Im confused about my sexuality. Im attracted to guys but Ive never had a crush on them or anyone tbh. Girls are pretty too, but I don't think want to have sex with them (or anyone as for now). Help??

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Last Updated: 01/21/2019 at 11:56pm
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FloFlo04
August 13th, 2018 4:27am
Don’t think to much into it! Sexuality comes to you naturally, whether you like boys, girls, both or neither. You shouldn’t need to label yourself as something or another. And that goes for everyone! What you feel in life will come to you naturally! Experiment with different people see what you like and explore your boundaries (all within reason of course)
AlexIsMaple
August 15th, 2018 1:27am
Don't force anything and just let everything come naturally. You are the only one that can know how you feel about your sexuality. Don't worry, it will come to you when you know it.
SmilesToSmile
August 14th, 2018 12:08am
It could be that you have romantic interests in guys and girls but not sexual- and they are two distinct things! Have a look online about asexuality, and you'll find many people having the same thoughts. There's a huge range of preferences out there! You may finally for research helpful in identifying what exactly it is you prefer, as you learn about yourself more :-)
Aayla
August 27th, 2018 7:58pm
First of all, keep in mind that sexual and romantic attraction do not always coincide. It may be that you're sexually attracted to one or more genders, and it doesn't necessarily mean that you're also attracted romantically to them - or anyone at all. There are people who don't feel any romantic attraction, and they identify themselves as aromantic, but they're not necessarily asexual as well, they can still be attracted to any gender. This may be your case: you could be aromantic and still feel sexual attraction. Of course, it could also be that you simply haven't found the right person yet! That's ok, some people need more time than others to find someone they are really into. It doesn't mean you won't find them, with time! For now, just try to follow whatever your heart and your body tell you, and live your life with as much serenity as you can. This path always leads you to the answer, eventually!
Snorlaxxx
January 21st, 2019 11:56pm
Sexuality is a complicated issue. My usual go-to is to simply ask 'what sex/gender do you want to have sex with?' and then use that as a filter almost, until you've gotten an answer fitting enough. When you say that girls are pretty, are they in the same league as guys? Does looking at an attractive - using attraction here. Raw physical attraction. No emotion involved (more on that in a bit) - woman cause the same reaction as an attractive guy? The reason i emphasis attraction as a starting point is that it's a good fundamental. Sex and emotion can be affected by so many life factors (intentionally or unintentionally) and so can attraction, but the difference is that attraction has recurrent themes. Ie gender preference. If for example you're finding yourself attracted to some girls and some guys, you can dismiss other options - gay and heterosexual. It isn't going to provide you with the much needed clarity but at least it provides a starting point. You can begin to remove labels that don't fit and have a new perspective on what might/does.