Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check In - Saturday January 27th 2018
Happy Saturday everyone! I have a question for you......
Is your glass half full?
Is your glass half empty?
Or are you just grateful to have a glass in the first place - and bonus, it has something in it!
What Im asking is, how do you perceive your world, and does it really matter?
For instance, are you a victim, or are you a survivor? Which word makes you feel most powerful?
Is it true that changing the way you think can change the way you feel?
Gosh, too many questions for one day - sorry about that. But I just wanted to raise the idea of something very much in our power, and ask you to consider how your view of something, your perception, can indeed make the same situation look incredibly different.
And just for fun, take a look at these images. Theyre images that have divided opinion, because some people see one thing, others see different. Theres no right or wrong answer to these, but please consider this - just because someone elses perception may differ to yours, whos to say whos wrong and whos right?
Is this dress blue and black, or white and gold?
What colour are these shoes?
Why not stop by and tell us how your days going? A warm welcome is guaranteed 🙂
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AUDIBLE IS HAVING A KILLER SALE AND I JUST BOUGHT EIGHT INCREDIBLE BOOKS FOR TWENTY BUCKS.
So yeah, I'm having a good day. I don't care about anything else, my new books squash any bad vibes.
@Blinkk
I love books they have a way of transporting us if even for a little while.. Its awesome that you got a great sale.. Glad you are having a good day *hugs*
@DeborahUK
Morning!
This is an interesting checkin! In fact, it reminded me alot of this image I saw the other day:
I really feel that perspective has a massive impact on how we feel, and the same thing can be perceived in two or more different ways, and they can both or all be entirely true, but yet make us feel very differently about a specific situation.
Living with anxiety often makes me see things from a very scary angle, my fears affect my thoughts and my thoughts affect the way I feel. My perspective on situations may be true and real, but they are often less likely to occur than other possible outcomes. For example, I am always afraid when people I care about take the plane. I get worried that the plane will crash and well, nothing good comes from that... In reality, though there is that possibility that that could indeed happen, chances are it will not, but I can't stop worrying about that small possibility anyway. If I let my fears and anxieties take over, that's the kind of thinking I can easily go into, which in turn also makes me fearlful and anxious. But with perspective I could look at that from another another less worrisome angle. And then suddenly the exact same situation is less stressful or scary.
It's alot of training our brains and reassurance from people and I think that's what alot of us are here on 7 cups for: for help in reprogramming our brains to look at our situations from a new angle that is easier to accept and cope with.
BTW: the dress is brown and blue and the shows are grey and turquoise.
@WaterLily16
Yes, perspective is also used in another way isnt it, the idea of keeping things in perspective. Not allowing worries to loom larger than they merit. Your example of people flying is a good one. There is a chance there could be a disaster, but in reality its very, very, very unlikely. So to keep it in perspective, its a very minimal risk.
Truth is life carries risks. Stepping out of your bed in the morning carries risks, using stairs, kettles, falling, etc, but staying in your bed forever more can also cause problems with blood clots, chest infections and the like. So risk is a necessary part of life, but keeping that risk in perspective enables you to go about your day in a peaceful and anxiety free way. Sometimes though our brain likes to make us question those risks, and anxiety creeps in. Just remember though, the risks are the same now as before the anxiety, but the way you perceive them has altered. And if its altered one way, it can alter back.
I love the image you posted. A really good example of how things can seem very different depending on the way we look at them.
I hope you enjoy whats left of your Saturday :)
I am not a victim or a survivor. I am a fighter. I fight the nightmares and the pain. I fight the thoughts and the fear. I fight to move forward every day.
@RedHawk6547
I admire you so much for your fighting spirit. I imagine it must feel exhausting at times. But its most definitely a fight worth having, and I hope one day soon you come out victorious. In the meantime youve found a community here who will stand by you, cheer you on, and even be your tag team if you need a break. Dont ever think youre alone. There are people who understand, people who care, and people who know you deserve better. Keep fighting dear friend.
Hi,
What a wonderful topic! Our perspective is important when it comes to our personal view of the world as in many ways it creates our current reality. We cannot change some situations but our approach and/or reaction is within our control.
Looking at the topic from the inside out. Our ability to change our perspectives gives us the unique ability to try to step into the place of another and see the world from their experiences (or as close as one can actually be). It enables us to have compassion, respect and treat others with a genuine desire to make their path a little bit less lonely. If for no other reason, the fact that we have truly tried to listen and honor their experiences.
In doing all of this with an open mind, it is incredibly inspiring to walk beside someone who is healing. He or she is teaching me how to live with a greater understanding of compassion as I watch them begin to lead a happier, healthy lives. We are truly connected in ways that I never imagined before someone walked beside me as I began to heal.
Be well and safe hugs 💛
@Compassionatelistener108
Wow! How I wish I had been eloquent enough to write that. A lovely contribution. Thank you so much :)
@DeborahUK
Thank you for your reply. I appreciate it more than you can imagine this evening 💛
Glasses are refillable, I am neither victim nor survivor - I am a warrior, because I
I'm not half empy, I'm completely empty because my glass is thrown down and shattered.
@Rebekahwriter13
@MelanieDaniels63
I appreciate but I don't feel worthy enough of gold.
@Rebekahwriter13
How bout some white gold? Sterling silver? Oooo, rose gold is pretty! Rose gold is actually my favorite, but my skin color dictates that I can only wear silver or white gold 😜
@BeeLeigh I do like silver, but my depression isn't letting me accept anything
@Rebekahwriter13
Hmmm....whats your favorite color and animal?
@BeeLeigh purple and cat
Now I think of the show "girl meets world."
@Rebekahwriter13 😸💜
@BeeLeigh
Thank you
@BeeLeigh
You're such a sweetie Bee 😍
I just had to call the crisis line for the first time in a long time because I am really not doing okay. Sorry but I haven't had enough sleep to even know what a perspective is and I just don't want to be alone anymore. I am feeling really desperate.
@Kuma0187
Hang in there. You wont feel this way for ever. Im really glad you reached out for help when you needed it! You are stronger than you realize! I hope you feel better <3
@Kuma0187
Im so sorry youve hit such a hump in the road dear Kuma. As @WaterLily16 says, its good that youve reached out for support. Please continue to do so ❤️
So this is weird. I knew about this dress argument when it circulated on the net. Never paid much attention to it. Just for fun I was just about to write thats I see white and gold (which I did!!) but then had another look after reading all the black and blue comments and now that is what I see. Black and blue! WTAF?!
And the shoes look white and pink (in a very blue flash)
@faithfulCranberry5276
It really is weird isnt it? Those shoes? Pink, without a doubt. But then, just as I scrolled down the thread again, they were grey! Im as mind boggled as you are!
Feeling quite neglected and unimportant right now
This morning I was fine, right now not so much
@Tenacity37
Hello friend! Youll not be neglected here. Good to hear from you, and I hope whatevers on your mind soon clears. Is there any more you wish to share?
@DeborahUK
I don't want to remember any more
@Tenacity37
Understood. You just take it easy for now. This feeling will pass ❤️
@Tenacity37
How you doin today?
@BeeLeigh
Just got home from therapy, I'm tired now
@Tenacity37
Comfort food and Netflix are my post therapy go to
Hiya!
Im gratefull to have a glass, and i deffinetly call myself a survivor!
Dress is black and blue
Shoes grey and mint green/blue
@RedSinner20
Hey survivor, great to hear from you. Not sure I see what you do on the shoe colour, though in truth I see different colours every time I look at them. Welcome to Saturday