Discussion Question: Is a problem still a problem if you don't think it's a problem?

I think it depends on how we feel and if it's causing negative things to happen or if it's causing the people around you like your friends, significant other, family members, and other people of significance negativity in their lives or causing them to be concerned about what you're doing that may be the "problem"

Yes, absolutely! What may be a problem to you may not be a problem to me, however, that doesn't mean that there is no problem- it's just that I don't believe there is and vice versa. WHen it comes to problems, don't practice avoidance and also don't make everything a problem. Just like with mindfulness, accept the problem and be a solutions person.

When I was 18 years old I used to talk with myself out loud, even in the streets and even laughed.

I once asked a psychotherapist whether it was a problem.

He replied: Are you uncomfortable doing so?

Me: No, I'm ok. Others,however, question whether I'm ok, but I feel ok.
And he said: It's your life. if you feel ok in it, why should there be a problem? It's you who live with the consequences of your actions and you're ok with it. So what do you say, is it a problem?

Me: No.

It can be a problem. I used to restrict myself from food (not extreme amounts, just so that I wasn't hungry), and I didn't think that was a problem (I still don't believe it was). But I knew it could evolve and get worse, so I tried to get better, so it wouldn't become a problem. I'm basically back to normal

Most things you say isn't a problem really is a major problem. You are just trying to convince yourself it's not a problem by saying out loud

problem is always a problem. it depends on how you take it and deal with it. it's a matter of having a proper frame of mind and heart

Yes because even if you don't see doesn't mean its not one or a problem for someone else.

I think it is the worst kind of problem if you don't have an insight that it is an issue. Also things can be a problem for others and not for us so it depends how egocentric you want to be.

Extreme example. Let's say that you happen to be a serial killer who truly enjoys what he does and believes that he is so great at evading police that he will not be caught. You don't see your actions as a problem in the slightest but it is obviously a massive problem for your victims and their families.

@Laura yes, because we already knew first hand there was a problem, and then the thought of thinking it as ' not a problem' would have popped up. Problems and their interpretations, make us to think and come to a constructive solution, rather than denying or running away from it .

I guess it's both a matter of perception, as well as whether the problem is internal or external. Sometimes changing your perspective on an issue, can help you solve the problem. Sometimes it won't, and the problem will persist. If it's an internal problem, like something like anxiety, changing one's perception may help to ease the problem, if not get rid of it. If the problem is something external, you may not be able to fix it by ignoring the problem exists, or changing perspectives.