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What is the best way to lovingly discipline a child?

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June 3rd, 2015 6:12am
Disciplining a child depends a lot on the child. Parents can use rewards for showing appropriate behaviour and could go with mild punishment for showing inappropriate behaviour. Parents should be very careful with rewards and punishments, chose wisely.
September 24th, 2015 1:11am
Give them clear boundaries and expectations. Discipline techniques vary with age and a child's comprehension but the basic rules are either positive or negative reinforcements. Removing a child from the situation for a stated period of time or removing a favourite toy etc make consequences to not staying within clear boundaries simple and well explained with a set time they will last for.
March 3rd, 2015 12:34am
I have always talked to my kids about what is going wrong in the moment. If they're "losing it", I send them off for a time out. Time outs are not a punishment, but a chance to cool off, calm down and become ready to talk. Once they're ready to talk, we talk it out (if there's a consequence involved, it's implemented), have a hug, say sorry if necessary and move on.
April 14th, 2015 7:30pm
Research indicates that an authoritative style of parenting works best, which involves setting clear boundaries and expectations and never doling out consequences without explaining why. Check out the Parenting with Love and Logic series of books. It talks about natural and logical consequences to a child's behavior. for example, if a child runs with ice cream after being told not to, the natural consequence would be the ice cream falls on the ground. the logical consequence might be that he is not allowed to have ice cream for two days. Studies also indicate that time-outs have questionable effect and that spanking is not a necessary form of punishment, as it does not tend to work in the long run.
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May 11th, 2015 8:00pm
This is difficult because so many people believe certain methods of discipline are cruel and unusual. Since each child is different, you have to find the way that works the best for you. Show them that what they did disappointed you but that you still love them.
April 11th, 2016 2:06am
positive reinforcement & making sure that your child knows exactly what they did wrong. if you trust that they won't do it again, talking to them is sufficient. if you don't, take away some things or however you feel you would discipline correctly
May 15th, 2016 4:22pm
I have always been taught to spank a child if they get out of hand. Well I should say that is the way it was when I was growing up. I have learned in this day and age spanking is not the way to go for my child. I take away things that I know she loves so much like her cell, xbox, things of that nature. It seems to be working! Good luck :)
May 18th, 2016 1:41am
Being a parent is never easy.. But you need to have some keys to open your kids heart... You have to make clear boundries and rules .... but mark them with love and care... in each step you should explain them why u set this rule and how important it is to follow them... you have to bond with kids to make them comfortable and to observe them closely to understand their life better... be a friend than a parent.. always works :)
May 23rd, 2016 1:50am
People have different ways in disciplining their kids based on many factors for example the way their parents disciplined them or etc. The idea is to make sure you child know why u are disciplining him/her and what did they do wrong. To understand what is their mistake gives them more empathy then to just hit or scold.
January 24th, 2017 6:46am
The best way to lovingly discipline a child is to make them understand why you are disciplining them first. This would allow them to understand their wrongs and reflect upon them. Then choose a disciplinary method that is appropriate for their age and situation, such as tidying the dinner table after a meal.
January 27th, 2017 11:45am
1. To set consistent boundaries - this makes the child feel safe and comforted in the environment. 2. To allow the child to learn lessons, for example another child takes their toy away... if age appropriate ask the child how that felt and soon they will begin to recognise how it feels when they do that to others. 3. Time outs and make the child apologise and be accountable for their actions but in a positive way. Above all just nurture them but of course the discipline is so important too.
February 6th, 2017 6:06am
Sit down so that your eye is in level with the child's and talk to him/her in a soft tone and explain instead of command.
June 25th, 2018 2:09am
By setting clear bounderies. Speaking to a child with respect. Giving the child a way to choose how to behave.
April 20th, 2020 1:33pm
Practice what you preach... make them understand why you want them to act a certain way and most importantly understand why they do what they do. They are little people with their own logic sometimes making more sense than what ours adult ways. Either ways It is okay for them to mess up and also for us to not be able to do the right thing all the time. I think it’s more having a conversation when one things there is scope for none. Ensuring compassion when the patience is running out and forgiving everyone involved. Ourselves and children.