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I hate being gay. Help?

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Last Updated: 11/04/2019 at 10:07pm
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October 1st, 2019 11:31pm
The first step is asking yourself why you feel like this. some people experience internalized homophobia due to a strict environment or fears connected to social reactions to homosexuality. These are feelings affect you on the emotional level, and you can fight it with rationality. Every time you feel bad, ask yourself: what is the logical reason why it would be wrong to be gay? Does it harm someone? Does it make me a bad person, deprive me of my good qualities, make me unable to love? With time and practice, you'll internalize the idea that you really have no reason to hate yourself. It can also help to get in contact with the LGBT community. Listening to their experiences can help you understand that gay people are just as good as any other people, and they can have normal and happy life and love, too.
November 8th, 2017 8:09pm
Self-love is hard whether or not you're LGBTQ+. Learning to love yourself when many people in our society say you shouldn't be a certain way is even harder. I would say one thing that will help is finding others in the LGBTQ+ community to talk to (whether through the subcommunity on 7cups or elsewhere doesn't really matter). It will help you feel less isolated and see others who are living their lives well in the same position as you. It will also give you a place to talk openly about your situation and perhaps find a root for this hatred so that you can deal with it directly.
December 4th, 2018 9:28pm
I think that you shouldn’t hate it. It’s good to be gay and it’s normal. You should accept that you’re gay and talk about it with other people. There are many websites on internet that are special for gay people. They organise special events and help you with everything. You can also make friends on those sites. If you have people that don’t accept you or hate gay people. Ignore them or talk about it. That’s the best thing you can do. Ask him why he or she hates gay people if you chose option 2. On this method you can understand other people. Good Luck :)🍀
November 4th, 2019 10:07pm
I know it can be hard to accept yourself after learning you are different from many people, but being gay is not something to be ashamed of. This is something that can't be changed no matter how hard you try, so it is best to learn to accept and love yourself. The LGBTQ+/MOGAII Support sub community is a great place to get questions answered, meet other people like you, learn about helpful resources, chat with listeners who can help you, and learn to accept yourself. I know it is hard right now, but I promise things will get better.
May 7th, 2018 7:28pm
Could you explain why you hate being gay exactly? I can understand that realizing something like that can be hard, it takes time to get used to the idea.