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Did You Know… Boredom is Good for You?

by innateJoy9602

1 hour ago

...See more "On the agenda for today: repairing boredom’s bad reputation. What: There’s nothing worse than being bored, right? Our “always-on,” extremely-online society tells us that boredom is a four-letter word and should be avoided at all costs. But science says something different. A recent study explored how boredom is necessary in order to live our best lives. It found that profound boredom helped participants discover their “self-transformative potential, launching people into new passions and unforeseen life trajectories.” Why: There are two different types of boredom: superficial and profound. Superficial boredom refers to being bored by a situation, like a meeting that could have been an email. It’s characterized by a need to escape. Profound boredom, on the other hand, is more of an existential thing that causes us to struggle with our sense of self. It’s characterized by indifference and apathy. Both leave us in limbo and feeling empty, but in the void of profound boredom, we can question what makes life meaningful and spark change. “Our study reveals a paradox in which the emptiness of profound boredom announces the possibility that things can be better,” the authors of the study wrote. How: We can’t get to profound boredom without experiencing superficial boredom. Preventing superficial boredom by scrolling through social media and being “always on” can keep us from finding more meaningful things. Thus, the authors of the study recommend resisting the urge to distract ourselves all the time, and instead, spend some time being bored." Read the full article on Poosh [https://poosh.com/boredom-benefits/] ✨Takeaway: Boredom can actually have some benefits. It's been shown to help you reflect and spark transformative change. ✨Reflection: What are your thoughts on boredom? #Boredom #Wellness #Mind #Health #Mood ------------------------- If you're interested in more wellness articles, check out: Why You Should Take Dance Breaks During The Day [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/WhyYouShouldTakeDanceBreaksDuringTheDay_297179/]

How Can I Exhaust My Brain So I Stop Obsessing?

by fruityPond7887

1 hour ago

...See more "We’re all just out here striving for a sense of control in a world full of chaos. One common way we do this—rumination, aka overthinking [https://poosh.com/how-to-stop-overthinking-crush/]. Overthinking makes it feel like we are preparing ourselves for any possible situation, but actually we’re overstimulating the emotion- and fear-processing region [https://www.simplypsychology.org/amygdala.html] in our brains. Basically, rumination is a mechanism to cope with uncertainty—but unfortunately, the “comfort” we get is temporary. On top of that, overthinking can affect our health in negative ways, increasing our risk of anxiety and depression [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23713497/] and messing with our sleep quality [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4362854/]. Then those unhealthy side effects lead to more overthinking (because ofc they do), making it a vicious cycle. We’ve found the below activities helpful when our thoughts are spiraling, because they direct our attention [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4492627/] and energy elsewhere. 1. Pick a color, then go for a walk and name everything you see that is that color. 2. Try a box breathing [https://poosh.com/box-breathing-for-anxiety/]. 3. Go for a run (or another cardio-based activity). 4. Reorganize your coffee table. 5. Problem solve and list out a few potential fixes for the issue. 6. Engage your other senses with a simple activity, like taking a really hot or really cold shower. 7. Play a brain game like Sudoku, or say the alphabet backwards. 8. Tense and relax your muscles" *Ah, overthinking. My best friend and my worst enemy. It feels like my whole life I've been overthinking. It can be hard to distract yourself, but it's important to do your best. It's also good to not fight these thoughts and remember that thoughts are just thoughts. They don't define you. ❤️ This list is a great start for some ideas to do when you are overthinking and need something else to keep you busy. I also really like to surround myself with my friends and family to make me feel better! What are some things you like to use to distract yourself when you are ruminating?* #Obsessing #Ruminating #IntrusiveThoughts Please find the full article at Poosh. [https://poosh.com/how-to-stop-obsessing/] If you liked this article, you may like this one on Obsessive Compulsive Disorder! [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/HowtoStopCompulsivelyConfessingOCDIntrusiveThoughts_274618/]

