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Why can't I bring myself to get help?

11 Answers
Last Updated: 06/27/2017 at 3:46am
1 Tip to Feel Better
United Kingdom
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Lisa Meighan, MSc Psychology


Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.

Top Rated Answers
March 3rd, 2015 11:41pm
I once asked a friend of mine this same question. She told me that there was some part of me which did not feel worthy. It stung when she said that, but I thought about what she said. She was right, and knowing that made me angry enough to get up and get help, because I am worthy. And you are too!
April 17th, 2015 1:02am
The fact that you are here willing to talk about this is already a big step towards being helped, so you have that to be proud of! Now, I don't know why you are not getting help right now, but whatever the reason is, maybe it will help if you talk about it, and you can do that on 7 Cups. And then, in case you feel overwhelmed about seeing a therapist, maybe try reaching out to friends of family who you can trust or a support group first? Respecting yourself is important, so doing things at a pace you are comfortable with is probably a good idea.
May 21st, 2015 1:54pm
I think that one of the main reasons that individuals are reluctant to seek help is because we do not want to admit we have a problem, even when we do admit to ourselves that we are struggling and need help often self stigma creeps in, a natural effect of living in a world where 'strength' emotional and physical is held up and percieved 'weakness' despised, even if we are able to step past there two barriers we sometimes have the views of others to consider and are concerned about there reactions.
November 25th, 2015 10:41pm
You came here to chat, so this is a great place to start. What do you need help with? Would you like to talk about it?
March 3rd, 2015 5:26am
Because either you lack motatvation for the idea that your optamistis about change or you give up and you let your anxiety get the better of you
April 13th, 2015 7:11pm
I am sorry to hear that you feel like you are in this place of wanting help but struggling to get the help. Can you tell me more about the barriers that stop you from getting help?
June 29th, 2015 3:34am
Sometimes, we aren't ready for help, but when we are we will seek it out and embrace it. There may be times when we feel that outside help will not work for us. However, one day you wake up and are willing to take any and all help you can get. Don't let the questions of getting help bring you down further. Take your time, you will know when you are ready.
March 8th, 2016 12:32pm
For many people, asking for help is difficult due to social stigma, a flawed family system or even personal beliefs. Many Eventually do seek help when their family and social circles insist they do and they find out it is not as bad as they feared.
September 12th, 2016 10:47pm
Because it's a hard thing to do, many consider it as being defeated or they're nervous in case the therapist would keep quite
October 23rd, 2016 1:28am
I feel the same way, mostly because I fear being vulnerable as well as not really trusting anyone. But asking for help is not "showing weakness", it's actually quite brave to battle your own demons.
June 27th, 2017 3:46am
Fear can be a strong variable in seeking help. It can be hard to trust someone