How can I ensure my kids are always safe?
Last Updated: 12/04/2017 at 12:10am
Ann Brooks, MSW, LICSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
Thank you for your interest! I am a LICSW licensed in the Commonwealth of MA, NH, NJ, OR. I’m here to listen and I look forward to working with you.
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The first thing that people need to realize is that even with our kids, we cannot control every single situation. All we can do is use our knowledge and experience to do the best possible job to protect them. I also believe that the most important things we can do is give our children the tools to keep themselves safe. As young children, we teach them to hold hands while crossing a street but eventually we teach them to look both ways for cars before stepping out. We do this because we know that there may come a day where we are not there to protect them, and they will need their own tools. Another important tool is the safe word. After your children are older, such as pre-school to kindergarten age, teach them a safe word that only you, your child, and very close family or friends know. That way, if anyone were to try and pick them up or give them a ride; they could use the safe word as a protection against strangers.
There really is no way to ensure your children are safe at all times, unfortunately. However, you can teach them how to behave around strangers, or in certain situation that may be problematic, which could increase the degree of safety of your children.
Be active in their lives, Know who their friends are, know what there into and for that matter up too. Showing that you care in these ways had a tremendous effect. A second way is to educate them on issues like “stranger danger” and staying close by when out in public, know where there going and know where they have been. Teach them how and why and when to dial 911 if there’s an emergency. Make sure they know there address and phone number. There is no 100% way to ensure safety but creating a culture involving these things can help to ensure it.
The honest truth: You can't. My daughter was abused by her own grandfather when she was five years old. I instantly started resenting the entire world. If I can't trust him, who can I trust!? I only trust myself and my husband. Everyone else unknowingly goes through an interview in my head. I think about a person's family and friends and whether or not I see any evidence of issues below the surface. I talk with other people who know the person, and my motherly instinct helps me generate a decision. Watch your kids everywhere you go. Don't let them run around the store where you can't see them. Don't leave them in the car, even if you're just going in the gas station. Lock your front door even when your home. Install an alarm system. Don't hire random babysitters. That's just a few of the many ways to attempt to keep your children from harm. However, the key weapon you have is your own parental ability and inevitable love of your child.
First of all, you could keep a safe word..some sort of a password that only you or your kids know about..so that whenever any stranger tries to harm them or lure them into getting in to his car,,they should ask first what the password is...and also keep checking with the school authorities from time to time about your kids and to know if they are having any kind of trouble or if they are being bullied by anyone at the school..hope this helps :)
Unfortunately, the only way to do that is to lock them in a room with barred windows and watch them constantly. We all want our children to be safe, but the best we can do is to make sure they are well educated about this world and the people in it and you do your best to hone their sense of discernment. Your child will get hurt, get sick, and experience hard things, but it is your job as a parent to ensure that they are prepared for these eventualities.
No one can always ensure anyone's safety, and trying to do so can do more harm than good. The best way to keep your kids safe is to teach them how to be safe and stay safe. Teach them the skills they need to protect themselves, and give them the freedom to exercise those skills in appropriate settings. You can't always be there to protect them, but you can make sure they always know how to protect themselves, and that you will always be available to help them.
We can never ensure this, but we can implement ways to aid it. Suppport them and educate them on what dangers there are to face.
You cannot ensure they are always safe but you can teach them ways to be safe. Children need limits but when they get older, they also need some independence so that we are not helicopter parenting. I agree that there are so many scary things in this world and it is hard not to worry. Try not to project that worry to you children. They need to be kids while they can and have fun. Teach them safety procedures and what to do in case of an emergency. Tell them who they are allowed to ride with and have a code word for emergencies. Make sure they have appropriate supervision if they are young but give them some space to take risks and have fun. I read an article that showed research that middle school kids who take risks also learn more in school. So, although may ride their bike up a hill and fall down, they are learning. Continue teaching them about safety in all areas, water, stranger, and consider their age and maturity when leaving them alone. Ask a trusted neighbor to be available if you cannot if they need anything, they have someone else nearby to count on. Allow them to enjoy life while teaching them about safety. I try not to pass on my anxiety to my kids but it takes lots of hard work and practice for me to be able to do this. I want them to enjoy their childhoods like I did.
