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i am gay and i m feeling very uncomfortable with straight ones... because they literally say many offensive things to them?

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Last Updated: 03/30/2021 at 1:28am
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October 1st, 2019 11:43pm
I know it's hard to deal with close-minded people, but luckily there are many stright people who are supportive of LGBT people because they understand there's nothing wrong with any identity! As it always happen, the intolerant people are more easily spotted than the inclusive ones, but just because they make a lot of noise it doesn't mean there's nothing but their intolerance in this world. You can surround yourself with LGBT people if it makes you feel safer, but I hope that with time you can see that there are also many inclusive strights. It's not the orientation that defines us, it's our ideas. Feel free to openly express yourself, anyone who won't judge you for it will be worthy of your respect, regardless of their orientation.
December 20th, 2017 7:09pm
If I'm reading this correctly, you're saying that you are gay and are uncomfortable around straight people because they make offensive remarks on a regular basis? I'm sorry you've had this experience and I can't say I blame you for being uncomfortable. Who you spend time with is definitely your decision, but if you find yourself in a situation where someone says something offensive, perhaps you could also use it as a teaching moment if you feel comfortable with that and thing they'd listen to what you'd have to say? That may not be a viable option and it may very well be better for you to just remove yourself from the hate, but I hope you find a comfortable place to be!
September 29th, 2020 8:40am
I understand how hard it can be to in the LGBTQ community, it can feel like you stand out a lot for sure. I say surround yourself with people you feel comfortable with or you could talk to your friends about how you feel about the words they say. it can be uncomfortable to talk about this but it could help. Being an advocate can be hard but it can also be so so so so rewarding. Even reaching out here shows the amount of strength that you do have. Keep talking, keep reaching out, keep on being an advocate
March 30th, 2021 1:28am
Hey! I totally feel you- I am pansexual and nonbinary (she/they). I have often felt uncomfortable around homophobic straight people, especially when they are actively talking about the LGBTQ+ community. Something that has helped me, and might help you too, would be to find a group of other LGBTQ+ people or allies who will always be there for you to talk about issues you are having. Sometimes I even laugh about how ignorant the anti-LGBTQ+'s are. :) It will take time, but learning to love yourself the way you are and developing more self confidence will also help you. Just remember that you are loved, and anyone who is against the community is just a jerk.