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Why can't I love only one gender?

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Last Updated: 10/20/2020 at 4:36pm
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Top Rated Answers
April 25th, 2015 12:52am
You are made to love don't matter what gender it is, you're just that way, you found beauty as in women as in man, you are made to love a human being not just a gender, you are made to love someone else, your heart is so big that other gender could got in, feel proud :) Love your bisexuality.
March 8th, 2015 12:01pm
Because thats what being bisexaul or pansexaul is. And it is completly normal and fine and there is nothing wrong with you.
April 14th, 2015 7:18pm
You can only love one gender, if that is how you feel. If you feel as if you should love more than one gender, that is perfectly fine! Everyone is different, not only in pesonality and appearence, but also in their sexuality and gender. You may love as many genders as you please, as long as you are happy.
May 8th, 2015 11:55pm
loving more than one gender isn't wrong or bad, it's called being bisexual/biromantic or pansexual/panromantic, and there is absolutely nothing bad about that.
July 13th, 2015 8:58pm
There's nothing wrong with loving two to begin with. But maybe that's just you biologically. Some people are just like that.
September 14th, 2015 1:43pm
Both genders share an equal worth, so why not have an attraction towards both, right? Everyone gets confused at times and don't know which gender they prefer, and though it can be frustrating, there's nothing wrong with it.
November 2nd, 2015 4:21pm
Because that is how you have grown up to feel, being bisexual is just as normal to being straight.
November 3rd, 2015 3:52pm
Just as everyone`s personality is different, everyone likes different things x There`s nothing wrong with liking more than 1 gender, many people do :)
November 30th, 2015 3:38am
Bisexual is when you are attracted to either gender, and that is something that sometimes can feel out of your control as you don't really have much control over that. Less you specifically go out of your way to be repulsed by the gender that you don't want to be attracted to. Pan sexual is different that means you have the capability of falling in love with someone of either gender, but it's rare. Either way there is nothing wrong with this , unless you have to hide this in a country that doesn't have laws protecting your right to freedom and liberty. IF that is the case then you can either immigrate or stay and be extremely careful or you could choose to artificially try not to be attracted to whomever, as you have preferred your safety over your liberty.
December 20th, 2015 11:51pm
Loving more than one gender isn't something to be ashamed of it's something to be proud of you are different in a good way and that is a good thing.
December 22nd, 2015 1:24am
There isn't anything wrong with loving more than one gender. People are born with their sexualities, and it isn't something you can change, nor should you want to! There are many people who are pansexual, bisexual, polysexual, etc. :)
December 27th, 2015 2:03am
Theres nothing wrong with loving multiple genders, it's just the way some people are! Think about it this way, why are we raised to only love one gender?
January 4th, 2016 3:27pm
Love is not a strict, ordered thing. People can love any number of other people, animals, music, art, etc. There may be that one song that makes you feel so unbelievably positive that you almost want to cry. There may be a pet that you have that you love to the moon and back. Love is not fixed to one gender, species, or even life-force. I find it silly for people to discriminate against others of different orientations because love is not at all something you can easily control. It happens, regardless of any limiting factors present. To help you feel more comfortable, you could research some bi-/poly-/pan-friendly communities and see what others think of the situation.
February 22nd, 2016 2:18pm
Because there are so many beautiful genders and that would be a shame to not have a chance of loving more than one! ;)
March 7th, 2016 7:59am
Because it's the way you are - simple. You can't change who you love, and if that means loving more than one gender then go for it.
April 4th, 2016 10:43am
The reason I can't love only one gender is that I don't love based on gender. If I feel like I love a person whether it's a guy or a girl I don't care as long as there is love.
May 30th, 2016 6:37pm
It isn't a bad thing, you are either bisexual,polysexual or pansexual. It is perfectly normal to feel like this. If you are younger you might just be bi-curious and may settle on a gender as you become older.
July 4th, 2016 2:17am
You could be bisexual, nothing is wrong with being bisexual as long as your happy with the sexual choice that you have made and accept that that is who u are.
January 31st, 2017 2:18am
Because, as a normal person, you have your preferences and likes. There's a big variety, and you decide to give a chance to each option, which is good because at the end you'll know what you exactly like. And if you like both, it's okay. Those are your preferences, that sometimes we are born with, and can't be changed. But that doesn't mean that it's wrong. At all.
March 27th, 2017 12:30pm
You can never force your self to stop loving something you love. It's like asking why can't I only love one animal, if you love all of them know one can hold you back.. Cause that's what your heart wants. If you love both genders, you love both genders. Know one can ever stop you. Think as it like your favourite thing to eat, you enjoy.. Right? Just enjoy it. Can be hard if people are putting you down about it but put that be hide you and think this is who I am, know one is ever going to stop me. It will show the person your strangth and they will most likely fear that. There is nothing wrong with it at all.
March 5th, 2018 8:45pm
Because who wants only 1 option when you can have them all? Go with how you feel and have fun with it
February 24th, 2020 9:19am
There's nothing wrong with that. Just because most people love only one gender doesn't mean you need to do so. The world is such a diverse space that whatever exists in it is reasonable and rightful to be what it is. You may worry about people judging you, but as a matter of fact, most people are friendly and supportive. Embrace who you are, not what you supposed to be. I am sure you will find strength in your love for others, no matter what's the person's gender. and similarly, we love people for who they are,which has nothing to do with their gender.
October 20th, 2020 4:36pm
Coming in terms with your sexuality may sound scary but trust me, it's like taking a weight off your shoulders! Loving someone despite of their gender means that you love people for who they truly are! It's nothing to be ashamed of, on the contrary, it's something you should be proud of. One of the biggest purposes in life is to love and to be loved. But don't get me wrong, even if you did love only one gender, it's fine as long as you are giving as much as you can! Take your time to figure things out! Hope I was helpful!