Hello
Hi I’m new here,
I’ve been having a rough time for awhile now. There is so much to say but I’ll try to sum it up in as short as possible.
I feel like im living this life with hardly any support other than my husband and 2 little kids. I hate to burden my friends because they all have busy families as well.
Anyways my mother in law hates me and I don’t understand why is the biggest issue. We always got along great until I found out she was secretly calling my husband (her son) and telling him lies about me until he started believing her. Because why would she lie right, she didn’t have a reason. Just really outlandish stuff like I’m trying to keep their grandson away from them, but they came over during nap time… or I’m a stay at home that never wants to work again, I’m just with my husband for the money (while I’m in the process of getting a job, I have 2 degrees),making fun of my appearance. Just literally anything they can think of to make me look bad. If we were a few minutes late for family dinner on Sundays (while having a newborn) she would say I’m not giving them a fair amount of time vs my family. Just out there stuff. I am no contact with her. i can’t even see my father in law who I adore.
what makes it even more complicated is my mom is kind of the same way. I can’t even talk to her or ask her advice on anything without it turning on me that I’m the problem. One timei was crying while holding my newborn cause I needed support and he never slept, I could hear my mom making crying noises mocking me to my dad in the adjoining room. I just want my sons to have family so i try to Just block it out somewhat… we have had blow ups over things before
I feel like why is this happening to me? I’m a nice person, have lots of friends, its just Starting to affect me like I’m the problem but ive not done anything and would be the first To admit if I was wrong. It’s so hard being a mom with no mother figure to help 😭
Anyone have any advice Or have been in a similar situation?
@anonySail5248 I'm really sorry you're going through this. I want you to know that you're not the problem and that you don't deserve to be treated that way. You're not alone in this, and you truly matter 🤍 I hope you find the support here 🍀 Sending lots of love your way 🐾💕
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Wow, I'm sorry to hear that, that sounds like a really difficult situation. If we don't have a big support network, and instead the opposite, that our close relatives are putting us down, it can be really easy to falter and start doubting yourself
@anonySail5248
Hello and welcome. You will find many amazing people here who are willing to help.
So sorry that you do not have the family support you need and deserve. You are not the problem. You are a young mom who needs and deserves love, respect and support from your mother and your mother-in-law.
Sending comfort and love to you. Have a wonderfully blessed day.
Well, what you are going through makes no sense. I would head to a church, maybe talk to a pastor or counselor. See if talking to someone in the flesh can help. Just a,nutso situation for sure? I pray you can keep your head up and be humble. Try to be nothing but nice. Don't return evil for evil, that never works. Your husband should talk to his Mom! Get her to stop the negative comments! You are to come ahead of his family as his wife. Two become one against the world! He should put a stop to it. You must deal with your Mom, but with him backing you up 100%. I hate you are going through this. Will pray for you! Hugs!
As long as you are doing your best please do not look at your self as the prpblem I think what yyou should do is pray, and continue doing the good things you do.you do not have to please everyone or anyone as long as you pleases God ther is nothing wrong with you Just always think that what you are doing is giving glorification and honor to our God because you are trying your best to be good mother, good wife, good daughter. Let go of your doubts and worries and let God handles it.
She's narcissistic and doesn't like you. I read that and I felt that I knew that pain. If he keeps on believing her you're going to be pushed out the door and that's going to suck. God I wish I know how to help other then take your kids and run. You can't be a narcissist you just can't because they will never believe they are the problem. Hopefully it's been a month I noticed. Hopefully he opens his eyes and starts to see it. It scares me how good they are at getting to us and ripping us up and idk sorry wish I could help I'm sure someone has better words then I do to help but I read it and I'm like your stuck and I want to help but kids husband the other variables you just can't run. Idk try to talk to her or the biggest you could do is bring up the nasty things she says I'm company of everyone else but got to be careful or they can turn you into the problem real quick. Sorry I'm all over the place.
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