How do I show my friends and family that I do want to get better?
Last Updated: 10/04/2021 at 12:19am
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To show the important people in my life that I want to get better, I usually try to be positive in my daily activities. I Take all my meds and go to therapy as needed. I keep communication open with my loved ones and we take it from there.
I find that concentrating on changing myself for me has shown my family that better than anything I ever tried to do for them. When I started focusing on getting better for myself, I actually started to get better, and my friends and family saw that and were happy for me.
You should apologize them, in the first place. Leave all the things you're planning for yourself yet, because we're all humans and we can mess it up sometimes. It also kinda matters about what you've been doing in the past. :) apologize to them and take the apologize seriously. Try to act nice to them, talk to them, care about them, help them. Try to not fight with them over some things you really don't have to. Say what you think of course, just be assertive. :) I'm sure they'll try to mske it easier for you
At the end of the day, your friends and family don't matter as much as you taking care of you. And as you put yourself first by working towards getting better, you show your courage and perseverance to your friends and family.
Perhaps the most expected answer to this question would be: "Actions speak louder than words," although I find this ideology difficult to apply when one is trying to get to a better place mentally first. Oftentimes one's actions may not be visible enough to the eyes of an outsider. For instance, a person recovering from depression may actually make it out of the door after having spent days locked up in miserable solitude, but this may go unnoticed as an act that says, "I'm trying." It is for reasons such as these that I believe in order to communicate the message "I want to get better" to friends and family, it must be outright stated, and then the actions may follow.
Give them solid proof that you are getting better, do something which shows the start to a new path.
Have you told them and expressed your feelings? It is always best to be open about your thoughts. Start showing, physically, that you are able to recover. What matters the most is that YOU know that yourself is able to get through your struggles.
That is a great question! I think that it's important to first explain them what you're struggling with. Have a seat with them and take your time. Don't only tell them about your struggles but also tell them what you wan't to improve. It can also be an idea to tell your friend and/or family what you're doing to get better, if you're keeping a diary, tell them, going to therapy, tell them. It's important to be open with them. Mental Illness is hard to understand but if you try to explain what's going on it will also be easier for your friends and family.
Family and friend can be a great source of support but sometimes getting beyond different opinions is tough. It is unhealthy to constantly be a state of proving something to another when all we really have to do is be ourselves. The best way that we can show improvement is the 'BE' improvement and live within our new selves. People will soon understand that getting better is something that we really want to do
I'd say the best way is just to be completely open about it- both verbally and behaviorally. Perhaps even more so for the latter. Often times, people respond to action, because it can be more clearly seen and understood. It is very difficult for people to notice what's going on in your head, even if you feel that you are working hard on it. If you start to project those changes outwardly, they will start notice it more. Of course, only do as much as you're comfortable with, but often enough there will be a counter-behavior to your behavior and actions.
Something that could help is to tell them directly. Communication goes a long way. This includes acknowledging where you're at now, acknowledging where you want to be and acknowledging what it takes to get there. Actions speak louder than words. Start taking the necessary steps needed to fix your situation. Aim to be better than you were yesterday and to complete at least one important task each day to help you grow over time. Change doesn't happen overnight. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you can trust your friends and family. If anything, asking for help only proves to them how much importance this holds for you - importance that makes you swallow your pride.
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