Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Tuesday 24th October 2017
Hi everyone!
In just a few words today. .. feeling very thankful to hear that our Kite, who we miss so much, is doing ok. And wanting to congratulate our Wizeakre on the arrival of her new baby. And opening this space for anyone in the trauma family who has something to share with us..
As my favourite and loveable bear Winnie the Pooh says : Its more fun to talk with someone who doesn't use long, difficult words, but rather short, easy words like"What about lunch?" So whether its in a few words or a few more words you are welcome here and we value your input.
Love to hear from you. This is your space and a safe place. x
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I too am relieved with numbness right now. I've been sick and have to have a consult with a surgeon this afternoon for possible endoscopy in the near future. The loss of control I feel during any medical procedures that cause memory lapses tends to trigger me so I am enjoying the numbness while it lasts
@christine1980
Yes so sorry to hear this have this to go through.. not easy at all... know that we are here with you. Hugs! x
@christine1980
I hope today finds you in a good spot. Thinking of you and hope you check-in here on the check-ins if you need to.
@melliotm
hi
@sensitiveShade5337 Hi Shade ☺️ 👋
@melliotm
i dont understand! How come my name has gone from the tag list?
@WaterLily16 I see @hoxenos already responded to you on yesterday's check in -- resubmit your name and the appropriate parties will re-add you asap. How are you doing today btw?❤️
@melliotm
Thanks a lot for that and yeah Ive already resubmitted. No idea what happened there.
Its been a really tough day today. Ive been dealing with some family drama which has resulted in mum leaving possibly long term and it was very hard to say bye today knowing I may not see her for some time. This happens a lot unforunately. She has been known to leave a lot and come back but something in me feels like she may not be back for awhile. Im trying to stay strong and be a support to my younger sister right now because shes really struggling with this. Im having her come and stay with me for a bit. It kills me to see my sister so heartbroken over this and I wish so much that things were different... Im angry too because this has been like this ever since I can remember and every time she leaves its like she doesnt care and hardly even says bye properly. The days leading up to her leaving she becomes really distant as though its easier for her to go if shes not so attached.
Anyway thanks for asking Melliot, I appreciate that though I wish I could have given you a more uplifting positive answer <3
@WaterLily16 Aw Lily I'm sorry you're having to deal with what sounds like an ongoing situation that from what you've described you are all too familiar with. ❤️ It's really good of you to be there for your sister during a difficult time for your family. Please do your best to show yourself some well deserved and much needed compassion as well. Thank you for honestly sharing with us and reaching out for the support you need deserve. You are not alone.⛺❤️
I'm fairly new to 7 Cups, so I'm checking things out trying to learn how this all works. I'm a Certified Peer Specialist for NAMI where I live, and figured I could help those here at 7 Cups by listening. Just wanted to say hello.
@SpringfieldButterfly hello👋☺️⛺❤️
@melliotm
Hello
@SpringfieldButterfly
Aww that's awesome! Welcome to 7 cups! It's great to have you here!!!! :D❤❤❤❤
Alright, well today I thought I was 100% over my disaster obsession and the trauma of being exposed to most natural disasters during september. ...guess I was wrong because yesterday I helped a woman cross a bridge, she said she was still too scared of an earthquake happening and then she would surely die while crossing.
I had nightmares about it and woke up with my marks on the palms of my hand from how hard I was making fists while I slept. It has been over a month since the earthquakes, but I feel like I will never go back to normal.
It is specially hard when I make individual progress and my whole city is still reliving it. One day at a time, right?
@PenguinsCrossing ❤️❤️❤️⛺
@PenguinsCrossing I do not have words for you except to say that I am sorry. Sorry that you went through that to begin with and sorry that you are still going through it. I love that you were helping someone else today. No matter how bad things are today just think how much you helped on the bridge. Helping others despite your own trauma.
You sound like someone I would enjoy getting to know better.
@EMSFireChic1985
Thank you FireChic. I am sorry too, but we can't control these things. Thank you for your words and of course a new friend is always welcome!
So happy to hear about the new little one and to know that Kite is doing okay. Today is my travel day. It is nice to get out for a while. Things have been oddly quiet lately. I am tired and having a difficult time getting sleep. The holiday season is so close and always a difficult time. I thought it would be a little easier this year. It seems like that might not be the case. Have to wait and see. We will deal with it a moment at a time.
