Traumatic Experiences Community Daily check-in October 15 2017
Hello all, welcome to my very first Check-in. 
Being new to the Trauma Support Team, I figured Id just re-introduce myself today for those I have not met yet. So...
Hi I'm Raven, It's nice to meet, and see you all today. I suppose for most details you could simply read my bio, which I am happy to answer any questions about. The basics would be that I am a Transgendered woman, my pronouns are female (she/her) just like any other girl. I am a Veteran, an Herbalist (with a cool laboratory), a musician, a refugee, a Rancher with animals, and a total Lunachick on an atv to say a few things. I have been working Trauma Support in one capacity or another for decades and found myself here in 7cups this last January. I have met and chatted with many of you here in this time, as well since I began "Shadowing" here in mid September, to become part of the Trauma Support Team and I look forward to getting to know everyone else. I'm generally an easy going and quite normal person to chat with, feel free to post me and say hi.
Ok, enough about me for now, How is everyone today? Any goals for the week? Got some plans? As someone once asked me, "What it is, what it was, whats happening?" lol I like that. Step right up folks, don't be shy. This is a safe space, and it belongs to all of you.
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@Raveninthelabrynth hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D super awesome first post!!!!
@Jesse9675n\ Thanks Jesse :) How are you doing today?
@Raveninthelabrynth good!!! grapes :D :) grapes are aweosme to lol :)
@Jesse9675 I take it you still have "The Duck Song" stuck in your head lol
I am so exhausted - I got maybe like 2 hours sleep ...again.
Goals:learn how to support myself through this ( go to library and read up on how to do that)
Plans: work and try to not obsess over all of this because I am a loser if i do , apparently.
@blissedNblessed Hugs hon, sounds likesome good plans and goals.
Add sleep at nite to it. lol hugs
@Raveninthelabrynth
Hugs back .
Thanks <3
@blissedNblessed I'm sorry you're going through the stress hon. You know you can post me anytime. :)
@Raveninthelabrynth
I know <3
And I thnk you a million times over for that.
It means a oot to me ;)
Welcome!
It is wonderful to see your first post. Thank you for sharing. It is inspiring to hear such positive outcomes. I am sure that you have sooo much to offer as you help guide us through our journeys.
Today is a good day for me. I have been taking some time to work on things. This time I have been moving more slowly. For me, it has been helpful. The things that are overwhelming have not completely swept me away so far. It happens from time to time but grounding is becoming a little bit more accessible.
Take care and enjoy the weekend.
@Compassionatelistener108 Thank you for your warm welcome.
Time is a funny thing. It's truly realative to the observer. Just an illusion mostly. The best part about Time is we can to a point control it. No we can't set back the years and have younger bodies, but we can speed it up, slow it down, or completely lose track of it by our own observations. Make Time yours. Own it. Make it work for you at your own pace.
Remember the rest of the world is on other time though lol.
@Raveninthelabrynth
I love the fact you point out the subtleties of time. I happen to be a fan of cosmology, quantum mechanics, theoretical physics... how did you know 😀. The mysteries of our universe. Something spectacular to say the least.
@Compassionatelistener108 Dr. Neil Degrasse Tyson is AMAZING!!! ;)
I am not okay, im not okay, im not okay
cries.
but i refuse to sit in this .. .
going to fill my day full of fun things to boost my moods.
Listening to happy music, looking through my shopping spree haul
going to go out tondasy - just me - and do something I like
but still..
so sacred
so not okay
@blissedNblessed You ARE ok you are ok you are ok. :)
Keep your focus my friend. Don't program your mind with the negative thoughts. Repetition is programing and learning.
Let's try this again togeather hon.
I Am Ok. All is Well. I am having a Wonder Filled Day. And it's loud happy music and bummie shakin time.
@Raveninthelabrynth
I am actually listening to happy music now. I put away anything triggering, got off all triggering talks, and am distracting self.
I am looking at the recent haul of my shopping spree.
I do plan on going to trauma support session today :(
I am scared I will not be included or wanted, im scared i wont be able to stay the whole time, im scared it will trigger me worse - but i feel i need to go.
I am even worse afraid that i will switch and everyone will hate her/him/it ;(
and i will be banned or kicked out in case he/she .it/me is not...idk,,,,,
but until then:
I Am Ok. All is Well. I am having a Wonder Filled Day. And it's loud happy music and bummie shakin time
@blissedNblessed Hon, you are always included and welcome. :)
I'm co-leading this one, hope to see you there. :)
@Raveninthelabrynth
Even with the bum shaking and reprogtramming - i coudlnt make it though the session, i think i got 10 min in and left.
i am a loser.
@blissedNblessed Hoot an Phoohey You Say!!!
We do what we can. When we reach our limits, that doesn't make us a lser. The loser is the person whom doesn't know when to back off and does more harm
@Raveninthelabrynth
thanks :)
@blissedNblessed You're not alone. I don't often join in, but when I do, I rarely make it through a full group support session without feeling overwhelmed/triggered and having to leave for self care reasons. 10 minutes is amazing, in my opinion. There's no shame in how or why our struggles manifest, nor in showing ourselves compassion when they do. ❤️⛺
@blissedNblessed Nice job on the reprograming and bummie shakin lol;)
Another grey day. I have goals in theory, but they often feel unattaiable, even in the tinest parts. Today, it feels like just moving from room to room will be challenging. Everything feels heavy. Maybe I will surprise myself.