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by CosmicMiracle

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Creating a Kindness Zone

by innateJoy9602

12 hours ago

...See more "I want to remind you that you matter and are worth loving in your human limits. Instead of convincing yourself you can get control if you just worry more or push yourself harder or (when the limits are undeniable) telling yourself, “Who cares anyway?”—I want to offer you another path. Something you can do when you’re faced with what you cannot do. You can create a kindness zone. Creating a Kindness Zone Step 1: Notice the gap between what you want and what you can ultimately make happen. Believe it or not, noticing that gap is hard. We are very used to ignoring ourselves, especially when we don’t feel good or when things are not going as we want. Or when we do notice our vulnerability, we tend to worry, get impatient with ourselves, and try to get control. This is an important moment to pause, tune in, and matter. We can make the choice to stop telling ourselves the lie that we do have certainty and control or we should have certainty and control. Make it a priority to recognize when you are in a place of “I can’t." Step 2: Feel the gap. Unrest feels like a threat, like something isn’t right. Unrest is physical. It is muscle tension and a fidgety, agitated feeling. Say “hello” to that feeling like it’s a friend. This is not intuitive—you are going against the grain here—but approach this feeling you’d normally avoid. When you do this you are telling yourself at a deep, unconscious level that you matter. No matter what. Step 3: Visualize the kindness zone. Let yourself be aware of the unrest you feel in the fact that you are a vulnerable human. Now imagine a bubble around you that is 3 feet in every direction—front, back, above, and below. At the very center is your heart beating in your chest. Visualize your heart like a drum sending out a powerful but gentle vibration with each beat. Hear the message: “You are enough—now” with each heartbeat. Feel the vibration activating every cell in your body. Sense the vibration filling the space of the bubble so that you are breathing “you are enough—now” with each breath in and out. Right now, when things are not the way you want, you are enough. Here in the kindness zone, you are enough. Your worth is not based on things working out. Your worth is not in what you have or do or how you make things happen or how others see you. Step 4: Soak up the kindness. Be as greedy as you can. The more you soak it in, the more kindness is there for you, each beat of your heart, each breath you take. Feel how the kindness helps your body settle, how your shoulders drop, how the space inside you feels warmer, safer. And feel, as you inhabit and experience that kindness zone for yourself, how there is a bit more space for holding kindness with others." Read the full article on Psychology Today [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/embracing-unrest/202301/creating-a-kindness-zone] ✨Takeaway: We can address what we feel and bring kindness to ourselves rather than acting on the instinct to avoid or challenge our vulnerability. As you decide to set up a kind zone for yourself, you use agency to gain authority over your vulnerability. ✨Reflection: What's one way you can practice self-kindness today? #Kindness #Compassion #Positive #Wellness #Wellbeing #Embracing #Self-Kindness ------------------------- If you liked this article, you may also enjoy: The One Sentence That Turns Self-Hate into Self-Love [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/TheOneSentenceThatTurnsSelfHateintoSelfLove_297523/]

If You Could Know The Future, Would You Want To Know?

by innateJoy9602

12 hours ago

102

...See more “We go through seasons of our lives not knowing what is up ahead. We anticipate the storm, trusting we’ll make it through on the other side. We hold tight onto prayers, hope, and peace. Even when things are going great and seemingly perfect, do we really want to know how it will play out? I wouldn’t want to know that I’d pursue my dreams and touch the sky. The small moments of joy and celebration that would surpass my wildest dreams. I wouldn’t want to know all the people I had yet to love. The newfound pleasure of a kiss and a touch. The different ways I’d find a glimmer of hope in an “I love you” with someone new. I wouldn’t even want to know that the tough times would seem so small compared to all the magical miracles. The magical miracles that would take over in the most unexpected ways. I would want life to remain a mystery. Unfolding by each second of the day. The sweet surprises and even the bad news; I don’t want to know until it’s time to know. I want faith to be the very thing that carries me. Even as life continues through the valleys of the highs and lows. It is with faith, where I can’t see what lies ahead, that I trust the steps and direction I take.” Read the complete full article on Medium [https://markemilee.medium.com/if-you-could-know-the-future-would-you-want-to-know-3c224d8f837c] ✨Discussion: We go through many stages of life without knowing what lies ahead. I'm not sure I'd want to know what lies ahead. I want to be optimistic about all the wonderful things that are still to come and embrace the mystery that is life. ✨Reflection: If you could know the future, would you want to know? Or would you choose life to remain a mystery? [https://markemilee.medium.com/if-you-could-know-the-future-would-you-want-to-know-3c224d8f837c] #Life #Self #Future #Wellness #Philosphy

