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When should I come out of the closet?

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Last Updated: 08/26/2019 at 11:37pm
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Top Rated Answers
December 28th, 2015 7:04pm
When you feel most comfortable. You don't want to make a hasty decision that you might later regret but you also don't want to let it weigh on your mind for too long.
January 4th, 2016 6:05pm
Whenever you feel comfortable. If you're in a dangerous environment, it might be best to wait until you're financially independent, if you aren't already. However, if you feel like the people around you would accept you for who you are then I say go for it whenever you feel that it's right.
January 5th, 2016 12:54am
you should come of of the closet at the time that you feel comfortable with, and when you feel like it will be safe for you to do so, you shouldn't let anyone pressure you into coming out, it's completely your choice as to whether you feel ready
January 25th, 2016 1:49am
I dont think people should have to "come out". people should just be able to say i am in love with this person and they are my partner. i dont think people should have to feel the need to announce it as a big deal when it really shouldnt be.
March 28th, 2016 6:43pm
When you feel ready. If you feel like it's the right moment, just do it. There's nothing stopping you if you feel comfortable with your sexuality and have accepted yourself.
May 2nd, 2016 1:46am
No one can tell you when you should do it, it's up to you:) Whebn you are ready and when you feel it's okey you do it!
May 17th, 2016 7:12am
Whenever you feel ready and safe. The first thing you should ensure is that you are safe and that you will be able to remain safe if you come out. If you are safe, then check in with yourself about whether you are ready. Don't let anyone pressure you to come out. Coming out is very personal and everyone comes out at different times and in different ways and that is perfectly okay. There is no right time to come out except for the time that feels right for you. Some people like to plan coming out a long time in advance, some people just get a sudden burst of courage and do it spontaneously, some people prefer to write a letter or send a text, and some prefer an organized conversation. Whatever and whenever feels natural to you, go with it. It's okay to be scared.
August 1st, 2016 11:25pm
You should come out of the closet when you feel ready. That's probably not the answer you wanted hear, but coming out should be done when you feel completely ready and secure in your identity. You'll know when you feel ready or when the moment is right.
August 16th, 2016 7:18am
When you feel most comfortable .You have to be ready mentally.Start by telling your friends till you gain enough confidence to face your family and be proud of who you are.
October 17th, 2016 3:36am
You should come out of the closet whenever you feel ready to. It all depends on what you feel like doing :)
October 25th, 2016 8:44pm
Whenever you feel that it is safe to do so. For instance, you may only come out to some people at school, or close friends, or just some family, rather than everyone at once or everyone in every part of your life.
September 5th, 2017 1:15am
Whenever you are ready. Don't force yourself, don't feel pressure from friends, family or culture. It is a very personal decision that shouldn't be rushed. Your sexuality is a personal thing between you and your significant other, don't feel pressure to be in or out of the closet. If you do happen to be in the closet though say hello to Aslan.
October 3rd, 2017 12:04am
Whenever you feel ready for it! You should come out when you think its the right time, when you want to tell people about it, its important for you to accept yourself for who you are before telling other people.
October 30th, 2017 3:13pm
There's no fixed time or age when you should come out of the closet! When you should come out of the closet completely depends on whether you would like to come out, how safe you feel coming out, and on a host of different factors that only you can determine for yourself. So, the truth is that only you can determine when you should come out of the closet, and it is a choice that only you can make. Please don't let anyone force or pressure you into it if you don't feel ready! Good luck, and please do message me or another listener if you feel like chatting!
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August 26th, 2019 11:37pm
Whenever you feel ready. Coming out is a very personal decision, there's no right or wrong time, one should only do that if and when they believe they're ready, when they feel like the uneasiness of opening up will be surpassed by the freedom of being able to express themselves openly. It's up to you to decide if, when and how and with whom to come out, you can take all the time you need.