@wontsleepwontwake Take those goals and seperate them into smaller steps. One step at a time we make it. :)
@Raveninthelabrynth
Hey Raven, woot congrats on taking the leap to do the check-ins! :) I like how that person asked that. What is it, what was it, and whats happening!
Dunno what to say for now. Just tryin' to keep my head above water lately. A lot of believing in myself and my own intuition and perceptions...y'know how it goes when people try to tell you what to think and what not. Right now I'm takin' the day to play around. And after Thursday's hardcore session at therapy I'm still kinda in self-care mode. Gonna try for schoolwork today...but if it doesn't happen whatever. XD Hope your university stuff is going well! <3
@CaloenasNicobarica " 'Cause I'm in too deep, and I'm tryin to keep, up above in my head instead of going under."
Hon, we rise and we fall, we wait for the call,,we walk into walls we walk into walls!
But I will still be laughing! WE always must listen to educated advise, only a fool wouldn't. But in the end our Decisions/Choices/Destiney/Fate, is in OUR hands. The universe offers suggestions of outcomes, what do you choose!
Falling apart a little bit here. Holding on. Issues with house & roommate is placing the blame squarely on me even though it's not my fault, and it's triggering me. Because everything is my fault as far as the thought cycles go. And they are spinning out of control and I can't get my brain to stop eating me alive and I'm small and stupid and I f***ed up even though I didn't and I'm trying not to fall apart and hate myself.
@melliotm hill Mel. First off, we love you.
Please don't blame yourself for failures in communication with others. Remember the olde addage, "It takes two to tango."
no one person can be solely responsible for anything truthfully. There's just no science to back it up.
Sorry yer room mate is being confrontational. Perhaps hear and take note of what is said but not respond till a better time. :)
Much love hon, sorry your world sucks right now. Hugs
@Raveninthelabrynth thank you ❤️❤️ I don't do well with confrontation, to put it mildly. Everything is turned up to eleven emotionally.
@melliotm well, that's one louder innit? lol (sorry spinat tap joke)
@Raveninthelabrynth I'm just glad someone got the reference😊
(moments pass; Spinal Tap lives forever -- well, except for their drummers.)
@melliotm Much Love Mel, Chin up love.
Ye look better that way ;)
Hi Raven! It is nice to see you here and be able to thank you again for your help and guidance through my first night on this site. You made all the difference in my decision to come back. It is honestly helping in a lot of areas. :)
My goals for the week are to not try to move too fast. I set things off pretty bad trying to read too much and do too many therapy based exercises too fast. So, this week my main goal is to work on awareness, acceptance, and breathing as well as journaling.
This will be my first week in therapy, so I am trying to make sure all necessities are taken care of before that first visit, just in case I am left unable to cope and do what I need to do. I am also working a safety plan in case it is needed during this time.
Other than that, I am just planning to try to take it easy and make it through this challenging step in life. It is scary to say the least because it is pulling me so far from my comfort zone, but reading posts on here has helped my determination. I believe I can do it and be better for it in the end. I just hope that determination doesn't fail once I get started.
@TeenyTinyAppy Hey Teeny, Welcome hon, I'm gald you stuck around and found some help. Theres ther first day or so, stick about longer and theres no telling what you may personally accomplish if you're willing to face things and seek true answers.
I am Happy to hear you are in therapy fighting for your recovery.
Truth is hon everyone on the globe is scared! Some just don't have time for that emotion but to say "yep" and focus on the task on hand.
I would like to welcome you to "The Cup" again as well as to the Trauma Community.
Speak only truth no matter what it is, focus on only factual truths to assess differences, Seek the TRUE SOURCE of your suffering and tend to it in the most effective to you way.
Here it is alle about you(to you). Face yourself boldly hon, and seek true answers. Don't waste time on speculation.
Welcome
Not a great day, haven't slept well all this past week and was hoping to try and catch a bit of extra rest this weekend but sleep is not my strong point. And it is about to be Monday again with another really long and challenging week ahead. Certainly wondering how long I can do this before I fall apart completely. Not feeling ready for the week.
@EMSFireChic1985 Hon, I was in your position many years. (((HUGE HUGS)))
Few here may understand what your woes are, but I do. Please feel free to post me priately anytime you need or wish. :)
My friends, the day has been quite long for me here today. I thank you alle for sharing a piece of yor soul with me, and some of your woes too. Day bu day we alle make it inch by inch. :)
I must rest now, but I would like to leave you alle with a piece of my soul in return.
This short Charlie Brown Video clip is something I held on to from my childhood. I shared it with my Daughters with a statement that I share with you alle now.
Sleep well, and dream of dancing in the fields with the bunnies. :)
https://youtu.be/9ANyHZ59KZA (Type it into youtube search if it doesn't work or search "Snoopy and the dancing bunnies")
Raven :)