Thinking of you, mellio. 💛
@Compassionatelistener108 aww thanks 💛💛💛 best wishes on your journeys today
I cannot get my dead ex off my mind. It's like since Halloween my ptsd is hyper drive. Tom's favorite holiday was Halloween. I can't wait for Nanowrimo.
@Rebekahwriter13
My heart goes out to you. Anniversaries and special events and times that we have shared are often very difficult especially in the first year. Its to be expected that you would be affected in this way. Try to be gentle with yourself and maybe plan how you are going to get through Halloween. Hugs x
@rozie I focusing on writing as most my friends are busy and no money to go out.
I got a rejection tonight on my call back. I feel terriible!!! I just wish someone cared about. This meant so much to me and my coubselor didnt even reply to my email. He isn't who I thought he was. I literally have no one in this whole world. If I died tonight no one would even care. I have nothing to look forward to. I try and try and nothing good ever happens for me. I'm so tired of not getting picked . I just hurt so much.
@KLM3278
Hey KLM, itll be ok, hon.
I just got some anxiety-causing news tonite myself.
I have been thinking about your callback and wondered how it went. I was busy - which is sorta rare for me - and didnt ask howd it go Altho I had every intention of asking.
Dont write off your counselor so quickly. He may be busy with other things. He may be letting you have a moment to build some inner strength. Who knows what counselors think or what theyre motives are. Also, he is only human.
So are you. And its ok to hurt. This is not the end and you will get other parts. Im sorry you didnt get this one, wanted you to. Just remember to breathe. It will be okay. 💜
@themainjane
Thanks. It just hurts a lot. I feel like i have nothing. And i try and try and never quite get picked. It hurts so much
@KLM3278
Thinking of you today..... as you say it hurts. Know that you were hoping for this part, and we were hoping with you. Remember what is said "when one door shuts, another opens." Try to be kind and gentle with yourself...and give yourslef time to come to terms with it. Hugs x
@rozie
Thank you so much. I am!!! ❤️
@KLM3278
I hear you saying you try and try and never get picked... I hope you challenge this negative thinking. 💛 Didnt you say a while back you were picked for a part you really wanted in another play? If I am remembering that right, let me know.
I know its difficult to not fall into the trap of black-n-white, all or nothing thinking (because I do it myself). Just remember, try to remember that not getting this part does not make You any less worthy.
I also want to say that I know how disheartening it is to feel (and really believe) that all your efforts seem for nought and to feel like things come to others (which is okay, you dont want to take from their happiness, but where is yours?)
Wiz has a very good comment about never knowing why things work out the way they do. And what can look like heartache today might actually be just making room for what you really need. Love to you, KLM. You are so dear and you have a beautiful and sweet soul.
@themainjane
Thank you SO VERY much!!!! Yes. I did have an amazing part a few months ago. I miss it a lot. I love being in a play. It also gives me something to do. I am all alone. Being in a show makes my nights less lonely. I have rehearsals and a goal!!!! And then you pefrom and it is wonderful !!!!!!!! I do believe you. I guess i think only black or white to. It just hurts because I was SO close and I wanted it SO much!!! Other people seem to get everything!! They get family and boy friends and husbands and children AND get to do shows!!! I just sometimes feel like giving up forever because nothing seems fair. I know what you mean and what you all are saying. It is true!!! Thank you for caring!!!!!!
Im anxious. Theyre going to put an ankle bracelet on my spouse yet hes still drinking.
I dont know what to do. You know how I said I could use a friend?
I think I could use a friend right now.
@themainjane
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@themainjane
I'm sorry!!!! Hug! That happened to someone I know. It is scary. Hug
@KLM3278
It is scary. Just waiting for the other shoe to drop. Thanks.
@themainjane
I know!!! HUG!!!!!!
@themainjane
@themainjane
Thinking of you... can understand this isn't easy for you... and to be anxious would be expected Remember you have friends, keep talking with us, we are here in support. Hugs! x
@rozie
Thanks rozie. Im worried. Not that I dont always worry... but if he messes up he could get locked up for a year. Our business will fail, what will I do? Im not that high-functioning and trapped in my house most days. How will I make it? This means I cant drink either. And he was doing good last time until I slipped up.
How is he ever going to make it? And they the holidays? Im scared he wont even get a chance at all and hell end up testing positive when they go to put it on and that will be that.
Got all my this booze all over the house thats got to go and neither of us has the strength to pour it down the drain. Thought maybe Id drink some of it to get rid of it. But that will set him off. I dont even know if hes going to drink tonight and I dont know when the monitor will be put on him.
