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I’ve been a girl for all my life but lately I’ve been asking myself if I’m a guy and the thought makes me happy but also terrified and I’m not sure what to do?

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Last Updated: 10/28/2019 at 1:32am
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October 28th, 2019 1:32am
If that thought makes you happy, it's worth looking more deeply into it. We should never give up on something that makes us feel happy, free and truly ourselves. I know it can be scary to think that you might not be what you always thought and been told you are. Most likely' it's because of fear of how people will react. But your life is yours, you have to live it the way you want to, other people have no right to decide for you with their judgement. Keep investigating your feelings. Imagine being a man and see how that makes you feel. Experiment with looks and pronouns, if you want to. Look for support from the trans community, share feelings and experiences with them, it will surely help sorting things out. Most importantly, never let someone stop you from pursuing the truth about yourself!
December 13th, 2017 11:38pm
It's natural to be scared if you are approaching a potential life-altering change. I'd find people you trust to talk through this with. Maybe experiment a little with your presentation and see how it feels to be more masculine. Do your research on different genders and see what sounds right. And it's totally okay to think you're one thing only to later realize you're something else! This is a journey of self-discovery and the more you learn about yourself, the more accurate you'll be able to pinpoint what labels might make the most sense to apply to yourself. If you have any more questions, feel free to join us in the LGBTQ+/MOGII subcommunity!
January 21st, 2019 2:30am
Do what is in your heart. If you changing your gender makes you happiest you should do it. It may be hard transitioning to a male but you will be who you truly are. Being transgener may be scary at first but you will be you and if anyone disagrees you can say that they can't change who you are, there are always people who may not accept you but that okay. there are Thousands of other transgender people around the world you can chat with or ask for guidance. Being trans could also be fun! you could change your hair and you clothes too. I hope you are happy