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What’s That Smell? The Psychology of Scent

by innateJoy9602

13 hours ago

...See more "Social psychologists don’t typically pay much attention to smells. Indeed, you’d be hard-pressed to find a section on scent in a social psychology textbook, or an introductory psychology text for that matter. Yet olfaction has a number of important implications for how we think, feel, and behave. The Nose Knows It turns out that people appear to be able to detect whether someone is sick based on how they smell and that we tend to avoid individuals whose odors suggest that they are sick. This suggests that scent may be an important component of the behavioral immune system, an adaptive suite of cognitive, affective, and behavioral responses designed to reduce our odds of acquiring an infectious disease. Yet other work suggests we can also literally smell others’ fear. Others’ odors can also be a comfort to us rather than a signal of danger, as Hofer and colleagues note (2020). In one experiment, researchers found that smelling a romantic partner’s body odor (as opposed to a stranger’s) significantly reduced self-reported stress when waiting to engage in a stressful task, in this case, a mock job interview. In a similar vein, another study found that electric shocks are rated as less painful when people were exposed to their romantic partner’s scent. Our partners’ smells also help us to sleep better, as suggested by another experiment by Hofer and Chen (2020) which found that sleeping with a romantic partner’s worn t-shirt on a pillow next to them improved sleep quality for women. For over 100 years, the scientific community has largely dismissed human olfactory capacities. Yet as the studies we’ve discussed show, our sense of smell is far from vestigial. In fact, it can keep us safe, give us comfort, and help us to find our way." Read the full article on Psychology Today [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/unserious-psychology/202212/whats-that-smell-the-psychology-of-scent] ✨Takeaway: Olfaction affects psychology in ways that affect everything from whether or not a person trusts others to how they navigate their environment. We can discover solace, comfort, and direction via our sense of smell. ✨Reflection: What's your favorite comforting smell? #Smell #Olfaction #Psychology #Scent #Comfort ------------------------- If you enjoyed this article, you may also enjoy: The Science of Comfort Food [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/TheScienceofComfortFood_292097/]

Heal Anxiety by Retraining Your Brain

by comfortableNight4463

15 hours ago

...See more " 1. Start small and be brave. If there’s something you’re avoiding, set yourself up for small wins. Be brave. It will show that “little child” in your brain’s fear center that the “unsafe” assessment isn’t accurate. And though it may sound like it, I’m not just talking about phobias here (if you do have a specific phobia, please work it through with a professional). This also works for everyday anxiety-provoking situations in which avoidance becomes a habit. Pay attention to all the good feelings that come from your small wins. It’s time to re-educate your brain that certain activities are fun, really quite safe, and worth whatever small risk might be involved. 2. Acknowledge the fear but put it in perspective. When fear comes up, take a step back. Think of it as your brain responding to a trigger. You can observe this more objectively versus letting the fear response overwhelm your rational mind. Say something to yourself like, “This is just my fear system talking; this isn’t really me.” Or: “My limbic system thinks this situation is a threat, but it’s wrong. I’m safe. I’m ok.” Another good one: “This feels scary but I know that I need to do this in order to help my brain to heal and enjoy my life again.” Take a breath to calm your system. And again—really celebrate the triumph and pat yourself on the back for being brave and conquering your fears. 3. Shift a fear pattern by directing your attention to good things. When your anxiety gets triggered, intentionally focus on what’s joyful and good around you. If you’re actually safe, feel the safety. Let that get into your bones. It will get into your brain, too, and will start to change (and heal) your limbic system’s erroneous narrative about anything you might be irrationally afraid of. 4. Live a calm and calming life. If you’re in a season where you’re feeling anxious, be kind and gentle with yourself. Don’t force yourself to do things that have nothing to do with the source of your anxiety but make you feel more stressed. Practice mindfulness or other mind-body practices that calm your nervous system down. Remember to breathe, especially if you’re stressed. If there are people in your life who you find really stressful, maybe you don’t need to see them in this season. 5. Rewire your brain with the truth. Think of your brain as a machine that can get stuck in a pattern of error that needs to be rewired. Write down a fearful thought that’s holding you back or making your life miserable. Where did that fear come from? What’s true about it? What’s not true about it? What are the probable negative outcomes or losses you might experience if you give into the fear again? What are the probable positive outcomes if you step past your fear and move forward?" Read the complete article available at Psychology Today! [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/prescriptions-for-life/202212/heal-anxiety-by-retraining-your-brain] Reflection: What are your thoughts on the article? #Anxiety #Brain #Coping

