How do people get support things this :(
I have lot of bad things happen and no one talk about things :( how do find people talk to will not be mean to you ? I don’t like talk to my brothers or mom or daddy about this things because I don’t want them think I’m bad and worse person and I don’t want random listener because don’t want trigger them accidentally is just feel all alone just need talk about things and is not fair 😭😭😭
@theboymoana
I'm so sorry. I understand this difficult to go alone through and you deserve to be able to talk to people about how you feel without them being judgmental about it. I unfortunately don't take chats on these topics. but you can browse for a listener that does.
@kindcherry2
I just always pretend never happens but had go see judge before court thing and all all keep in my head now just I want it stop.i try look for listener just don’t understand look for and people really long bio things can’t read all rules some have there idk just overwhelm to me 😭
@theboymoana
Pretending it didn't happen just makes things worse. I understand you want it to stop. I know it's tough keeping it all in your head. You have every right to feel this way. I'm so sorry for whatever you experienced. I want you to know that it isn't your fault and that you didn't deserve it at all. I know it's difficult to look for a listener. I guess I would say look for the ones that have five stars and look under the specific topic ptsd is my suggestion. It's understandable that this all is overwhelming because it truly can be and I can't imagine how you feel. I know it's difficult to read some rules. Bios are there just to help let people know what we do and don't take chats on and our names and stuff like that. Please take care of yourself.
@kindcherry2
i don’t think makes worse to me was just worse have keep remembering stuff just reading is really hard to me because of learning disabilities I try to read all things just can’t always do that and get more overwhelmed is just hard to me idk I just am really stupid
@theboymoana
I understand it makes things worse remembering things. Yes it can be difficult to learn when you have learning disabilities and I'm sorry to hear about them. It's understandable that you sometimes aren't able to read and comprehend the material which makes sense that it makes you overwhelmed. You're not stupid at all and If you'd like to talk feel free to message me.
Hey hey @theboymoana, you're not a bad person, and no one should think of you as one, for seeking support, I get how difficult it can be to talk about certain things with those around us, so glad you're reaching out in cups too and hoping you find some support soon. I see you've posted this thread in the SA sub-forum, are you needing support on this topic?
You're always welcome to browse for listeners who either have lived experience or are comfortable with the chat topic (as listed on their profile), https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/
It is really considerate of you to think about the listeners too, you can always ask them before the chat to begin, if they are okay talking about the topic(s) you need support for, that way if they aren't comfortable they can let you know at the beginning, or help you find a more suited listener. ❤
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Yes sa help to me I mostly just forget pretend never happen but just feel like all my fault this things happen if I’m not so so stupid people not hurt me so much can learn say no to people just I don’t all I do just cry I’m stupid. I try do browse just don’t understand look for and lot listener mean to me before am scared talk one
@theboymoana
A lot of people that have experienced trauma do the very same thing you have done. People try to pretend and forget but it just ends up coming back up but worse. This isn't your fault and I understand it can be difficult to say no. I'm one of those people who has always struggled with saying no to people. It's okay to cry and let your emotions out. Sometimes that is what we need to do. You're absolutely not stupid and your feelings and emotions are completely valid. I'm sorry that listeners have been mean to you and that you're scared to talk to one. But not all listeners are like that. There are some good ones out there that would be more than happy and willing to help you and support you. It depends on the age range of the listeners that you can talk to. I'm a teen listener so you may not be able to talk to me in messages but I don't mind answering the forums and talking to you that way.
I really appreciate your supportive comments here, Codie, well-said.❤ Just mentioning, I see both of you on a teen account, so y'all can indeed talk via PMs here too (if comfortable with the chat topic etc). @kindcherry2
@theboymoana
As kindcherry said, it's normal to forget or pretend it never happened, that's just one way our brain helps us through a traumatic event by blocking the information, events that followed, it's a normal experience for anyone going through similar, so you're definitely not alone, and again, it doesn't make you stupid or bad in anyway. ❤
I can understand how long bios can be overwhelming sometimes, the rules etc too making it seem confusing to pick a listener, also not your fault and never will be. Perhaps you can make a similar post requesting a listener to support you, in the member-classifieds sub-forum? Here: https://www.7cups.com/forum/GeneralSupport_28/MembersClassifieds_360/
You can state the topic(s) you're needing support with, any other preference you have in a listener, and request them to reach out. I hope someone who can help can see this and reach out to you for support. ❤
It really is not nice for anyone to be mean to anyone else anywhere, let alone a place like this where we know for sure the people are struggling with something or other, I'm so sorry you had to experience some of that, you did not deserve it, nobody ever does, let aside from a listener, if a listener ever behaves in a way that's disrespectful to you, or you find it be uncomfortable please let them know, if it's too much you can always report them so they can improve their behavior.
Telling someone no isn't easy at all, but that also doesn't make you stupid, it's a difficult thing for many of us, and we can always try to do what's better for our wellbeing. And crying is very much okie, you're allowed to express your emotions too. ❤
I see you as someone who's really determined and dedicated too, to learn, seek support, and feel better, also while being kind and respectful to others, none of which is easy or comfortable, but you try and give it your best always and that's really something to be proud about. ❤ I am proud of you, okie?
*passes a squishy squishmallow for comfort*
Hi. I'm not a listener, but I've been through a lot of different kinds of trauma and didn't know about PTSD until recently.
It doesn't matter how you act or don't act, you deserve to be treated well, loved for who u are, and respected for your strengths. I'm so sorry for your experiences, but I'm glad u can talk about it. That's the biggest step to becoming whole and enjoying life. You r brave and u r loved. Keep opening up to people. It took me 9 therapists before I found the right one.
Hand in there. You are not alone!
Oops... hang in there!