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I always identified as a straight male, but last year I forced myself to like guys and now I like guys too! The idea of being with a guy sounds awesome and safe. Does that make me bisexual?

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Last Updated: 06/21/2021 at 9:13am
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August 19th, 2019 7:38am
If now you feel attracted to men and women, and the thought of being with them feels good, you are bisexual! Probably, last year's experience helped you discover a part of yourself you didn't know before.
March 3rd, 2020 3:35am
I don't think that there are some criteria that can determine one's bisexuality definitely. Neither do labels like bisexual and homosexual or heterosexual works. I think as long as you have love and compassion for your partner, you will be fine. The labels are yours to choose, not anybody to impose onto you. I am kind of gay, but sadly I never succeed in forcing myself to like the guys around me, so good news for you! I think you should enjoy this bewilderment. It is confusing and sometimes painful at first, but in the end you get to know yourself better and then you can help others in their path too. It will be beautiful when you look back at it.
April 13th, 2019 12:49pm
Hi! It's great that you're exploring your sexuality-never stop! My experience as coming out as a bi guy was challenging too-but the long and short of it is this: if you're attracted to multiple genders, then you could be considered bisexual (or pansexual) There's lots of resources out on the web that can help you figure out the real you as well It took me a little while to accept it an figure it out but I'm so glad I did-its made me feel more content and has really improved my own mental health too! Hope this helps :)
September 14th, 2020 5:29pm
Only you can decide what label works best for you, if you decide to use one at all. You should remember that you don't have to define your sexuality by other people's standards. If you've examined the general parameters that are accepted for bisexuality and you feel this is the best term for you, then go for it! But please, seriously, remember that you do not have to define your sexuality unless you want to! If being with a girl is great then go for it! If being with a guy is great then go for it! If both feels great then go for it! Only you can decide.
June 21st, 2021 9:13am
It's beautiful that you've realized this side of you! To love anyone, regardless of gender, is an absolute treasure. But it's not for me or anyone else to say what your sexuality is, as it can change over time and evolve as you develop more relationships with other people. If the term "bisexual" works for you in this moment, that's awesome! But if you're still exploring and questioning, you have the freedom to choose what works for you. Follow what feels natural to you, and what truly makes you happy and secure. No other freedom compares to the freedom to love someone you choose for yourself--whether a guy or a girl.