15 Ways to Hijack Valentine's Day This Year

by comfortableNight4463

15 hours ago

...See more Overwhelmed and under-appreciated? Time to celebrate yourself. * Take yourself on a date. If you had a few hours to yourself, how would you spend it? Where would you go? * Go for a walk in a new-to-you place. Use your senses and take in your surroundings. Do you hear that? Silence between the sounds? * Bask in the flavor bombs. Slowly savor those chocolates or your favorite stuffed burrito. * Move your body in whatever ways feel pleasurable to you. Dance to music. Head to a class. Get outside for a hike. * Take a bubble bath. Yes, I understand this might require cleaning the tub. It’ll be worth it. * Phone that friend who will make you laugh. * Tune in to an indulgent or inspirational podcast. * Curate humor. Rewatch that movie guaranteed to make you laugh out loud. Check out that popular comedian. * Take a freaking nap. * Go to the movies alone. Order the vat of buttery popcorn and ridiculously overpriced M&Ms. * Eat dessert for lunch. Or a generous hunk of baguette, brie, and an apple. * Listen to music that pumps you up, relaxes you, takes you back. * Go outside, lie down on a blanket, and stare at the clouds. * Visit your local bookstore. Browse. Take those purchased books to the local cafe. Sip and read. * Write a love letter to yourself. Be generous, loving, and kind. You know, exactly the way you treat others you love. Tuck it away. Pull it out when a reminder of your awesomeness is needed. Read the complete article available at Psychology Today! [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/breathe-mama-breathe/202302/15-ways-to-hijack-valentines-day-this-year] Reflection: How do you plan to celebrate Valentine's Day? #ValentinesDay #Self-care #Self-love If you liked this article, you might like, " [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/ActsofLove_283064/]Acts of Love [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/ActsofLove_283064/]" [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/ActsofLove_283064/]

2 Overlooked Signs of ADHD

by comfortableNight4463

15 hours ago

...See more Two Atypical Presentations of Core ADHD Symptoms 1. Hyperfocus. While the stereotypical ADHD presentation likely conjures images of constantly shifting attention, the attention deficit in those with a proclivity for hyper-focus is that they have trouble shifting attention. It should be noted that this is not the same as a child with ADHD who becomes consumed with video gaming, which holds their attention due to fast-paced, new stimulation. 2. A sense of urgency to complete activities. A sense of urgency to complete a task in order to get on to the next may also belie ADHD. It should be noted that this trait can also be present in people with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) or hypomania. In GAD, however, the constant activity is a distraction from worry. Further, worried thought processes will be obvious upon getting to know the patient. There will be muscle tension, edginess, insomnia, irritability, and a lack of focus due to a mill of worried thoughts. In hypomania, it will only surface periodically when the person is in the throes of a hypomanic episode. For someone with ADHD, it's a baseline trait and may seem as if keeping productively in motion is an end unto itself and, upon evaluation, be discovered to be accompanied by other ADHD symptoms. This doesn't mean ADHD and other disorders with similar symptoms can't co-occur. Read the complete article available at Psychology Today! [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/up-and-running/202301/2-overlooked-signs-of-adhd] Reflection: What are your thoughts on the article? #ADHD #Symptoms #MentalHealth If you liked this article, you might like, " [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/5StrategiestoMakeandKeepRoutinesWithAdultADHD_290970/]5 Strategies to Make and Keep Routines With Adult ADHD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/5StrategiestoMakeandKeepRoutinesWithAdultADHD_290970/]" [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/5StrategiestoMakeandKeepRoutinesWithAdultADHD_290970/] You might also like, " [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/5TipsforAdultsWithADHDtoOvercomeNegativeThinking_288159/]5 Tips for Adults With ADHD to Overcome Negative Thinking [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/5TipsforAdultsWithADHDtoOvercomeNegativeThinking_288159/]" [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/5TipsforAdultsWithADHDtoOvercomeNegativeThinking_288159/]

