Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In: November 4th, 2019
Good morning my beautiful community! I hope everyone is having a happy Monday. Today, I'd like to talk a little bit about boundaries and how they can be good for our mental health.
Emotional boundaries define separateness. Your emotional boundaries are the property lines that separate your thoughts and feelings from those of other people. Boundary setting is an important part of self-care and is critical in creating healthy relationships, increasing self-esteem, and reducing stress, anxiety, and depression.
Boundaries protect your personal self by setting a clear line between what is me and what is not me. Boundaries are important because they set the basic guidelines of how you want to be treated by others and it also shows others how they are to behave around you. A boundary also prevents you from rescuing someone from the consequences of their destructive behavior that they need to experience in order to grow. In short, boundaries are very helpful to have!
I would LOVE to know the following:
1. Do you feel establishing boundaries are important for mental health?
2. It's Monday! How is work? How is school? How are YOU doing?
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I feel it's really important to be aware of your own boundaries and make them clear to others. But often I value myself too little to actually guard my boundaries. If someone requests something of me that I know or at least suspect crosses my boundaries, I will often agree to it to prevent any issues in the moment. If the situation actually crosses my boundaries I keep it to myself and it comes out in a damaging way later.
@Madaraismyspiritanimal Hello there friend! I really like your response! I feel boundaries are important too and I can relate to you when you say you just agree with people crossing your boundaries to "keep the peace" you could say. I used to do the same thing until I realized I really needed to take boundaries more seriously! Thank you for checking in with me!
@baylinAnderson123
Yeah deep down I know guarding my boundaries is gonna be better for me long term, but I often don't, in part to keep the peace, but also cause I'm afraid people might mock me for the boundaries I set.
It's definitely something I'm trying to work on, but it's hard when so many systems from inside me seem to work to achieve the opposite. If that makes any sense
@Madaraismyspiritanimal It actually makes perfect sense! It takes a while to get used to the boundaries you set for youself but I know you can do it and you'll be really good at maintaing them like I do now! I was in the same place as you a while ago and I just want you to know that it does get better, we just have to keep practicing it and wanting it!
@baylinAnderson123
Figuring out my own boundaries for myself and others was the first step I took in my healing process. First, they were rigid but gradually became more flexible throughout the year. If anyone is disrespecting your boundaries, they are disrespecting you! ♡
@zaatarHoney Beautifully said! I love it and I love the positive energy you have!
@baylinAnderson123
awwwe thanks suga ♡ likewise!
1. Do you feel establishing boundaries are important for mental health?
100%. It's something I've struggled with! Getting better at it. Learning to be assertive has been a real issue throughout my life.
2. It's Monday! How is work? How is school? How are YOU doing?
I'm ok. Work isn't great. Need to work quite a bit harder!
@crimsonTalker6672 Hello there! I too struggled with creating boundaries and I am so glad to hear that you are getting better at creating and maintaining yours! Keep practicing! I am sorry to hear that work isn't that great today. I hope it gets better and thank you for checking in with me!
@baylinAnderson123 Yes boundries are very important. I have struggled with boundries throughout my life. I am improving little by little and hope to improve some more. I am doing okay today.
@adventurousBranch3786 I really struggled with my boundaries too and I am really glad to hear that you are getting stronger with yours! It takes practice and we get better at it! I really enjoy your positive attitude and thank you for checking in with me!