How can I accept the fact that I'm a bisexual and not have it change my life?

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dkaren00
March 26th, 2015 10:40am
Acknowledging the fact that you are bisexual need not change your life because here's the thing: You have always been bisexual. Coming out may be a difficult thing but the people that matter and truly care will surely stand by you. You have not changed; you simply know more about yourself.
Mikayla1000
April 25th, 2015 2:48am
Hey! Im bi as well :) First, know that you are still an awesome and lovely amazing person no matter what your sexuality is. Second, there's nothing wrong with being part of the LGBTQ+ anything. Third, You're loved ♥ Fourth, your life might change and that is okay - not all change is bad. You need to accept that you like Men and Women and know that you're still a beautiful person no matter who your significant other is. Sometimes people might not be happy to find out you like both sexes - it will be up to you to keep them in your life or not. You can always chose to not go with the same gender -- you can stay with the opposite one for sure! Do what makes you happy, feel loved and secure, be with someone that brings out the best in you and know that no matter what that is okay! ♥
Dailydaydreama
January 15th, 2015 5:40am
Same sex relationships can be difficult for many diffrent reasons ! The country you live in can impact on how you can feel safe excepting and expressing the feelings your having , religion and family values can make things more confusing ! Self love and safty should always come first :)
limitlesslight
May 15th, 2018 3:16am
Being bisexual is a personal trait. You don't have to share it with anyone unless you want to. You don't have to express it unless you want to. Being bisexual doesn't make you, 'you.' Accepting that you're bisexual doesn't change who you are as a person. Accepting that you're bisexual doesn't mean accepting any negative stigma that comes with the label. It means what it means to you, and nothing more or less. If you ever decide to express your bisexuality, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Only disclose details about your sexual orientation when you want to, to whom you want to, and most importantly when you feel safe to do so. Accepting that you're bisexual might not change your life, but choosing to express it could. It could be the best thing you ever do, because being your true self is extremely fulfilling.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2015 7:09pm
There should be no need to change your life if you don't want to. All bisexuality means is that you're open to engaging with both males and females on a deeper than friends level. Therefore, you can still live the life you love and nothing should ever stop you from doing so. You should also love yourself for who you are, no matter what your sexual orientation is.
Aayla - Expert in LGBTQ+
July 4th, 2017 12:03am
Just keep in mind that there is nothing wrong about your sexual orientation, self-acceptance can only bring positivity and freedom to your life. People who really love you are gonna support you anyway, and if you want to meet more people who are facing or have faced the same situation of insecurity the LGBTQ+ community will surely welcome you.
GoldenDragonEyes60
May 6th, 2015 2:58pm
Being bisexual doesn't change who you are or what you like or do. You're still you, you just have a lot more options in life on who you can love or be with. You don't have to change yourself, your friends, your family, your religion, your likes, or your dislikes. You're allowed to just be you.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2015 5:03am
live how you've always lived, just cause your bi dosent mean that things have to be different. its as different as you let it get.
readerandwriter
September 8th, 2015 3:32pm
Though it may be difficult to realize, it is ok for your sexuality to change in your lifetime. There's nothing wrong with believing that you're bisexual at one time but then realizing that you may be gay at another time.
MajesticEmbrace61
May 11th, 2015 12:46pm
The only thing that is going to change is how comfortable you will feel in your own skin. Accepting yourself is an amazing feeling that can't be replaced by anything, not even the world's acceptance. Things may or may not be harder with the people around you, but when you love yourself and understand how perfect you are, everything just kind of falls into place. Point is, it will change your life and it might even change some of your relationships, but boy will it be worth it!
Anonymous
May 14th, 2015 9:16pm
Your able to accit it by being open and being your self and Doing wach day as a newer and better day
plumnectarine
May 17th, 2015 11:57pm
In today's stigmatizing homosexuality-esque society, its gonna change your life a little. Just roll with it, learn to love yourself. The rest will follow
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2016 10:50am
You can see it as a great opportunity - being bisexual means that you have a lot more possibilities to fall in love/be with someone worth being with, and you don't have to worry about their gender. You also may remember that nothing has changed - you are you, and being bisexual doesn't change that. You're still the best version of you!
TaranWanderer
May 2nd, 2017 7:46pm
I'm not really sure how your sexuality would change your life, you've always been bisexual, it's just that now you are becoming more aware and have a community to relate with. You're still exactly the same person you've always been.
Anonymous
October 16th, 2018 10:25pm
Remember that being bisexual is the way they you’re born. Dispite now having realized your sexuality, you were the same person then as you are now and that your sexuality doesn’t define who you are as a person. If you feel as though you’re having troubles accepting your sexuality it may help you to reach out to other members of the LGBT community, whether that be online or in person, as it can show you how other people came to terms with who they are. Accept that change is inevitable no matter what and that if/when you choose to come out it may change things but that’s okay. It’s expected that as we grow and learn as people things in our lives will change to reflect that.