Mental Health Can Improve With Sleep

by fruityPond7887

20 hours ago

...See more "In a recent post [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-hypnosis/202210/the-worsening-mental-health-of-young-people], I addressed how we could improve adolescent mental health by implementing changes in access to mental healthcare services in this country. In this post, I propose how we might decrease the prevalence of mental health issues by coaching [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/coaching] teenagers [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/adolescence] to allot more time for sleep. Prevention of Mental Health Issues Between 2007 and 2019, the proportion of adolescents who reported sleeping [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/sleep] at least eight hours per night fell from 31 percent to 22 percent, according to the CDC’s Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System [https://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/data/yrbs/results.htm] surveys. Further, more than a third of adolescents reported that they routinely sleep less than seven hours per night (Twenge et al.,2017), as opposed to the recommended eight to 10 hours of sleep. The decrease in sleep time was associated with increased use of electronic devices, social media, and reading news online but was unrelated to increased time allotted for homework, working for pay, or watching television. Further, lack of sufficient sleep in adolescents is known to be associated with increased rates of anxiety [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/anxiety], depression [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/depression], suicidality [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide], difficulty in dealing with stressors such as bullying [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/bullying], and higher risk of being involved with substance abuse [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/addiction], risky sexual [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/sex] behavior, and dangerous driving (Agostini & Centofanti, 2021). Promoting Sleep Is it possible that the mental health crisis in adolescents could be addressed simply by helping to restructure their lives to allow them to sleep more? Would such increased sleep prevent the development of mental health diseases in many people? Students who find it difficult to fall asleep quickly on school nights should be offered sleep hygiene counseling, including: * Avoid drinking caffeinated beverages or eating large meals late in the day. * Avoid activities that stimulate their thinking at bedtime, such as watching horror movies or participating in exciting social activities. * Avoid exercising close to bedtime. * Learn to use their beds only for sleeping rather than for studying or gaming in order that their bodies learn to associate bed with sleep. * Reduce sources of light and noise in the room, e.g., by turning off lights or music in the bedroom, drawing the window shades, and closing the bedroom door. * Keep the same sleep schedule during weekdays and weekends so that their bodies get used to a set schedule. * Under the supervision of a health care provider, students may be taught meditation [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/meditation], self-hypnosis [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-hypnosis/202204/treatment-children-s-insomnia-hypnosis], or prescribed melatonin or other sleep aid. Call to Action There is no doubt that adolescents in the U.S. do not sleep sufficiently and that this has contributed to the increased burden of mental health problems in this country. What remains to be seen is whether we can make effective changes in our culture to permit and encourage our teenagers to sleep more. Then, over the subsequent decade, we could begin evaluating the effectiveness of such an intervention on the mental health of our young people." *Sleep is more important for mental health than any of us realize! I know we always feel like there are never enough hours in a day and we tend to stay awake to do things we need to get done or do hobbies that we enjoy. While we think we are being productive, it may actually be less productive because you are losing sleep for the next day and this creates a vicious cycle. This results in people tending to nap more, then staying up later to complete tasks that could've been done during the nap. I am so guilty of this cycle myself and it's not good for productivity and the natural flow of the day. I encourage you to try your best to get as much sleep as you can and set yourself on a good schedule! You will thank yourself for it later. Do you believe that you sleep enough that it's beneficial for your mental health?* #Sleep #Productivity #MentalWellness Please find the full article at Psychology Today. [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-hypnosis/202211/mental-health-can-improve-with-sleep] If you liked this article on sleep, you might like this one [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/Lessthanfivehourssleepanightlinkedtohigherriskofmultiplediseases_289340/] or this one [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/HealthlineCanExercisingBeforeBedAffectYourSleep_276160/]! ❤️

