Why do I find it so hard to accept things that i cannot change?
Last Updated: 12/04/2018 at 7:04pm
Traci Seery, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist
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Nobody can fix others problems. You have to focus on yourself and not others because if their doing wrong all you can do is wish they'd learn from their mistakes
I think that it's part of being human, wanting to change things, even if we can't. I know that I struggle to accept things myself. I don't think it's a bad thing, it's just something we have to work on. When we want to change something we should take a step back and remind ourselves that things are going to happen a certain way and we'll be okay.
It may be the fact that as a human we tend to stick to what we know and find familiar. It's only natural. Being able to venture out of our comfort zone is what makes us able to innovate and create whole new worlds.
Humans have the natural fear of not being able to control the things they cannot change. It's the one thing that that we fear most because it's the most common and most difficult thing to overcome. It makes us feel lacking and shows a weakness that we cannot mould into what we want it to be. It makes us feel vulnerable and a target; makes us realise how lacking in power we really are. But on a positive, it shows that we can all be leaders in one way or another. You can overcome this by taking what happened as an experience and putting into your portfolio and learn from it and use it to help others.
Because you want to control everything in your life. This is not a bad thing. This is just who you are
I think most people struggle with that, at least at times. It’s normal to wish we could control circumstances that are beyond our control, and often, relationships seem like they would be so much easier if we could just change other people. The best way to cope it to focus on what you can change. When we strive to keep our focus on the things we do have some control over, over time, our focus tends to naturally shift away from that which we cannot change. Learning to let go of what we cannot change is one of the greatest task in maturing.
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