I found out that I might still be able to report it
Tw: Talks about rape.
So I found out recently that I could possibly still report my ***. A little back story when I was 4 and my brother was 18-19 he exposed himself to me, had my touch him, and gave oral. For years, I struggled with this, I didn't think it was considered rape. My memory is hazy of it due to trauma blocking. He confessed a year ago (he waited 19 years to confess and ask for forgiveness).
Just the other day, a family member reached out to me asking if I ever thought about reporting him still. She said the law in the state that it happened say the victim has 10 years after turning 18 to report the rape of a minor.
I'm really struggling with this... would a judge just laugh me, would it be wrong to ruin his life like that? He ruined mine, I have nightmares of it, ptsd, and trust issues when it comes to men. I know two wrongs don't make a right. Is it wrong of me to even be thinking about this. I don't want to see him or my other siblings and parents. Will I have to if I report him? I don't even live close to that state anymore.
Hello! I am going to be blunt here
Enough of the pessimism. You’re being negative and thinking these bad thoughts when you aren’t even certain of the outcome. Stop with the “ what ifs “ because you speaking up and reporting will come along way. You definitely aren’t wrong for “ ruining his life “ do not place any sympathy onto the same man who ruined your life and didn’t even care when he assaulted you. You need to be strong right now and I hope you will be because you deserve this. You deserve to be free from his grasp, you deserve to heal, you deserve to live your life accordingly. You deserve everything.
I hope you report him and go through with it because I am in the same situation and I am taking the liberty to pursue with reporting mine. You deserve to be free. You deserve the world and what happened wasnt your fault
I guess it's fair that crimes should be punished. The other problem is whether the legal battle could retraumatize you. Maybe discuss it with your therapist?
Hi dear stranger, I hope you're doing well today. If it's worth it to you to make sure that his behavior doesn't affect anyone else, any other young girls/boys, my advice is do it. Lock his a** up and throw that key in a volcano. He knew damn well what he was doing and it is disgusting, degrading and repulsive behavior. Destroy his life.
That's just me, my own opinion. Be well and don't do anything to put yourself in a compromising position over this, it's okay to let it go 🫶🏻
@Casmagicangel
I'm sorry to hear what happened to you. There's maybe a few things to think about...
1. Do you forgive him at all?
2. Does he have any idea how much it affected you?
3. Is he still a likely threat to anyone else?
4. Would you be able to say your piece somehow, and possibly be more at peace with everything at this point in time?
Personally, I don't believe in retributive justice in most cases, but something like this deserves to be taken seriously in one way or another. You're not a bad person to be considering this.