Silencing Our Inner Critic After Attachment Trauma

by comfortableNight4463

20 hours ago

...See more What Is Our Inner Critic? Anyone can develop negative feelings towards their choices or behavior, especially in vulnerable moments. However, what separates negative feelings from a cruel inner critic is a sense of worthlessness at its core message. Negative feelings based on making a poor choice relate to guilt, whereas the messages connected to an inner critic relate to shame. Three Common Inner Critic Messages and How To Overcome Them Comparisons. Children are not hardwired to compare themselves to others. This learned behavior results from constant nagging, minimizing, dismissiveness, and invalidation from abusive and demanding parents. As an adult, they may wrongly believe that they are not “good enough” and may make mental comparisons on everything from what car others drive compared to themselves, to what degree they have, to how they look – which keeps them “stuck” in a perpetual loop of comparing themselves to others. Overcoming comparisons. It’s important that a person learn to identify their emotional “triggers” to help minimize falling down a rabbit hole of comparing themselves to others. For example, if you notice that you tend to begin comparing yourself to your friends’ achievements, it’s important to notice this as a potential “trigger” and then to counteract it by reminding yourself of your own accomplishments as worthy and valid, albeit different from your friend’s accomplishments. All-or-nothing thinking. Children who grow up being conditioned to wrongly believe their value hinges on their accomplishments or how good they make their parents look are subliminally learning the foundation for all-or-nothing thinking. For example, if a child scores at the top of their class, their parents may dote on them as “the best.” This conditioning can breed a slippery slope of unspoken expectations or conditions of worth, where the child is only shown attention or acceptance when performing to their caregivers’ expectations. As adults, they may learn to associate their worthiness with their success (“all” thinking), or their inner critic may take center stage if they don’t live up to their own expectations they have set for themselves (“nothing” thinking). Overcoming all-or-nothing thinking. Learning to express fewer all-or-nothing thoughts is important for helping overcome this pattern. Common expressions include using words like “all,” “nothing,” “always,” “never,” and “everything.” It’s also important to begin relabeling these types of all-or-nothing thoughts as they surface to reduce these distortions. For example, “never” or “always” can be changed to “sometimes,” which is more inclusive and less absolute in its approach. Self-hate/self-neglect. Children raised in families with traumatizing parents are also being raised to believe that they have no value or worth. As a result, many turn their caregivers’ abuse onto themselves in the form of self-hatred and self-neglect. As adults, this pattern may generalize to self-sabotaging behavior where trauma enactment is likely. For example, a person may be unconsciously attracted to narcissistic or predatory types that negatively reinforce these toxic inner critic messages based on self-hate and self-neglect. Overcoming self-hate/self-neglect. At the root of self-hate and self-neglect are conditioned beliefs that they aren’t good enough to be loved or cared for. Healing from this pattern typically includes learning to observe the inner critic's message from the outside, looking in. When a person changes their perspective on how they “hear” the message, it can become easier to take steps to challenge the inner critic and call it out on its toxic messages. Read the complete article available at Psychology Today! [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202301/silencing-our-inner-critic-after-attachment-trauma] Reflection: What are your thoughts on the article? #Trauma #InnerCritic #MentalHealth If you liked this article, you might also like, " [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/WhattoDoWhenYourInnerCriticWontShutUp_283704/]What to Do When Your Inner Critic Won’t Shut Up [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/WhattoDoWhenYourInnerCriticWontShutUp_283704/]" [https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/WhattoDoWhenYourInnerCriticWontShutUp_283704/]

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