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Should I be ashamed of the fact that I have ADHD?

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Last Updated: 04/18/2021 at 7:38am
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November 8th, 2016 10:54pm
No. You should never be ashamed for having any disorder, especially since you had no say in getting it! First step to recovery is accepting. Accept what you have (I have it too, don't worry! ^-^) and try to see how you can cope with it, treat it, and make it so it has the least negative impact on your life as possible. You shouldn't even be slightly ashamed of having it. It is in no way your fault. And just because the majority of people don't have it, doesn't mean you are incompetent or inadequate in any way. In fact, you could even look at it as something that makes you unique. Just work towards getting the help you need and don't worry. Your best is good enough, even if it's not "as good" as someone else's, it's you pushing to your full potential, which is admirable and something you should be super proud of! :)
February 12th, 2017 2:50pm
Having ADHD is NOTHING to be ashamed of! I have personal experience of this and would be horrified to know my loved ones felt ashamed. You need to embraces your differences x
July 20th, 2020 5:58am
I have ADHD too and I don't think you should be ashamed! ADHD comes with many strengths, plus you didn't cause yourself to have it. For me personally, ADHD has helped me seek out new and interesting things and be adventurous, it has helped me be more creative and think of lots of ideas as my mind wanders, etc. Also, you may have experienced a lesser-known flip side to ADHD: hyperfocus. Sometimes it IS hard to focus, but when I and others with ADHD ARE focused, we can concentrate deeply and focus on something for hours. And if you research more on it and reflect about it on your own, I'm sure you can find more things to add to the list. Now, the weaknesses of ADHD are of course real, but people have found ways to help (for instance finding jobs that fit an ADHD mind, using productivity boosting apps like Habitica, etc) and as I stated before, it's not your fault! Don't be ashamed of your ADHD. It gives you unique strengths that the world needs!
January 5th, 2017 1:59pm
Abosolutely not, it is very manageable and most of the time goes away as you age, just learn ways to live and cope with the ADHD and studies show that most people with ADHD from childhood most often is almost gone by the time you hit 40.
April 18th, 2021 7:38am
I never think of adhd as a disorder. To me its just a unique functionality of the brain. Its like left handed people. Should they be ashamed that the world is not usually designed for their convenience? A person with adhd is usually different from other people. We never hurt others its just that our world has different structures. If anyone has problem with that, its their own bloody problem and its sure them who must feel ashamed. It is the rule of this world. There is a majority and this group will not tolerate people different from them. But you must never let them get into your head.
November 18th, 2016 8:19pm
No. You should absolutely not be ashamed that you have ADHD. You have a medical condition just like any other. You can help control how the people around you respond to your symptoms by making them aware of your condition. If you need help learning to control your symptoms, ask your doctor for advice.
February 18th, 2017 3:43am
No you shouldn't be ashamed. Instead see that you are just unique. It may not seem like the best to have with being unfocused or fidgety all the time, but it is nothing to be ashamed of. You can't help it.