to letting go. Particularly when my hopes or expectations were unrealistic.
@Clio9876
It seems that you well know what's going on inside of you! Learning to let go more will help! We don't need to cling to things that do not support us but weight us down.
@amiablePeace77 I sometimes will shut down and get angry overtime I reach out to a friend to discuss the situation.
@eternalHero77
Sharing what burdens, you can help a lot!
@amiablePeace77
Either push on or let go depending on the situation.
Sometimes it's better to let go than letting it drain us and sometimes all it takes is just go, push yourself, if it leads to growth and virtuousness
@Kosmoslistening
I very much agree with you. We need to be able to do both!
Love this question!
If I'm disappointed with myself I'm going to push harder, pour into me and never give up.
When it comes to others, I will try to have conversations then let go of it continues to disappoint.
@KindCoachListens
Nice to hear that you never give up! 💪
When people continue to disappoint and it's not because of our expectations were too high letting go sounds healthy to me.
@amiablePeace77 Unfortunatly I shut down
@eternalHero77
I hope the next time you get disappointed you rather connect to a listener here to talk instead of shutting down.
@amiablePeace77
When you're disappointed, do you often push harder, let go, or shut down?
It depends what/who I’m disappointed in. But in a general sense I let go and push harder bc most of the time I don’t see being disappointed as beneficial in any way. Of course I’ll be disappointed sometimes bc that’s a part of being a human being.
@akunknown
Great way to see it!
