A family member thinks I am lying about where I am going but I'm not, what should I do?
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Updated: May 29, 2022
sempiternaldreams
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Jun 29, 2016
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Earn their trust, tell them where you are going and if they don't believe you, you can tell them whith who you're going and give them the number of that person so they can call you there and you can prove you're with them. Also, send them a picture if necessary. Do bring your phone with you so they can communicate with you if you have one.
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Nada
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Aug 26, 2016
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If you're not lying then there's nothing to be afraid of go where you would like to go you're doing nothing wrong at all.
Anonymous
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Jul 9, 2016
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I know that feeling. Once, I even had to take a photo of where I was just to get them to believe me. Maybe you could ask them to tag along if you want them to. But if you don't, you could tell them where you're going and if they don't believe you, that's their problem.
Anonymous
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Dec 7, 2018
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If a family member thinks you are lying about where you are going, then you probably have given them a reason to not trust where you are going. Allow your family member to stay in contact with you and always check in to reassure your safety. Family members do care, but they also know what it is like being younger to run off and do things that they are not supposed to be doing or lying about where they are going. Do not take it the wrong way or get upset about it, they truly care about you. If there are guardians or if they know a friend and trust that friend you are with, then the trust shall increase over time.
Sunisshiningandsoareyou
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Jan 7, 2021
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I am sorry you have a family member accusing you of lying, it can be upsetting when people close to us don't trust us or think that we are probably doing something wrong, when in the first place we're not and being honest about everything. So maybe ask the member what is making them feel that you're lying ? , and then depending on how they answer, tell them you're telling the truth and it's hurtful how they are still doubting on you...assure them, that they can trust you and you value them believing in you and wouldn't want to do anything otherwise. Maybe that could help them feel understood 💛
Anonymous
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Nov 9, 2016
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If you have any way to prove where you are going, that would be a good idea. I also think you should have a family talk with them so they understand more if you explain it calmly. I feel like maybe a tone could change their thoughts. Trust has a massive role in this, try and get it between you and your family! :)
emotionalfreak25
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Jul 21, 2017
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Remain calm. When you are accused of something, especially if you are telling the truth, your first reaction may be to get angry or defensive. Getting overly excited or frustrated, while a fair response to an accusation, can actually make the other person believe the accusation is true.When it's clear that you cannot convince this person of your honesty, ask for more information about why she seems to distrust you. Equipped with this information you can strive to be more trustworthy in the future.
SoulHealing
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Aug 11, 2017
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Whoever holds the truth should never be worried. You should just act naturally and stop worrying and if that family members insists just confront him politely and talk about his doubts clearly
Apollosdaughter
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Mar 30, 2018
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If that family member is not among your parents then make them believe that you are ture to your words, infront of that family member who doesnt believe you. If among them then seek help from either of the two.
Anonymous
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Apr 8, 2018
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Ignore them, you know you're telling the truth. If they are important to you the would trust and believe you
FriendlyNeighbourhoodOwl
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Jan 23, 2021
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I know how you must have been feeling if the person whom you are connected to wouldn't trust you. You can do everything in your power to communicate better and maybe prove it to the said member and find out where if there ever was, any kind of communication gap. But, in the end, all you can do is try. You cannot expect them to trust you. You are gonna have to accept that. Make peace with it.
Accept that the family member is not trusting you as of now. Try to earn their trust, and if the person still doesn't trust you, then you have done all you can.
Good luck
ShannonLstories1
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Apr 21, 2018
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Find out why they don't trust you and if needed let them take you to where you are going to prove to them you were telling the truth
sillyseraph002
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Apr 26, 2018
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first and foremost proceed with caution, and keep the importance of your safety at the forefront of the situation: make sure that at least one person who does believe you knows where you are going and what you are doing. secondly, if that person thinks you are lying there may not be much you can do to change that. if that person thinks that, then their trust has probably been betrayed enough in the past, that they have become cynical and disbelieving. you could try to show them through your actions that you are trustworthy, but I can't promise you that will work. not everyone can be convinced.
GratefulDreams
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May 1, 2018
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If you aren't lying, I wouldn't worry too much. It's up to them to believe you or not. You could always send your location from your phone, or take a picture of something that would prove you are not lying.
Anonymous
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May 2, 2018
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I would sit down and respectfully ask them why they are questioning me, and try to understand their point of view.
BrandonCares1074
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May 6, 2018
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You could message them proof the next few times you go somewhere and you will gain their trust after a few times.
Karmage
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May 10, 2018
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I've also dealt with this issue, stand your ground, you are your own individual; you know what's true from what is false, if needed, provide evidence. Some people, even someone within your bloodline, has a hard time trusting people.
Anonymous
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Jul 6, 2018
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Show him/her that you are a reliable person. Maybe trying to impress the family member by doing the dishes or something like that. It is probable that he/she thinks that you are not responsible and doesnt trust you.
Anonymous
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Jul 6, 2018
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Are they a close family member? Do they live with you? Support you? Take care of you? I don’t know your age but if you are a minor and this person does none of these things for you and you live with your guardian, the only person who should be questioning you is that guardian. If you are an adult and this person still does nothing for you, then they should mind their business. However, if you want to peacefully put this to rest, ask them to come along or text them a selfie at the place you are at and show them.
GAddams
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Jul 6, 2018
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Have you considered just taking them with you one time? If you show them where you are going, perhaps they will stop accusing you of lying.
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