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How can I come out to people in my school as bisexual?

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Last Updated: 03/23/2020 at 4:43am
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May 8th, 2015 4:52pm
Never feel forced to come out. When you're ready, I'd tell your close friends that you are bisexual. If they are true friends, then they will accept you. It's ultimately up to you if you want to come out to your whole grade. A way to do this is to post a coming out status or picture on a social media website.
July 4th, 2017 2:32am
Coming out is complicated, so before you do, go over a few things with yourself- most importantly, will you be safe if you come out? This is hard because there's almost always bully's who may call you names and such, so if you come out to the whole school, you may suffer verbal abuse. You really want to make sure that you will not be seriously harmed. I don't want to scare people off with this but it is important, and hopefully your school is a safe community to come out too- and that's the other thing... if you only want to tell a specific group, which I think is a lot easier, I would suggest telling the people you think will support you most first, and then do it as a group with some people you've already told and some people you haven't, that way you have support. And how to tell them? You can just say "I'm bisexual". Or you can tell them you have crushes on a guy and a girl, or you can say you were glad for bi representation on a tv show, anything! And my advice is to say it loud and proud. It's hard coming out, you're probably nervous, but you're also very proud of that aspect of your identity... tell them you're proud! Coming out can be intimidating, but once you're out to a supportive group, you feel really good about yourself. I hope this helps you!
August 4th, 2015 8:43pm
Be self assured and keep in mind that it is none of their business, wether they like it or not. Stay yourself and do not let them pull you down.
May 1st, 2015 3:09pm
The most important part about coming out is to make sure that you are ready to come out first. You should always think of yourself before thinking of how others will feel or react when deciding if and when, to come out. If you do decide to come out, you can go about it in many different ways, though many choose to start small, telling a few close friends first before telling everyone.
November 9th, 2015 2:37am
Well you can join LGBT program at your school if you have one it's a great way to meet other people who are Bi and to get involved with your community!
February 16th, 2015 1:16am
Just tell them, if they deny you ignore them because they are not worth your time. If they are friends who deny you, maybe try to explain it more to them.
April 28th, 2015 12:12pm
Well good question. First I would ask how do they feel about LGBT then If they hate It I would just ignore them and find others to talk to or if they accept it then I would tell them that I was bisexual since I am gay myself.
October 27th, 2015 11:05pm
Consider what, and who, you are comfortable with. If you haven't told anyone at your school yet, you may want to start by talking to someone you know you can trust. Let them know, and see how you feel about it. Do you feel safe? Is it a relief? Remember, there's no rush, no deadline, and you can tell others when you wish.
May 10th, 2016 3:06am
I would suggest that you just come out to the people that are close to you and the people u trust, rather then everyone.
August 3rd, 2017 5:20pm
A lot of people have given some really good advice already. Tell people you're close to, put it on a social media site, etc. One additional thing I would add is if you are okay with anyone/everyone knowing, but don't really want to make a huge announcement, you can always choose a few people to come out to and simply tell them that it's not a secret, so they don't have to hide it from anyone, but you're also only specifically coming out to a few people and wanted them to be one of the people you told yourself. There's no need to shout it from the rooftops if you don't want to. Though, I'm an introvert. That's a quieter way of coming out that sounds way more appealing to me. If you want to make it into a big event, though, by all means, do!
August 7th, 2017 8:54am
You can only come out when you feel comfortable. It is always safer to tell some close friends first that way you have a good working support system around you from any back lash you may receive from others that may not be as accepting.
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August 26th, 2019 11:58am
You can start with the people that are closest to you, those you trust the most and/or those who are more likely to accept you, because they have expressed lgbt-friendly views. This way, you'll feel stronger because you'll know that you already have supportive people by your side! Just be open about your feelings and explain what it means to be who you are and how you realized it. There are inclusive people out there who will welcome you for who you are!
September 5th, 2016 12:46pm
You could just tell people if they ask or correct them if they make assumptions you could tell your friends first as well so they could possibly help you come out
July 31st, 2017 3:52pm
When I was coming out, it seemed very, very overwhelming. One thing to keep in mind is there is no one, singular time that you come out. I think that coming out is different for everyone, but come out to all your close friends first. Some people choose to do it in a small group, but I think one on one is the best way at first if you want to keep your anxiety to a minimum - coming out is no small thing! Nowadays, with so much technology, word can spread quickly. It may turn out that some people you didn't come out to may end up knowing. Eventually, coming out begins to feel casual, like no big deal. Also, you don't need everyone to know, of course if you want to, that's fine. Just make sure you remember you sexuality identity is a part of you, but not all of you.
April 6th, 2018 2:24am
If your thinking about coming out only do it if your ready. Don’t feel pressured. And if there are some kids who don’t want to be friends with you anymore there not real friends. Just make sure to be comfortable and proud of yourself.
November 26th, 2018 12:08pm
The thing is, people sometimes feel like if they're lgbtq/ai+ then they have to tell people around them. You don't actually have to make sure that everyone knows what your gender identity or sexuality is. You can bring it up if you're discussing crushes or something like that, that would be a comfortable situation for you to bring it up in. I personally was wondering for a while how to come out to my friends, and in the end I just announced it in between classes. And that was it. They went "ok". They didn't discuss it or make a big deal out of it. There are still plenty of people I know or are friends with who don't know my sexuality. That's not because I don't trust them, and it's not because they wouldn't accept me, but it's because it doesn't matter whether or not everyone I know knows my sexuality. I am me. I'm not defined by my sexuality or gender identity. So basically, just tell the people it's important to you to tell, and the rest will probably get to know it in the long run, so , don't pressure yourself or worry too much :)
March 23rd, 2020 4:43am
I suggest that you start out with a small group of people you trust, maybe even adults you trust to get comfortable. If you feel it is something you want to be more visible about you can mention it in everyday conversation subtly, thats how most people have come out to me, and how I come out to other people. Where i'm from, no one usually bats an eye if you are anything other than straight. You can also join your GSA if you have one, and you can start becoming a visible voice in the school for LGBTQ rights and advocacy, most people at my school know me as "that activist queer" since I am very involved with my GSA. Do what feels right for you, and don't feel pressured to have to do things a certain way. XOXO William