Why you can't always be certain what will happen when it comes to children, you can try to better prepare yourself and them. You can try to ensure your kids are safe by talking with them. You can incorporate a safety plan for your household. One that entails different safety measures to take for different dangerous situations. Whether it be from household, to strangers to public safety. Take the time to make the rules that you want to instill in them and want them to be aware of. Talk with them, go over the rules. Ask questions and allow them to answer. Allow them to ask you questions and be as honesty with them as you can be. Helping them to be prepared for different levels of danger and what safety measures to take will help you all to feel safer in knowing how to handle them if they arise.
Have a family chat at least 2 times a week. It is good to know you are worried about your child and I like to keep updated.
It is impossible to assure your kids are always safe. We are not God, after all. Of course, every responsible parent will take measures to ensure safety. This includes things like car seats, seat belts, bicycle helmets, and teaching them stranger safety. But there are always freak accidents. There are always wicked people with evil motives. There will always be incurable diseases. Such is life for both children and adults. It is one of the difficult things about being a parent. There will come a day when you will know, not just intellectually, but practically, the truth. Beyond the types of things mentioned, I, for one, pray for my children's safety on a regular basis. Even so, that doesn't mean that there aren't times that I fret and worry. The enormity of things that can go wrong can be overwhelming at times. Try not to focus on this, beyond that which will cause you to take necessary precautions. To overprotect, in my opinion, can, in the long run, actually cripple a child's ability to protect himself and mature properly. It is a tight rope between over and under protection, and no parent does it perfectly.
The sad truth is that you can't, you can however learn your kids to look after themselves. Its important for children to know how to handle certain situations in life because no matter how hard you try you can't always be there for them.
You can do the best you can but, life is very unpredictable, Try not to blame yourself if anything goes wrong.
Make sure they know how much you love them. This way they will understand that everything you tell them is in love and care. Give them freedom like a mobile, but the security to know how to use it should anything go wrong. Teach them about safety like walking home with a friend and not alone, and not to use paths or shortcuts in the dark.
You can take precautionary measures and advice from different sources: the local police, school, local doctor/nurse, online. But you can also teach your child a few things about how to be aware of their surroundings and trust their gut.
Contact them. I know many kids dislike when parents call them back to back checking up on them to see if they are safe. But an option you can do is tell them to call you when they get to a location and after a few hours its okay to check up on them to ask if they are okay. You can also tell them to call you when they are coming home so you know they are okay once they arrive and leave.
There is no 100% way to ensure that your kids will always be safe but depending on their age just make sure if they are old enough and they go out that they always have their cellphones on them. If they are younger and go to school you should be able to trust the teachers there that your kid will be safe at all times, It is their job to keep your kids safe during the school time and to teach them. Teenagers are a different story. They like to do what they want most of the time and enjoy the thrill of being dangerous but if you sit down and talk about the possible consequences with him or her they will most always understand, now there will be certain times when he or she wont care and sometimes you just have to wait for them to do something and then use those consequences.
Teach them the best you can and hope they remember your voice when questioning decisions. Kids are going to screw up and get hurt and it has to be okay, it has to be treated as a learning experience. There's no possible way to protect them from everything, but you can do your best to impart your knowledge about things you learned the hard way, and hope they don't make the same mistakes :)
You can do as much as you can to provide the advice and the protection that you can give. But always remember that trust and space should also be given to your kids to allow them to trust you. You don't want them to feel too overwhelmed with what you are doing to protect them.
To ensure your kids are always safe, make sure to monitor them. Not too much as to where it is suffocating for them, just enough to where you and your kid is comfortable
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