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I do online school and I have no friends, What should I do?

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Last Updated: 10/23/2023 at 11:39am
I do online school and I have no friends, What should I do?
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JenniM123
- Expert in Student Life
June 12th, 2017 9:07am
Maybe try out groups outside school, sports clubs, social clubs, do your online school in coffee shops and talk to a stranger. No one wants to feel lonely, there are more people that are in that situation than you think.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2017 7:35pm
I have found that the best friends I have made I have met through hobbies and interests, not through school or work. So get out there and find something that you love to do! It could be sport, something creative, whatever floats your boat! Also, remember that quality is more important than quantity - I truly believe it's better to have one friend you can truly talk to rather than 50 who might contact you once a year, probably on FaceBook, because Facebook has told them it's your birthday!
ZenGarden77
March 29th, 2017 11:16pm
Join community groups, try an online hobby site such as Meetup dot com, volunteer, or join interest clubs. Some churches also offer volunteer groups. Examples: Volunteering for an animal shelter or homeless shelter, joining a club where everyone likes your interests (fishing, photography, art, dance, gaming, etc.). You can also start your own club and advertise it. Websites are fairly easy and free to make from sites such as Wix. You can email schools to let them know about the clubs. Most online schools also offer clubs that meet in person as well.
gracefulPalm90
May 8th, 2017 4:38am
Online is a great avenue to meet new people if you are of a mature age. sometimes working very hard in school can make socializing hard. However, school is cool and meeting new people can occur by starting a study group or just reaching out to a classmate to see if you share common interests.
LouisaCT
November 27th, 2017 6:16am
Online school can feel very isolating, so try doing some other things to meet people and make friends? Some good things I have done to meet friends have been to join social media (Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook, etc), I have a Discord account that I've been able to meet people on and join Dungeons and Dragons groups and play games. Even though none of these are "in person" things, they can still help you meet lovely people! If you're wanting an in person social activity I HIGHLY suggest checking out the app "MeetUp".. you put in your location and it tells you social events in your community (or whatever community you choose) that you can go to also and meet new people!
FriendlyFennec
June 4th, 2017 2:54am
I'm also doing an online program at the moment. It can be tough to make friends since there's no face-to-face class time, or hanging out on campus, but many online programs have systems in place to help their students connect and meet. For instance, at my school, every course has an a "Student Lounge" forum that allows students to chat about extracurricular interests, set up study groups, and meet up at a location that is convenient for them. I've found that joining my school's Facebook page has been particularly helpful, as there are people within my city who are also in the program, so we've been able to meet up, discuss our common interests, network, and hang out. If you're looking for friends outside of school, you can look for programming or fun classes through your local community centres or libraries, volunteer opportunities at organizations that interest you, local events, or other such opportunities. As ZenGarden77 mentioned, the people there will, at the very least, share a few common interests with you, so they'll be prime candidates for friendship. I hope this gave you a few ideas!
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2020 5:10pm
I had a similar situation to yours, I still sort of do. I don't have many friends, only one close one. What I do is I go to the homeroom(In my school it's basically a skype/chatroom, you don't see anyone, only typing.) and if I see someone talking about a topic I enjoy, I webmail them(Webmail is basically an email, but specifically for my school) and I tyr to start talking to them, if they don't reply, or if we talk and then fade out, I know it wasn't a meaningful friendship, and I let it go, and move on. I only have had one of these(My now friend). I hope this works out for you. I also came to 7 Cups as some of the members on here are great people!
LeonZz
July 6th, 2020 3:59pm
Although I've always gone to school in real life I've moved schools often and have hence had to make friends elsewhere. Sports clubs or societies are amazing. Are you into football? If you join your local football team you're sure to make some acquaintances which can quickly turn into friends. Similarly, you could find part-time work or volunteer where you'll be around other people. If you feel lonely this instant you could try to find a discord related to an interest of yours. I'm a Psychology and neuroscience student so I'm in several related discords. I find that discord is very good as it has a convenient chat feature, I'm sure reddit and similar sites also work well though. Good luck!
Insightful3Unavailable
March 18th, 2017 1:01pm
Onlind schooling has its pros. And with regards to socialisation and making friends, it's good that you ask, as that's something we need also. You could try out doing volunteer work, which would be of benefit to you in several ways, such as getting to meet many people and finding friends. See if there's something you can do in the community or search on the net. You could even start up your own group and let people know. You'll find many like-minded people if you join a group or a club e.g. book club etc.
Nada
June 21st, 2017 2:14pm
Get involved in activities, maybe there are groups for home schooled students. Check if your online school has clubs as well.
LJSharp
November 20th, 2017 5:21pm
You could maybe try finding other people online who are in a similar situation to you. They are more likely to understand what you are going through when they are also going through it. I used to go on the website called penpal world. You can make friends online from all around the world. You can learn bits from different cultures too.
Anonymous
May 28th, 2018 4:58am
Find friends online. Online friends are sometimes hard to come by, but some people on social media are great to talk to.
MLHG
March 30th, 2020 1:09am
Online school is not, at all, conducive to building friendships, so odds are you will have to look elsewhere. I have found that it helps a lot to find a place online where you contribute to some common goal. Places like those tend to have ways to interact with others. It can be possible to find people IRL to meet with and try to become friends with, but this is a lot more difficult and I can not speak to its effectiveness. But if you're looking for people to kill time with and possibly build closer friendships, there are so many places to look, based on what you already like/do and what you want to do.
DigitalKnight
August 17th, 2021 6:44pm
Online schooling can surely get hard and troublesome, since that feeling of lacking social interaction and fun is terrible and despairing. Considering that getting some friends on campus is not possible, you can always try hanging out with your non-school friends. A casual stroll to the public park or a street might end up in a cool chatter with a stranger and before you know it, you will have a new friends. Other than that, you can always do things that you find fun, engaging in activities that you are passionate about. It could be working out, drawing, hanging out in the lawn etc. I hope you have some fun soon!
Lannylistens
October 13th, 2021 7:38pm
I totally get this question cause I too started my university experience online with no friends :( What you can do is try joining different social clubs be more active in class and message some of your classmates. Find out what hobbies and interests you share with your classmates and find a common ground. Joining different social clubs also gave me new friends along with many opportunities to grow. Being more active in class also sets you as a front runner and may be able to help those who are struggling sometimes. Forming study groups can also help to make new bonds and long lasting friendships in online school.
StanleyBorne
October 23rd, 2023 11:39am
I understand how challenging it can be to make friends in an online school environment. I've faced a similar situation. To overcome this, I started by actively participating in online class discussions, asking questions, and offering help when possible. This helped me engage with my peers and initiate conversations. Additionally, I joined online study groups and extracurricular activities related to my interests. It's essential to put yourself out there, attend virtual events, and make an effort to socialize with your classmates. Don't hesitate to send messages or emails to those you'd like to connect with. Building friendships in an online school takes time, but with consistent effort, you can form meaningful connections with your peers.