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Is it really okay to be gay? If being gay and straight were both normal would you be gay if you had the choice?

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Last Updated: 07/13/2020 at 3:13pm
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Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+
August 19th, 2019 1:51am
Any orientation is normal. What changes is how some people consider them, but prejudice is to be attributed to social influences and stereotypes. Any orientation is ok, actually! They're all natural and innate, and this has been scientifically proved. And they all give people the chance to be happy with whoever they like. What I would like to choose is a different and more inclusive society, not a different identity, because any identity is simply our way to be happy and be ourselves.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2020 1:18am
It really is okay to be gay. It's okay to identify however you want and there's nothing wrong with it. Your feelings are totally 100% valid. It's a personal decision based off of feelings that each individual person needs to make for themselves. There's other ways to identify that's not gay or straight, it's not an either or. Being gay and being straight are both "normal" it's just being gay is a harder concept to accept for people to wrap their minds around. But both are valid and okay and normal. And so is every single way someone identifies themselves as.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2020 9:28pm
It is really okay to be gay. Being gay isn't a choice and just because some people have prejudice against those who won't conform to their mindset does not mean being gay is bad. Whatever sexual orientation you have is okay. It's less about a choice and moreso about realizing that love is love, and whoever you are attracted to is not your fault. Just because we live in a heteronormative society does not mean that having any sexual orientation but straight is wrong. It doesn't matter who you're attracted to, it matters that you can accept yourself for whoever you are.
rainbow3140
July 11th, 2020 5:31pm
It's absolutely okay! I wouldn't choose either way because I think love is an incredibly beautiful and fluid thing and your heart is rarely controlled by your head. It would certainly be easier at times to be straight in societies that uphold heteronormative ideals or are downright homophobic. That being said, many of my closest friendships and happiest memories are all with other LGBT people in accepting and joyful spaces and I wouldn't have that any other way! I would choose to be myself, and this is sometimes the hardest choice depending on our circumstances but can eventually lead to happier and more authentic times for us.
ellaempathize93
July 13th, 2020 3:13pm
Hello, I am a part of the LGBT+ community and when I was young girl, I was so conflicted due to not being straight which is seen as the only "normal" form. I went through a lot of pain due to society being very hetero-normative and homophobic. Now that I am older, even if I could magically become straight - I wouldn't. I love being LGBT+, it's where I belong, it's a part of me and my soul and I am so proud to stand with the millions of others. Many LGBT+ members feel this way also, they would not change their identity even amongst the challenges. Being LGBT+ is VERY normal! just like being straight is. The opinions of others can hurt and I have been bruised many, many times by homophobia but I still wouldn't wish myself different. I have plenty of people who love and accept me, both by people I know and strangers too. I love and accept myself and that's whats most important. I agree with the previous comment, the only thing I would change is how society structures itself. Around straightness and the idea that it is the only 'right' way to be. The journey for LGBT+ is very hard, painful and challenging and some members don't make it through and THAT is the reason we need change. (Still wouldn't change myself!) I hope this helps in some way. Whatever your situation, you are loved and we accept you. From a proud, bisexual woman, Ella.